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I feel neutral most of the time so that makes some sense. Maybe those upset, euphoric, manic states are more stressful thus require more energy Is it supposed to make me tired? I don’t feel that at all

That feeling is there to push you to become something more. You could see it that way and use it to fuel you. Or if you want to settle down for mediocrity that’s fine too

I can relate to this. When we identify as a person who is a certain way or does something it becomes like a self fulfilling prophecy so we’re more likely to gain momentum and maintain it

I see you’re being scientifically rigorous

64: I try to make interesting, different and substantial contributions in the forum in general. It’s like I’m trying to squeeze out some nugget of wisdom from my brain and when I manage to do it, it feels like I’ve produced a little masterpiece, not to sound pretentious. For me it doesn’t always come easy, I need to sit and think to come up with a response, and I like to make it a little unique to add something new to the conversation. It starts of as a little thought that expands into something more elaborate. I wonder how it works for others.

People might have some hippie or monk stereotype in their head that is about mumbo jumbo spirituality and mental masturbation armchair philosophical existential questioning. And they judge this stereotype and associate it with you when you say you practice meditation. There can also be an inferiority complex involved where they feel threatened by these people who go deeper like “how dare you be deeper than me”, as if there’s a complex about their own depth and how interesting they are as a person.

@Salvijus Same, I don’t even think their writing style is so similar

That may be true but then we have to take into consideration the quality of women that they attract. A woman who is primarily attracted to a man’s power, money, status, or for being a manipulative player will probably be more shallow, perhaps insecure in herself, immature. It’s similar to how a woman with good looks will attract more men, but those that are primarily drawn to her because of her looks will not be as high quality. So those people attract more in quantity, but not necessarily in quality

You mean that he had a bad childhood causing issues with self esteem which makes them overcompensate by trying to be for example smart and successful to gain self esteem? Or aquire wealth because they had little of it in childhood

Things like status and wealth can in some cases signal that the man has traits such as being ambitious, a leader, confident, charming, depending on how he acquired that status and wealth. So it’s like a woman might not be attracted to those things in and of themselves but rather what they signal about the man. Because it takes a special person to get to the top with status and wealth, although ofc not in all cases you can get there by being phony and exploitative too. A comparison could be like in high school if a popular guy is liked by many girls. Is he liked because he is popular or because of the traits that made him popular (for example charismatic and good looking)? Could be both. Because it can be like a boost to one’s own self image to have a successful partner. Same with having popular friends. And vice versa.

Infinity casually spawns an infinite number what you just said #lit

Iron😎 Yea I’m more careful after the warning

Legend as in legendary or as something that isn’t real? Its not important 😹 Last time I got a warning point when meantioning blood pudding gotta be careful

What you can gain from experience is largely on you. What you manage to squeeze out of it. What you bring with you when it’s all over. What lessons you gain. You don’t have to be like your friends that return to normal if that’s not for you. Don’t think your results must be like theirs. So you want a lifestyle change it seems? It’s possible to make one long term. Traveling could become a full time thing for example. It will be worth it depending on your purpose for doing it.

Maybe the expectation you hold on yourself to laugh at it contributes to that inner turmoil. Like you criticize yourself for not being socially calibrated for not laughing contributes to the negative feeling Maybe you define yourself by some external metrics like your performance, looks, contribution etc and you feel unworthy because you have an insecurity in these areas and the person is speaking to those insecurities. Your sense of self is not independent so it partly relies on external validation. Like your brain is too extroverted. But it’s good you’ve worked on your personality to form stronger confidence so hopefully that can become a foundation you can stand on for good self worth irregardless of other people The most basic kind of self esteem is a self worth for simply existing and being human. Doesn’t need anything more, this nobody should be able to bring down because it’s a permanent quality of you

I should’ve made myself more clear, I said that if you ask someone out then it’s right to pay, so in those instances I stand by it yes

I’d probably do the same if I was a guy

If she gets upset if you don’t pay in general it suggests she has been brainwashed by her culture which will manifest itself in other ways too in her way of thinking in general just a thought . It’s hive mind. If you ask out I think in those instances one should pay then other instances you pay if you want to. Maybe you want to live by those male, female roles each one to their own.

A life without challenges is the fantasy and is impossible, everyone has them but what you’re aiming for in general is not unrealistic that’s a limiting belief you have. The best you can do is to try. We could break it down bit by bit. You can keep a job by being good at it. And you could always get a new job Passion and interests change but one could always switch up hobbies One can put in work to maintain friendships but otherwise one can get new friends. You can be open to several religions and interpretations of them at once, nothing forces you to stick to one. Getting laid is far from impossible. You don’t have to be a perfectly actualized human for that. Anyone can build muscle and get in shape. Family comes and goes you must accept they will eventually die. Mental illness and physical illness can be partly prevented through a good lifestyle. You’re underestimating your own role in it. It’s like learned helplessness You can only control yourself and to a certain extent some external circumstances but the rest you need to accept you can’t control for your inner peace’s sake.

I wonder why it’s easy for some seemingly

Yea

Yes thats probably right

For most it doesn't happen though, so most people probably would need something extreme wether practice or substances or both

If this didnt dissolve you then there's no chance for the rest of us

Firstly it can be useless if its detached from any direct experience, then it becomes like mental masturbation, lacking substance and not moving anything in your experience. Secondly, and this is a bit metaphysical, but you could say your ego has many levels/layers to it, and its composed of your own mind, so each level is a level of your mind, which will be a certain paradigm. Your current paradigm is the level/layer of your mid that you are operating from. So if you do contemplation but are doing it within your current paradigm you won't breakthrough, you wanna breakthrough to deeper levels of your mind and for that you need to go outside your current paradigm I think.