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Your response was really good btw, i think it gave a good overview of the root of these issues. The thing is the victimhood, identity politics is the same on all sides with all sides attacking each other and laying blame. But if people could actually just talk and let go of these mindsets sooo many problems could be sorted out. I think our misuse of technology must be the cause of so many mental health issues. Dr K is great as well I watched his conversation with an incel and you could see how this mindset developed from real things that happened, was eating away at this guy.

I agree that in a good relationship both of you will care about the others emotional well-being, this is very important. Sometimes this is not possible, some people are not able to do this because of their issues or whatever the reason might be. There is no judgement against them but obviously you might not want to have deep relationships with people like this as you will be doing the heavy lifting. But the issue with a lot of lonely men is not that they're making lots of friends that are not good at looking after them emotionally, it's that they're just not talking to anyone at all in real life. Whilst simultaneously blaming others for their situation online. So in this case they do need to put themselves out there and work on themselves in terms of being able to look after someone emotionally, so that when someone does come along who can do the same they will be able to receive them. I've worked with teenagers who have problems meeting people and socialising and a lot of the time if not all, it's fear of putting themselves out there. That fear can be so strong that they look for online where they can find some external thing to blame. Redpill has gotten so popular because it does just this. But this dynamic is not unique to lonely men, there are some incredibly toxic female spaces as well. The solution we found is to encourage the teenagers to come together, setup groups activities etc and the change was incredible to say the least

When you make friends you dont straight away have a deep relationship where people are going to take responsibility for your emotional well being. Youre not going to connect with everyone, but obviously the pathway to having deep connections is to start off with acquentances or shallow friends if you like and then develop the ones that are compatible with you into deeper relationships. Any friend you make is not going to be deep straight away it just doesnt work like that and never has. You build trust, connection, love etc its not a given. Any friend ive ever made started off shallow and then built on that. Its not even a given that you have close relationships with your family that has to be worked on and built as well. If you go into relationships with expectations that someone should look after your emotional well-being of course you will be lonely.

The guy in video is not necessarily looking for a girlfriend, this can be done by approaching men as well or just approaching to make friends. Either way you can see that the guy become more positive by the end of the video. As I said your approach is shaming male invalidation out of existence then men will not feel lonely, my approach as shown in the video is get out and talk to people which not only in that video but that guys whole channel of 100s of videos where lonely men develop skills to become less lonely. That is hard-core proof that what I'm saying actually works, where is the real life proof of what you're saying working? Can you not at the very least concede that what I'm saying works given the evidence?

How would your way get better results than what's going on in that video in which it is literal proof of what I'm suggesting actually working in the real world in real time for a lonely man. Can you show me evidence of how your way has ever worked and how a lonely man has become less lonely using what you suggested in this thread?

I'm gonna leave this video here, if you actually want men not to be lonely this is the kinda shit you need to encourage them to do. Notice in the video how he started off crazy nervous and as he did it more he became more and more confident and positive and managed to get numbers even. It would've been easy for him to stop after 1 or 2 terrible interactions and blame the people for it but in reality it was him feeling uncomfortable and making others feel uncomfortable.

@mr_engineer I get the sense from you that you know everything you need to and are set in your way of thinking, so I'm not sure how fruitful this discussion is but thanks for the back and forth anyway

@mr_engineer Being alone is a relationship problem but usually that means that there are things the person who's alone has to work on. Why is it other people's responsibility to be 'better' and adjust to that person? Even if youre convinced that's a thing that should happen why would anyone do it? Are you actively being better to help the grievances of women, or are you learning about racism for black people's issues? Or how about Muslims that feek persecuted are you being better for them? Probably not because most people don't work like that. Also you calling stuff out online makes no difference to the lonely persons life at all, if they start calling people out do you think these women are gonna go, 'I've just been called out by a lonely man online, I'm gonna rethink everything and seek out lonely guys to be friends with'. You live so outside of the real world its hard to have a reasonable conversation with you, which seems to be a pattern of your interactions at least on this forum. So if you personally are deep down wanting to connect with people I can see why you might have problems with the mindset that you have. But either way I'm not judging and if it's working for you and you feel happy about calling out all the wrong you perceive then keep going. Everyone is different I guess.

@mr_engineer Btw you on your bullet points you only had one that was directly part of your life, but I wasn't necessarily talking about you I was saying in general, the people complaining about these 'injustices' can easily live real life without ever really coming into contact with them regularly. Bigger point, don't you think everyone has to go through injustices because of their given identity. Black people have specific struggles, I've personally been stopped by the police numerous times for no particular reason. Women have their struggles, I was at a party just this weekend and one of the guys was bordering on harassment in his pursuit of women at the party. Men of course have struggles as well I'm just saying the solution to these problems is not bitching about another group that you think has more privilege than you, it's to make the best of the hand you've been dealt. You probably don't care that much about the struggles of other groups and that's normal because they don't affect you in the same way. I'm not saying struggles don't exist, I'm just saying this strategy of trying to shame others of caring about your specific struggle is just not gonna work. As I said lonely men need to do what they need to do and is within their influence to get out of that situation if they are not happy about. Blaming others is just enabling them to stay where they are. It's like if you're fat and unhealthy and not happy about it, blaming people that call you fat is not gonna get you healthy, it might feel good shaming people but your arteries are still clogged up

If your problems only exist when you look at your phone or computer and not in your everyday life then the solution should be obvious. How many feminists are minimising you or telling you to change as you go about your day to day life in the real world? Probably none therefore these are not real problems unless you want them to be. Or what about look at your phone but avoid the algorithm that let's you feel like a victim by blocking those channels. This is not hard.

You can call it what you want, what I was giving you is a masculine, problem solving response, which is the kinda response that ironically is demonised in feminist circles. Just because you label a response something it doesn't mean it's not valid. The point is what gets results, meaning what is actually going to help men out of their situation. Your solution seems to be let's call out women that criticise men online, I guess bu leaving comments or posting on forums. My solution is men should get out, maybe go to the gym, get therapy, meet people, don't get involved with culture wars or looking for online enemies or people that enable them online. Essentially I propose taking responsibility you seem to proposing blame. People are free to choose what they think works and I would suggest try both ways and see what leaves you less lonely.

If you are happy being lonely and people are putting you down for that then I can somewhat understand how maybe attacking back makes sense. But the key here is that men don't want to be lonely, it's not something they are proud about and are celebrating, in fact they hate the situation their in and some can even go to the extent of killing themselves because of it. So you can shut down as many people saying negative things as you like, you can ban them from discourse but men will still be lonely it doesn't solve the underlying problem. What does solve the underlying problem is having positive role models, is getting out there, pursuing things etc. What doesn't is constantly arguing online with feminists. Also as I said previously, for every group imaginable there are people speaking online who don't like that group. Should we shut down everyone that ever speaks against a group? Who cares just get out and make your life better, the online world is so different from the real world, you dont encounter probably 1% of the back and forth culture wars that exist online so in actual reality you are free to change your situation whenever you want, what keeps you not changing your situation is this belief in the boogeyman holding you back. Bullshit bro, man up

Topics like this always come down to are you blaming the world or are you taking responsibility for your situation? Internet culture is vast in that you can find enemies anywhere no matter who you are or how you identify, there will be people speaking about how they dont like women, how they dont like men, how they dont like black people, asian, muslim, whatever you identify as you will find someone who doesnt like you. This is partly why people spend so much time online because there are people questioning their very existence as their identity and there are also people validating there existence and defending them against these enemies. We watch this play out as if theyll be an ultimate winner or loser and we get happy when our side wins a debate or an exchange. In reality none of this matters, men might be lonely for a number of reasons but its up to each individual man to work why that is and what he can do to change. Whats funny is taking responsibility for yourself is supposed to be a masculine trait, but it seems in this instance that these lonely men want people to feel sorry for them so its a bit of a contradiction. Now maybe there could be elements where the current social landscape is not favourable to men, but shit happens, I agree up in England as a black male, ive never felt the social landscape was in my favour, so it happens to everyone, its just how you deal with it. Do you become better or do you become bitter? Lonely men need to work out what they can actually do within their own bubble, can they try and meet more people, can they go to clubs or take up hobbies that help them socialise around common interests? If youre sitting at home watching content about how no one cares that youre lonely obviously your not making any moves to remedy that situation. Also this criticism isnt limited to lonely men, this can be for women who blame men for their problems as well, essentially anyone that blames externally and feels that the solution is to bring down another group, you can do it i just dont see how it help your situation.

In theory the scamming men part is illegal as well but it might be a bit complicated to prosecute. I guess it would be more of a moral issue at this point but in the discussion with the psychologist he rationalises by saying he helped lonely men talk to women

Well biologically it's when a boy goes through puberty and becomes an adult which is the actual answer. But I would say a boy becomes a man when he is no longer reliant on other adults directly for his survival and takes responsibility for himself.

I'm making the point that a male dog doesn't have to be anything other than a male dog to be considered a male dog so why is there extra criteria for a 'real' man? Might be more accurate to say what's a successful man or a morally good man

Reading up on it, it's not necessarily aliens it could also be another species of human that died out (probably killed) from 1000s of years ago, so that's a possibility as well

What's a real male dog?

Tbf that is speculation, of course its possible but it also wouldnt surprise me if the total of his assets was what was seized. Also if it is offshore its pretty much useless as if he tries to extract anything the cops will be onto him, either way even if he had the 25 mill which is unlikely theres very little chance that he would be able to access and donate it even if he wanted to, which i dont think he really wants to. All of this is just an attempt to clean up his image

This is from an article about what was seized by DIICOT when the brothers were arrested. Basically amounts to £10 mill mostly in the car collection, but also crypto, properties, watches and other luxury goods. It is possible he has some money hidden somewhere, but it still wouldn't make sense him donating 25 mill as if he's only claiming he earns a certain amount, donating 25 mill would definitely raise some eyebrows from the authorities. "The DIICOT indictment suggests his fortune is much smaller, however. According to the source quoted by The Sun Online: 'The biggest assets of Tate brothers are their cars - which are estimated to be around £8 million. 'Their houses and lands are also estimated at more than £2 million,' they added. 'As for their account,' the source told the publication, 'further investigations are to be made, as there is also another file on their names for money laundering, a file which is far from being ended.' The assets listed in the indictment include: '15 lands and buildings located within the [Romanian regions] of Ilfov, Prahova and Braşov, 15 luxury cars, 14 luxury watches, 2 ingots and a medal, the social shares owned within 4 commercial companies.' It said the shares within four commercial companies were in different currencies, in the amounts of 86,580 Romanian lei (£15,000), 52,650 euros (£45,000), 17,430 US dollars (£13,500) and 10,370 British pounds - a total of around £84,000." https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12215109/amp/Andrew-Tates-10million-fortune-seized-Romanian-cops.html

@Optimized Life Just to be clear, the issue isnt that he has a webcam business, the issue is that he got women to work in it through deception (pretending hes in a relationship and wants to marry them) and kept them there through controlling their finances, holding passports, blackmail etc. These things are highly illegal obviously. If he had just asked women maybe already in the industry and negotiated a deal with them that's fine but of course those women wouldn't work for next to nothing and could leave whenever they wanted, which is not what Tates wants of course.

The defining question would be how much did he donate before he got locked up? If hes only donating after then obviously its a pr stunt to make him look like the good in the eyes of the public. The other alternative is that he suddenly realised he should give back after becoming a muslim coincidently around the same time he got locked up. Even if that was true why it would be haram not repent and admit all hes done, he also tried to influence witnesses and attempted to bribe Romanian politicians according to wiretaps from his conversations from jail, so not really buying the 'i converted so im a good guy now'. The other thing is theres no way he even has 25 mill and if he did he would definitely not donate that much. What people that support him dont seem to realise is that he lies a lot. Even something as superficial as his childhood chess career he lied about that, its one of my favourite lies of his as it literally makes no sense See around 12:22 for the chess story

This is something I've noticed in myself, specifically when people knowingly brainwash people and not only take their money but get them to believe fully in whatever bullshit they're trying to peddle. I find it so frustrating to talk to people who have gone done these rabbit holes and try and show them how this is harmful. But what I'm learning is that truth and karma always seem to come through in the end. Look at how much work people like Tate and Iggy have to do to sustain their truth for their means and ultimately it still doesn't work, truth is so powerful and its undefeated. Every grifter I've seen rise up always crashes down hard. During the pandemic I got really annoyed with Brian Rose who was taking money, millions literally, from his followers because of some bullshit freedom of speech crusade, now his channel with 2 mil+ subs, struggles to get even a few hundred views per video. I think you have to just detach as much as possible and let reality just do what it's going to do.

Speaking to a camera by yourself, for an intended audience in of itself is inauthentic because youre not directly communicating with someone so you are in a sense pretending to connect. You will also be aware that youre trying to keep peoples attention, youre trying to portray a certain image, as well as convey whatever message your sending. So theres a lot going on. Its hard to find people in life but especially on youtube who would be 100% authentic, even if theres a 'dont give a fuck' attitude, that can still be a character. All that to say, the woman in the video just might not be good at being 'authentic' to the camera but might still have a valid message or even normally be authentic. We would have to see her in real life

It is the opposite, the change to society over the last few decades has been women being given the rights, both legally and socially, to do what men traditionally did. The pill and other contraceptions mean that they can have sex without the risk of getting pregnant. They now have equity in the workplace and there is no social repercussions for them prioritising a career over family. So women now, don't need a man as they mightve before. Men still need women in the same way as before as we haven't filled in the gaps left by women as they've filled the gaps left by men. So the issue is actually developing updated roles for men. But ultimately men and women do need each other, even if we can fulfill the practical things for survival by ourselves, I think to really prosper and develop we need each other