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@Vrubel Do you know who Johan is though, like is it conformed he's not her brother or something like that? Either way she doesn't seem to be showing a lot of investment but as Leo said this isn't really unusual after a 1 or 2 dates, the most investment you can hope for is that she agrees and goes to another date until you have sex. It is really weird, if you have a one night stand and you don't even know them that well, they will be 100x more invested than if you went on 3 dates and know their middle name and first job, but didn't have sex

accurate though

What you're saying sounds butthurt

Feels like you do, you make a lot of posts about nice guys being treated unfairly

Ill tell you this no girls regardless of quantity of brain cells, are sending love letters to nice guys that complain that girls are only attracted to assholes. OK nice guy, well covered

Nicely stated Are you saying that women dont send romantic letters to male prisoners or just do it for publicity? Prisoners get a lot of letters btw. But I like how you dismiss every bit of information to suit your personal narrative. I think youve got some quite good advice in this thread, so take the time to actually absorb it.

YES Alex Murdaugh who is doing 2 life sentences for killing his wife and son receives tons of emails from women wanting to be with him - https://nypost.com/2023/04/28/alex-murdaugh-receives-scores-of-love-letters-in-prison-i-have-become-obsessed-with-you/ Probably not the best women but still.

Jack the Ripper probably got chicks, problem is he killed them. But yeah psychopaths and sociopaths usually do quite will with women If you say so, everyone has a bit of asshole in them, but obviously not you as you say youre nice Im so curious though In reality i know its none but its funny how defensive you are

Authentic is authentic it can include nice but thats not a defining quality. Yeah 100% if you have to fight about how much of a nice guy you are then youre not simple. Worse for you women have a keen sense for authenticity, so when a guy says their a nice guy thats usually a big red flag for them. If they say nice guys arent nice it probably is a shit test and if you react badly to it you confirm their suspicions that you are actually an asshole but youre covering it in a nice guy facade, which is much worse than if you just owned the fact that youre an asshole. Liars a bit strong but you are somewhat dishonest, although you did lie about your 5 conquests right?

By my calculations 'nice guys' (this is distinct from guys that are genuinely nice) don't get many, if any, women interested in them romantically, authentic guys do. If you want to disprove this calculation as you are a self-proclaimed nice guy, you can state how many women you've had romantic relationships with. If you've had some then maybe your calculations could be considered, if you've had very few or as i suspect none at all them my original calculation works out in this case.

More like the annoying kid that thinks he knows math better than anyone else despite not ever having completed an equation

You're projecting a lot. You see how you can't be authentic, that's what probably comes across to women from self-proclaimed nice guys, especially when they assert some kind of moral higher ground which is also what you've done in your posts. If your statement - 'Nice guys aren't actually nice' its a shit test. Was a shit test, you would've failed it by defending your nice guyness. If you want to truly get better with women and want advice or input from others here then start with being honest about where you are. Atm youre like the white belt trying to teach a class.

It's important because you're sitting here giving advice to people when you most likely have very little experience yourself. I don't even believe your number because it contradicts what you said previously, unless all 5 have happened in the last few months. Just be honest bro

So just to confirm that's no sexual relationships with women? Have you had any relationships with women?

@mr_engineer It's inauthentic to call yourself a nice guy yes. Thanks for tips though, have you had a lot of sexual relationships with women?

Self proclaimed 'Nice guys' are by definition inauthentic because they deny their darker side. No one is completely nice or completely bad, it's all about claiming all parts of you to be authentic. Women would rather have authenticity which will include not being nice to her sometimes, than a guy putting her up on a pedalstool and trying to be perfect all the time. Anyway let's laugh at nice guys some more

Do guys actually say to girls that theyre nice, is that an actual thing? 'Im so nice that if you dont go out with me it means you dont like nice guys'

They wouldnt sue the girl, they would sue the publication, anyone can go to the media and sell a story but its the outlet that would be liable if the story turns out to be false. Remember when Fox news ran with Trumps story that the election was rigged? Trump didnt get sued for that but Fox did for 100s of millions, it would be the same in these assault cases. The girl could post on youtube but not many would probably watch it, she could still get a cease and desist order or a strike from youtube if the accused reports. If a media outlet did pick it up from youtube then they would be liable. The solution obviously wouldnt work so we still have the same problem. Keep in mind as well Epstein, Prince Andrew, Cosby, Saville etc were never found guilty, if we go by your method, none of these peoples crimes wouldve come to light.

It is really difficult tbh, the best way is to try and look at things from all perspectives. People tend to get stuck in one perspective if they like the person. For example with Brand people are consuming his content but not acknowledging his bias and are not steel-manning the other side so they just take what he says as truth. The shit hits the fan with this assault issue because the fact is no one apart from Brand and the girls know exactly what happened yet people are still defending and will disregard any evidence so they are definitely not agnostic. Its even more extreme with someone like Tate in which there is tons of evidence and even him on camera admitting it but people still support him. So our aim as individuals should be to have as clear a perspective as possible and recognise our own bias', it is difficult given all the info but i think its possible. It would be good if everyone was taught critical thinking as well.

Yes of course, it makes national or even international press because of his fame and how many people are interested in him, its the equivalent to the influence he has on the world. But also if it was a local story the press would cover that as well. Catholic priests and teachers get caught all the time, there was a whole film called Spotlight based on the media exposing the catholic church and its protection of pedophiles. Epstein got away with what he was doing for years its only when the media started reporting on it that it came into the public consciousness. People and institutions with power are very much able to silence victims, this is the whole point of where the media can fulfil an important service. Not anyone can just attack powerful people because its so difficult thats the whole point, how many powerful abusers who actually did what they were accused of, got away with it for decades. As well you cant just defame people without legal ramifications so people can not run around just accusing without any foundation. I agree that women probably should get charged for false accusations but again its as hard proving that as it is to prove the rape actually occurred, its one word against another, but if they can prove it they should get charged. The media shouldnt be involved in every case obviously, just the ones where there wasnt justice and where there is strong evidence.

@Tanz yes ideally that would be how it works, but in reality it rarely works like that. First off the woman could be scared to go to the police or manipulated someway to not go or just not think it's worth it given the low conviction rate. Second is that she could go to the police and Brand could be called in for interview but he just denies what happened and its his word against hers. Further Brand, as has been rumoured, could've taken a super-injuction out, which basically bans anyone from naming him around certain incidents, basically it's like an nda. Keep in mind in all these scenarios he could've still done it without any repercussions. So what we're saying is that when the system fails what option is open to the alleged victim? Its really just the media. This isn't a wild idea, for example if you got ripped off by your electric company and they refused to pay you back, you might go to the media or post it on social media if you feel the police wouldn't do anything about it. Both to warn others and get a sense of justice.

The point is that the police might do that, they might interview him straight away but then he denies and says its consensual, it comes down to his word against hers and because theres at least reasonable doubt the police cant go any further if theres no evidence (this is partly why the conviction rate is so low). So in this case the woman, or womens story if theres multiple, dont get heard. So no one will investigate the story because the police have already closed it and so one of the only ways to investigate it, is through the media. This is commonplace in all different fields, for example Coffeezilla on youtube has actually exposed a lot of fraud in the financial world through investigating that possibly wouldnt have come to light otherwise and was absolutely necessary for the public to know as these people were ripping off thousand's. The media always reaches out to the accused for comment before the investigation is released to the public, so there is opportunity for them to reply, however a lot of the time they dont take it up or just comment saying they deny all charges. Im not sure but i think if you were 100% innocent you most likely would take that chance to speak. Actually a similar case in the UK was Philip Schofield allegedly grooming a young boy, in which he did do an interview with the BBC where he explained the situation, he did essentially lose his career anyway but he still did the interview. But generally i think the media is important in this role of bringing things to light that are in the public interest, it is almost a duty for them to do so, however there is also the potential that they can exaggerate or even manufacture a story that will be of interest to the public, this is why they need certain restrictions and tough defamation and liable laws.

@Tanz Good points, i was thinking about this though in terms of, if the media doesnt bring something like this to the light who will? Of course I'm not saying the media are some altruistic, looking out for the little guy entity, they want people to read and view their content so they can make more money. But there isn't really a strong enough incentive from other bodies to expose this type of thing, at least no one with the type of power the media has. The government and police are limited as we're seeing from the low conviction rate, maybe you'll get an independent youtube journalist or blogger reporting it but they're limited in budget and potentially their status. So putting yourself in the shoes of one of these women that got raped, what are your options, if your police report basically didnt get anywhere? You can only go to the media or agree to talk to them if the get in contact or you can let it go, that's pretty much it. The other point is that if the media doesn't report on it and it comes out that it's even worse they will get destroyed by public opinion and the public will lose trust in them. This I what happened with Jimmy Saville, the police never brought any formal charges to him and the media didn't do an expose while he was alive, the evidence available wouldn't have been far off Brands situation, in that it was allegations without any police reports as far as I know. The media was destroyed for protecting him as some would see it as the their duty to report this type of thing. Brands alleged crimes are nothing compared to Saville, but the point is the media is in a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation, if they don't report, they're the bad guys and if they do report they're the bad guys.

I wouldn't go as far to say he's a cult leader, but it is definitely a feature of modern times where there are 'leaders' who put themselves out there as a mouthpiece for a certain group of people. Even if they don't do it intentionally the leader naturally takes that role for their followers. So they have to be extra careful to avoid people following them in that manner and ideally show them how to think for themselves even if it means disagreement. Leo has talked about this before how he has to be so conscious of not turning this into a cult. Unfortunately because its fairly easy to do and because you can get a lot of fame, clout, validation and money from it a lot of leaders fall into the trap of stepping into cult territory. Because everything they say is celebrated by their audience, they can come to believe that they are always right. But it's not always a situation of the leader knowingly taking advantage of the followers, its almost a symbiotic relationship, in that the leader needs to give content that is going to please the followers and get more views. Brand didn't actually have a strong stand against vaccines initially but I believe he came to realise that a large part of his audience did. So his views evolved to become more and more anti-vaxx. So he has changed his audience but his audience has also changed him. Because of the Internet, youtube and social media, this dynamic is on steroids