Sugarcoat

I have thought about this recently. If something appears exactly as something, then it’s the same as it being it. But I guess it’s infinity seeming limited, because even from a materialistic science perspective, science hasn’t found any actual limits right? Even if you realize your nature, you still have a brain with preferences, and you can still feel physical pain right? That’s why you wouldn’t wanna go to Russian prison for 25 years What you described as your balance sounds amazing

From what I’ve heard someone like Jim Newman seems to be in such a selfless state. He has said things like “killing babies doesn’t matter”. He doesn’t say he is “teaching” either. I bet he doesn’t care.

I don’t understand

I don’t do it anymore. I used to watch it just because it made me horny. I would watch hetero or lesbian porn. Mostly I enjoyed hetero. And i liked to watch it filmed from the male pov, and I imaged what the male felt, I stepped into his shoes, and felt horny by imagining how horny he felt, so it’s like I lived through him, for some reason i couldn’t get horny imagining the woman’s pleasure (only sometimes in lesbian porn)

I remember when I was younger and would watch porn from time to time, what made my horniness much greater was imagining a context to the porn, and like imagining things to add to what I was watching, like a layer of imagination on top of the porn. if I tried watching the porn without imagining anything at the same time, I wouldn’t get horny, like straight on watching with a neutral eye I could also get off from just my imagination alone.

Toxic masculinity is insecure masculinity at its root, it’s masculinity that feels threatened

Isn’t this limitlessness you talk about “no self”? But you mean you don’t wanna be in that “state” permanently? Or can a self be included in this limitlessness, but it’s seen that it’s just an appearance and not absolutely real? That’s a thought that just came to me. Maybe one could juggle both simultaneously

How you know it’s impossible? Because this brain is designed to have sense of self or? How about people like Jim Newman talking about non duality and how there is “no position” , him and few others seem to be permanently devoid of a self. But maybe there’s still some self/ego structure in place I can’t know for sure. They seem to be at peace so that would be desirable imo It would be cool as you say to have no sense of self at will, I’ve not been able to do that. Why would a self be necessary for challenges? Doesn’t the brain still work without it?

I don’t think internet in general should be controlled except for the basic things like banning child porn etc

I’ve never really heard of it being a restriction on porn in the first place (except for maybe North Korea or something), so how come they were able to compare before and after ?

Yea I think everyone has the right to be so called “unhealthy” and it’s up for them to fix that. It’s similar to how I don’t think we should ban unhealthy food but I still don’t think it’s a good thing. As a comparison to porn (it’s not always bad but it can be used unhealthily). Society should provide help for people who want to stop those unhealthy habits, and society shouldn’t promote them , that’s society’s job imo

What helped me to feel like I’m experiencing something new was to shed layers of the self. And to do that through constant attention on the self. I don’t know how it’s done really as it came naturally for me. If it even makes sense

I really relate to this. I feel I’m going around in circles in my own mind, the same mind everyday. It’s all just one stream of thought flowing from its source, my brain, I’m stuck in duality, stuck in my brain seeing everything from the perspective of my own brain, constantly listening to its commentary on whatever is going on.

Yea it’s like our mind can shape our experience and warp our perception we think it’s the real deal

That’s the goal

I think I have just a slight scoliosis too but what I have mainly is a more flat thoracic spine and a bony bump at the bottom of neck. I’m fine with it, except it caused my bloating I think

I feel my mind doesn’t label stuff either, but I still have sense of self

@Schizophonia I’m not really against brothels. The only thing would be there has to be a way to ensure that the women are there by free will.

Human exploitation, most commonly of women, happens in both porn and prostitution. It’s not always a free choice for the woman as you understand too, she might be in a vulnerable position for example financially. So whatever kind of legislation can help women’s safety in these things is what I support. Porn is a bit of a tricky one, because it’s basically like prostitution but the customer instead being the online audience. I don’t think it should be banned, even if it’s unhealthy in some cases (as princess arabia said, theres many things that are unhealthy). But as I said I want to ensure the safety of the women in it and prevent exploitation. I don’t really know what I think. Society needs a good financial safety net overall to prevent people from falling into vulnerable situations. It’s an interesting topic.

They have “the Nordic model” or whatever it’s called which is when it’s illegal to buy sex but legal to sell, so this view has been for quite some time

I don’t understand your latter part but it’s ok

Online sexual market is a safe way to sell sexual services so I support it when it’s a free choice

That’s so cool

I’ll save it for later thanks

Great