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22 minutes ago, Raptorsin7 said:@Random witch I agree with what you're saying, and the issue is real. But I think you have a unconscious shadow of dislike/distain for some men, and that's what the men on the forum are reacting to. You aren't going to find too much compassion on here in that respect, so prepare for more pushback because people will likely dismiss your relevant points by questioning your motives etc
I wonder what do I need to do in order to prove you wrong? Do I have to write love letters for all of you? Do I need to fawn and shiver you with compliments? Are there any specific jokes that you want me to laugh at?
From what I see I act pretty neutral, I talk with respect to people and I'm pretty freindly with you guys. Anyone who ever DM me received a kind and polite response.
Are you bothered by my silly nickname? Or that's because I support feminism?
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18 minutes ago, something_else said:I get that. But it is very clear that you have an intense dislike of men which means you're going to start them no matter what
Very clear to who? To you?
Talking about women's struggles in society isn't "an intense dislike of men". Men here frequently share their struggles and people rarely accuse them for "starting wars" because this is the norm.
The vibe that I feel here is that people want to shut me up because I share uncomfortable things, aiming to gain people's awareness to certain stuff.
In what way women can do that without being accused for negative motives? And why do you feel disliked by me sharing common problems?
Instead of being bothered with me, be bothered with the subject I'm sharing and have an opinion on that.
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The concepts of Alpha, Beta, Sigma are pretty common among pickup artists, incels, red pill, MGTOW and many men precive them as a solid reality and a way to categorise and identify themselves.
This guy explains why the concepts of Alpha, Beta, Sigma are detached from reality and focus particularly on revealing the the real intentions and needs of men that identifed with being a sigma male, why more men identified with being a sigma male, and why it's so toxic and harmful for the psyche.
I find it pretty interesting to watch, as a women. He raised a lot of doubts that I had about all those hierarchy concept and sigma manhood in particular.
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5 hours ago, Benton said:I completely agree! I was wasn’t trying to imply that you or women are the specific aggressor. The points you made, made sense to me. And I think one of the people here was very close minded in comparison. I just try to come in with both perspectives so that neither side will feel misheard. And not like they are being attacked.
I failed at that apparently?I see what your saying. I want that for women as well! So badly. Once society has a heavier feminine influence on it I think a lot of our problems we have now will be aleived.
In one of my trips I was told that the feminine is so inclusive it includes the masculine. Because I was experiencing an entity that has appeared to me as both masculine and feminine.
I know it might just be my personal idea of what’s going on but. I think that womankind will be standing on the back of man.
I think as we become more conscious we will become more feminine. Because what are these things really? Femininity, masculinity.They aren’t our descriptions of them. They don’t necessarily have to be our idea of it. And I don’t think most people are conscious of what femininity is.
Women gaining voice and sway on influence. To me means the planet becoming a more conscious place.
The more inclusive a thing is the more conscious it is. And that is why I suspect femininity is a more conscious approach to life.
I see what you've tried to do, I don't came to you with accusations.
I respect your opinion, which sounds for me pretty advanced in comparison to the average man.
You understand that embracing femininity will lead for good to everyone.
Only with embracing femininity men can embody healthy masculinity, unfortunately many men still don't get it and push femininity far away, harting women and themselves.
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5 minutes ago, Benton said:Instead of talking about how the aposing gender is bad. Why don’t we work to understand each other? Why do men harass women like this? Why do so many men just think that women are entitled and asking for special treatment? Things in society and culture, have been primarily masculine dominate in our way of doing things. This doesn’t just apply to men but women as well I think to an extent. At least I’m western cultures. Indian culture acknowledges the feminine a bit better.
In western culture we are moving from blue/orange into green. These are all mixed still obviously. Stage green comes with the emergence of more feminine values. And we have a hard time with change culturally. The Christians hated the sex, drugs, and rockn roll thing. As well as people relying on science more than religion.
Orange is very evidence based and rationale. As well as masculine. Most of the stages before green where pretty masculine. And I think this is because masculinity is a bit more survival driven and I think that was necessary for humanities early development.
With the emergence of green and feminine values. A lot of women are realizing how they’ve been getting treated by society and culture and how they are viewed by it.
And a lot of resentment comes up with it; which is pretty natural. A lot of orange people feel resentment, when they realize what the religion they where indoctrinated into really is.And the people in blue didn’t like the orange people leaving them!!! And having ideas that combated their own!!
Its the same with a lot of men in culture today. They are used to the masculine way of doing things and don’t like this shift in focus. Orange doesn’t place as much value on emotions as green. So green seems overly sensitive to them.
That’s where I think this resentment is coming from with the two genders.
Many men are not in touch with their femininity. And that makes understanding feminine entities difficult because it’s an aspect of themselves they repress. A lot of women today are really fed up with masculinity and want nothing to do with it. Because they can see how they’ve been indoctrinated by culture in certain areas.A healthy human has integrated both their feminine and masculine side.
The duality of the two genders is collapsing and that’s why we are getting so many lgbtq people these days.
Lots of green men havnt integrates their masculine side as well. And this makes it difficult for quite a few women to be attracted to them.
Im kind of running out of brain juice now. I can’t tell if that was a rant or what not.
But let’s try and have a discussion where we build understanding on why things are this way in our culture. Instead of judging eachother. We’re all going through it. Let’s have compassion.No clue if that helped or made things worse. I have much to learn in communicating with people.
It's a post from women's perspective, in a forum dominated by mainly stage orange-green men.
It has nothing to do with blaming or judging anyone in particular.
I see that men are get triggered by those kind of stuff since it's not the first time I do that, but if you are interested in a real self awareness and improvement, if you precive yourself as a modern and open minded man, you should handle it.
The point is that women want to connect to men, genuinely. And we also want to be free in the world as much as you, we want to have the privilege of relative safety and the right for self actualization as much as you. We want to feel heard and seen, seriously taken by you, get real opportunities, and not just be objectified, ignored or ridiculed as often happens.
The compassion has to come from both sides, but especially from men towards women, because the main problem in society is women and femininity hatred.
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5 minutes ago, Tudo said:I got you.
Men: bad
Women: sweet inoffensive creatures.
I'ma Mechanical engineer, and in my daily professional life, almost all my coworkers are men. I don't even talk or look at the women, I won't change the way I am in my work just to make these entitled feminists happy.
Women are the real entitled ones.
Have you watched the entire documentary before your reactive response?
Have you ever wondered why most of your co-workers are men?
Have you ever wondered why most people in power positions are men?
Not because of women's "entitlement" for sure.
I'm not trying to demonise vs idealise men and women, I'm not interested in gender wars.
I'm interested in displaying real difficulties and struggles that women are going through, I don't deny men's struggles either. Why talking about women's struggles caused by men makes you so angry?
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24 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:Harrasement is no surprise, when you're working in a space dominated by losers, basically. Honestly, who else got the time to watch twitch streamers? This is not so much about male entitlement, but about desperation and lack of purphose/real hobbies.
Just be a cool fucking dude, and no women will ever feel threatened by you. Simple.
This phenomenon happens not only on Twitch but in any field dominated by men in various manifestations.
It's not a behiviour of aimless and bored men only.
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Rock starts are cool, it's hard to be indifferent to them, not all of them but many. They have something within them that is hard to find in ordinary men. Maybe because they know how to convince that they are deep, complex and emotional without being threatened losing their masculinity, and simultaneously, they handle masculinity very well. It seems like they are so free and careless, which is so contagious. It always inspired me and opened something within me, something that the ordinary men never want me to be ever aware of. Something that the ordinary men wanted to squeeze or sweep under the rug.
Passion, freedom, courage, authenticity. Those associated for me with rock stars, with rock & roll in general. I get why we women are so drawn to them. We lack of this energy in our lives, we want this for ourselves, all the things that society suppress and demonize within us.
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1 hour ago, MarkKol said:1. That's a Great tip, will do.
Good luck!
1 hour ago, MarkKol said:2. Creativity? Courage and adventurousness? Those are red?? I don't know about that one.
Yes! Every stage has its gems.
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I'm vegan for conscientious reasons.
I take b12.
I'm healthy, my hair looks amazing, skin is fabulous, no dark circles under the eyes, no acne, no gut problems. Overall health is stunning, blood tests are good, energy levels are high.
It's as if I took an indirect path to avoid so many common health problems of people today.
I think that eating meat and dairy products today has almost no benefits, only damage to health and environment.
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2 hours ago, Arcangelo said:FYP
Understanding women is what redpill knowledge is all about.
You mean to thinking that you're understanding women. Which is a form of self denial.
It's so funny that red pillers see themselves as "lovers of truth" but they subscribe to one pardaigm from man's perspective only. How pity.
If you love truth that much let's see you, how far you are ready to go to see the real big picture, which is more complex and is beyond all the red pill shit. In order to do that you must read what women have to say, you can't avoid or ignore it if you really interested in truth.
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12 hours ago, Karmadhi said:How is this related to females hating neediness though? Are avoidant men more attracted, at least short-term?
I didn't read books about this model and my understanding is shallow, but from what I know, secure attachment style isn't related to neediness. Needy behaviour related to anxious attachment style.
Often people with anxious attachment style attracted to people with avoidant attachment style, it applies to both men and women, maybe this what you're looking for?
People with a secure attachment style, especially the youngest ones were always associated (at least for me) with those people who have a stable romantic relationship (of 2 years and more) and a solid circle of close friends. I think that the majority of people with this attachment style, don't have a need or reason to be active one dating apps (if you relay on them).
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42 minutes ago, itachi uchiha said:lol
Why do you need women when you have those red pill role models?
I'm sure that if it was possible, they would love to repreduce with you and create even more than 3 children, (including raising them until 18), you know, "for the cilivilazation", unlike those "evil" feminists.
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5 minutes ago, itachi uchiha said:the guy i am posting below is redpilled and i bet every woman will wait in line for him. u will be charmed by his speach and he is redpill legend
This dull, banal men? Do you call those "legends"? It's a joke my friend, a complete joke, a facade of masculinity, I sense insecurity in any word and gesture. But if you're attracted to it, what can I say?
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3 minutes ago, itachi uchiha said:lol
is this serious
if u r sincere then u need to wake up.
I am sincere. One day you'll understand it, maybe not. Anyway, I wish you to see beyond your primitive egoic world view.
Let's see you telling a woman that you're romantically interested in that you're into red pill, assuming she heard about it, her vagina would crack out of driness. Just by hearing it. I promise.
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7 minutes ago, itachi uchiha said:if a man study feminism and redpill, he will not reproduce and have childern. and if we do not reproduce children then next generation will not happen and humanity will be over. studies show that a couple need to reproduce 3 kids for civilization to advance and in societies where feminism is applied , couple are producing only 1 kid
If a man study feminism, it means that he is an intelligent, open minded and that he cares about understanding women and having an healthy relationship with women. It doesn't mean that he won't get married and reproduce.
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5 hours ago, Karmadhi said:So, i have been reading the book "Attached" by Dr Amir Levine, which is about the 4 attachement styles. I have noticed that what often people, especially in the dating advice world, consider "non-needy" behaviour is quite similar to the avoidant style. Waiting days to respond to messages, playing games, trying not to look desperate etc. Meanwhile the secure attachment style tends to be more on the "good guy" category. So stuff like not playing games, being very straightforward, showing interest head on, being a good communicator, etc. A lot of the dating advice out there that i have seen seems to favour the detached avoidant player style over the secure one. The book even calls the secure style "boring" compared to the rest since it will not give high emotional and lows which females tend to be attracted to, in a very toxic way. Esepcailly the anxious ones. So will being an avoidant and so detached only work with anxious females?
Is my interpretation wrong? Is this the case? I would really like some opinions on this.
Secure attachment style attracts secure attachment style.
The other unhealthy attachment styles attract eachother.
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15 minutes ago, itachi uchiha said:But Feminism destroyed marriage
Feminism destroyed (and is destroying) toxic dynamics between men and women, which is a good thing.
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Red pill paradigm belongs to dull, insecure and characterly unattractive men.
The same with men who are addicted to porn and go to prositutes and strip clubs.
Just makes me want to vomit
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On 2/17/2022 at 9:37 PM, patricknotstar said:It is very easy to villianize someone because that way you don't have to empathize with them, and to empathize can be painful. To feel someone's suffering, it is much easier to paint a negative image.
A good example is incels. By definition all an incel means is to be "INvoluntarily CELibate." Many men are incel not because they are inherently bad people , or hate women but simply because of neurodivergent disorders or their appearance. Sex is ultimately the exchange of DNA and women do select men based on genetic indicators of fitness , I'm sorry but if you think only men can be superficial and care about appearances you're severely misguided. It's not even superficial but just evolutionary instinct, sexual selection keeps the gene pool healthier and females of most species are the selectors. ( example Bonobos)
Now i'm not saying you have to a model or millionaire to get a girlfriend, but there is definitely a threshold men must meet to enter the dating market and have any chance and some men simply don't meet it. It doesn't matter how kind , intelligent or interesting they are , simply due to circumstances out of their control they will never have much success with women. This is a reality it's not fair , brain cancer isn't fair , dwarfism isn't fair etc...
So not all incels are bad people , some are good people who were just dealt a bad hand. The same way many men who have great success with women and dating can be horrible people.
It might be true that not all inceles are dangerous, bad, toxic and deluded. It also might be true that not all non-incels are healthy angels who accept women as full human beings and strive to have a healthy relationship with women.
In general, all humans "deserve" empathy because all humans suffered, are suffering or will suffer in some way. But we live in this world where we create most of our suffer, we also have our limited egos, biases and preferences and it's difficult to spread empathy to people who are luck in social skills and aren't taking responsibility to improve it or to compromise on women at their league.
Sometimes when I have those "glimpses" of compassion I empathize with them, because they're missing very important aspects in human's life like social interactions, sex and intimacy, it's sad that there are people who never experienced it nor ever experience it because of various, internal and or external reasons.
I just don't feel comfortable when they put the blame on women, I don't like to feel like I own them sex and romantic attention without them do some real effort to get it. I also don't like that they expect women to empathize with them while they can't emphasize with women, only to demonize women.
I would love to see a real brotherhood, menhood, not the fake one that accepts "alphas" only, but the kind that cares about all men. I would love to see an enterprise of non-incel men building some community to teach incels (and men in general) social skills, self esteem, even do trauma work and connect to their masculinity in a healthy manner. But it's not happening, perhaps because most non-incels have no reason to do that, they don't care nor feel like it's their problem. Perhaps because of the fact the most non-incels aren't conscious enough and are struggling with some issues themselves, perhaps because non-incels secretly prefer incels to exist because it makes them look less worse compared to incels.
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4 minutes ago, Loba said:@Random witch How is materialism worshipping death, I guess I don't understand. What are your opinions?
Death is life...
It really is. How can materialism worship it?Keep in mind Sam is a narcissist. Can his word really be trusted? Even as a genius?
The physical stuff that people are attached to, material property like cars, houses, clothes, gadgets. They are all "death" unlike people, relationships, and life itself that is dynamic, mysterious, unexpected.
"Death is life" in the absolute sense it's true, but relatively not.
I know he is a narcissist and it's quiet fascinating that he's so aware to it and on the other side it's not surprising because it's pretty common for some narcissists to brag about it.
He's word still can be trusted, although he might have some inaccuracies (not because he's a narcissist but because he's a human) he says pretty obvious stuff but in a direct way.
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9 minutes ago, Loba said:@Random witch Agreed, wise comment. We need both, you must view death as a companion that helps you to view life in it's fullest form.
That's true. Ironically at the same time we afraid and in denial about our physical death. Trying to delay it by technology. Our culture doesn't have healthy relationship with physical death.
At the same time we're worshipping the death without knowing it consciously, we're thinking we live life, we sure that this is how life is, but it's only a materialistic paradigm.
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5 hours ago, Yarco said:I agree with him that we are living in terrible times. I disagree with some of his reasons for why this is / I think he missed a few major factors why this is. I think we need more splitting in specific ways to return to a state of peace, not less. I disagree with his idea that owning material things is worshiping death. Or that worshiping the dead is bad. Most cultures venerate their dead and those that came before. His idea that all magical and occult thinking disappeared after the enlightenment and is only now making a comeback is also incorrect.
Splitting might be an essential thing to our development, I agree, and at the same time it's one of the dominant players in our current chaotic situation.
What I understood from his talk about worshiping death is that we only worshiping the death materialism and put it above life. It creates such a situation when there is no balance between the material and the spiritual as it should be.
When he talked about the occult and magical thinking he means to all the shallow, nonsensical stupitish new age stuff like astrology and wishful thinking.
I didn't agree when he implied that it's a bad thing we all are too focused on the now rather than the past and future. It's not accurate. I don't think that he fully understands what it means to live in the now.
It's true that we live in an era of instant gratification and we expect everything to be fast and instant, but at the same time most people aren't live in the now but in past and future, identified with their egos, false selves which is also accountable for many current problems.
5 hours ago, Loba said:You have to "worship" death to appreciate life.
What is happening now is that we are too worshiping the death and ignoring life, avoiding life, escaping life, finding our lifes meaningless, empty, seek external fulfilments, too obbssed with materilism and "stability" that we forget to live the now, take risks, accept the dynamic and mysterious nature of life. We should balance between the two.
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What is the solution you offer for me to not being perceived that way? Maybe it's just a projection of your collective egos in action?
I want to be free from men's gaze, from judgment, on streets and everywhere. From the obsessive judgement of my appearance as a woman and deciding my value by my beauty only, that eventually will fade. I want to be free to be a full human being with virtues and flaws, around men without being perceived as an immediate threat, without being ridiculouled and ignored.
I want men to see beyond the fact that I'm a woman, I want to be taken seriously, in work and any field that dominated by men. I want to be encouraged and not being pushed back.