Sugarcoat

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  1. I don’t think it’s unethical but I just have a hard time believing someone can feel genuinely good doing it.
  2. I think in life, if you find yourself in a desperate situation economically, for example you’re a student who applies to jobs but you get none except sales or something that you feel isn’t truly aligned with your values, then it’s okay to take such a job and understand that it’s a part of your path to something greater, it’s not your ultimate destination. For example I’ve worked at fast food restaurant, I don’t think it’s particularly unethical because it’s a personal choice to consume such food, but it still isn’t something I’d wanna work with long term because I find it doesn’t provide any value in society. Sales has a similarity, sure most of it isn’t high conscious but it still is a personal choice to buy the stuff, even if they’re being manipulated. As I said you can see it as temporary stepping stone towards something greater in your path. I think it’s possible to do conscious sales, but then it requires that the product/service you’re selling is high conscious (let’s say something like a good supplement). And also that the method you’re using to sell is authentic, and that is something you can notice if you’re doing yourself, in particular if you’re not personally attached to making sales so you’re less likely to be deceived by your own bias. Also another factor is in the production process of the product. A product can be “high conscious” and of genuine value but be produced in a way that harms the planet and exploits poor people. So then I cannot rank it as much high conscious anymore. So it’s different factor. Bottom line i think it’s okay to play into the system to a degree as long as you are working towards something higher conscious long term (if that’s your inclination, it’s ok to be normie too)
  3. I’m a little confused sometimes about makes people not end their life. It’s like, I’m not the only one who struggles, yet all people who struggle don’t get suicidal thoughts. There are even people going through worse than me who don’t consider suicide. Sometimes when my suicidal thoughts get stronger I can spend hours researching suicide methods. I even bought some things I could use to kill myself but I haven’t used them yet. Sometimes I feel “I could keep living through this” But then other times I feel, I have no will to keep fighting for life. I should just end it. It would be better So I don’t understand how other people don’t feel like this when they struggle. Am I extra weak? I mean I think I’m like the average person when it comes to how much I can tolerate. Or maybe not. I don’t know. I guess I just lack a strong enough reason to live Like some people have let’s say family they are attached to, and it keeps them wanna live. But I don’t have that, I don’t love anyone at all so I have nobody to live for. It’s like all I have is my own mind. Im stuck inside of this brain 24/7. All I have access to is a comforting thought that can give me some strength. But then my mind gives up and wants to end it all. It oscillates like that Edit: I should probably answer my own question. Why don’t I kill myself? Well mostly because my situation is not like absolutely unbearable yet, so I feel I can stand it for some time ahead. Also I am afraid of a failed attempt and the pain it can cause for example you could get permanent injury. Thats it mostly. Regarding the first point. I hear stories about people going through unbearable things, so they go through it even if it’s absolutely unbearable, I don’t know how they do. Suicide must have crossed their mind at some point
  4. Spot on. It takes work to take ownership of yourself and create change
  5. I was on olanzipine for a year starting with 10 mg a day then lowered to only 5 mg a day. I noticed no difference except that it made me sleep more and maybe a slight numbing I quit it cold turkey with no withdrawal effects Weird that it didn’t affect me much. Maybe it was too low dose or I’m just built different
  6. Some songs do that to me yes, but I’d say sexyy reds songs have more been simply catchy and even a bit funny to me. Songs that stimulate my ego tend to be different than hers What you mean the family 😭
  7. I’ve tried to run as hard as I can but over 50 times I stop before that David Goggins level of kidney failure . 99 % people are like that
  8. I’ve been thinking this. I think he is one of the coolest humans on this earth right now. I wouldn’t wanna do like him though practically , I couldn’t push myself to that level. One has to have a dying desire to do it, which I don’t have and I don’t wanna have. What I mean is that I’ve listened to his interviews where he has told in detail about his worst training experience. This man once ran so hard he got kidney failure, pissed blood and broke all the bones in his feet simultaneously. Basically he put himself willingly into a “torturous” experience that felt like “the brink of death” (his own words) But that is what is required to be able to have his mentality. Because he lives how he speaks, otherwise it would be empty words and he couldn’t probably fake that certainty. His way of talking, a normal human can’t talk like that, it comes from a one in a billion mindset and grit. But there’s this value to be gained from listening to him even if you’re not gonna be like him. He is all about discipline, we can get inspired to move in that direction to a certain degree that feels reasonable to us. My biggest take away from him is his ability to persevere and stay calm in suffering. We are designed to move away from suffering, but he manages to do the opposite, to move towards it in order to gain something positive from the other side of it. I think it’s the hardest thing a human can do. And we all will face suffering so there’s value in trying to change our relationship to suffering and trying to find a way to persevere through it, if we decide to keep living through it. Extreme athletes in general inspire me a lot. For example someone like Faith . It’s very satisfying to watch in a way. The special thing about running is that long distance running, when it comes to the elite level, is basically about one thing: your ability to persevere through suffering. That’s why i think it’s one of the coolest sports and I have huge respect for people in it. I run and push myself too, when you feel in your body how hard it is and you imagine there’s people that go wayyyy harder, it’s just astounding.
  9. I can’t judge because I had sexyy red on my Spotify wrapped 😭
  10. Once I had this deep spiritual experience and cried to this Moroccan song for some reason 😂
  11. I’m like that too i can change my mind
  12. I think women are generally more emotional and more expressive in their emotions. But I think men cling just as much to their beliefs, they cling to a certain self image they wanna have. They might even be more likely to develop hatred/resentment to people. So all those things can cause reactivity, but they way men express it might make it seem they’re less reactive
  13. I don’t know enough people to know if that’s true or not
  14. I don’t think it’s necessarily wrong, I was being funny When you’re having sex, it’s not a requirement to be massively attracted or connected to them. Sometimes someone just wants to satisfy their libido As long as one respects the other person in the process it’s fine I think
  15. It feels like I’m in a guys locker room 😭😂
  16. Yes in a way. But with strong enough value judgments it can help us change ourselves
  17. I thought for a second I’d get warning point phew 😅
  18. I think if you just want it bad enough you can overcome that. But people rather loathe in their self hatred than give their all to make improvement
  19. And addiction in turn makes it harder to know those things because you’re so caught up in the addictive loop . So it’s like circular