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Yes absolutely mostly in the past. I feel we sense ourselves differently at different times and situations so sometiems I feel my own “vibe” for example like an energy , sometimes I’m just walking around like a body without no one in it, sometiems I feel more contracted or whatever or open and expansive , like an open field. so it depends but i get it what you say, can’t pin point it exactly ?

The ultimate hack

Yea. It’s tricky and can take years to un-wire. Many layers to it. Not impossible to calm it down though. Those thoughts can reflect something you lack but it’s not always obvious what that is. The content of the thought doesn’t always directly reflect what you want/lack. Id say this is a very individual path and all these different fantasies you might have about different things you seem to desire can have their own unique contexts to them

Mind. First word that popped up for me

that’s fine i get that could happen ?

Oh yes. I liked your replies ❤️ as usual ?

I wonder what the thought process is behind such post. Or perhaps no thought process at all maybe that’s the thing . Maybe me laugh nonetheless.

nonetheless gotta enjoy where we are now aight

yea exactly. Then its about what that entails and how to. For me in my process its about being more authentic, being present with each interaction moment by moment, not following some principle rather dropping that and going into things with unknowing and seeing what comes naturally. So it can be like you pay attention to yourself when youre communicating, how did it feel when i said that, did it feel like a release of tension, did it feel forced, am i nervous, not explicit questions but you trace how it feels inside when you interact and that can help you get to a more natural flow at least for me. And I agree with @inFlow in how just raising consciousness in general helps to get out of the head and more into the body

You know what you need to do first , find a job. Idk how it works where you live but somebody gotta know there gotta be some way. Go ask if they’re hiring, look online, ask people you know. Or you’ll start rotting just laying there it’s beginning already I bet

His channel is called infinite waters ofc he’s gonna be releasing everyday jokes aside i believe self help can be like this for a lot of people in the beginning then you slowly find more of your own way. Less of doing everything all over the place, listening to this and that person, consuming this and that content, to fewer things that make sense to you and that you are attracted to and that you pour all your focus into and prioritize. Sometimes we want clarity and stepping back from all that content and business can help in that. The depressed feeling might be a sign it’s not it That journal with your ideas sounds great I don’t understand why you say you “should” do those others things you mentioned instead. “Life will improve a little” ummm do i hear a limiting belief. maybe feel for yourself. What is your greatest problem right now? Where in life do you feel most limited what’s consuming your mind the most what do you most desire ?

This is my nightmare. What if next time I’m some man back in 1500 century waiting in line for a medieval torture machine because “consciousness allows it”

Being authentic to me doesn’t mean you say everything on your mind. Or that everything you share is straightforward and reflects your views directly. It can also mean choosing not to share certain things because you don’t resonate with the people you interact with, or perhaps some aspect of you two relate to each other but not the other parts. Id say take each interaction as it comes, moment by moment. Not really having any general principle you feel you need to follow. Be there present in the moment directly sensing within yourself and taking in from the other person. Each interaction is unique and what being authentic and truthful will entail in that interaction might be completely different from another one. Communication is nuanced , has many layers to it and there’s so much depth to be discovered. it can be very mystical and fascinating no need to be sad about it a lot of potential here! One time you feel out of integrity , so what? that’s gone, move on to the next

Well i do agree in the way that everyone has a responsibility in what enviroment, situations they put themsleves in, and what people they hang around, basically how one navigates society. but at the same time i feel we are not really coming from the same place saying that so cant really say we have the same thinking here There are drunk men that dont harass women lol. its not impossible

Nonetheless everyone remember , most important is to be your own party your own vibe okay ?? you can’t have fun if you are not fun . Be the life, be the fun. Alone or with people doesn’t matter ?

I see your point and that is the experience for me too regarding authenticity. this path of authenticity is a long sometimes grueling one with its ups and downs. Different minds are are attracted to different things and deal with themselves differently at different times. Temporarily boosting your mood by partying for example is one way and has its place. yes they know this. But I see it as everyone is responsible for their own actions. A woman looking sexy doesnt make a man harass her, its all on him. I read this great quote from a radical feminist ive followed for a long time that connects to this. I dont remember exactly but pretty much: "When a man gets drunk he is not responsible for his actions When a woman gets drunk she is responsible for everyones actions" She hit the nail on that one. as I said a certain type of mind is attracted to certain things and people do form connections at parties it might not just resonate with you with a different type of mind. You can come up with your ideas without needing to take something else away, altough it is interesting nonetheless to think about

Yes you do and that’s fine. As I said you can start when you’re alone and when that urge hits just follow it . Listening to music that’s danceable and that you like ofc . No rules whatsoever. Doesn’t matter how it looks. Because the thing is also dancing isn’t really fun when you don’t do it in a way that feels natural for you, It’ll just feel forced. Do you have sense of rhythm at least? I’m not sure but most people have and then maybe a small minority don’t for some reason

Yes I understand that . I meant it more in a way of dropping the ideas you have about dancing and simply following the urge to dance in the body , but if you don’t even experience that urge , that spark like the moderator above said, then there can be different reasons for that I have had significant social anxiety myself for years in the past so I know how it is to feel painfully awkward simply existing . I can sympathize with that. But dancing always came natural . I find, the more deeply in touch with my body I get, the better I get at dancing interestingly enough Leo is right here. I can guess. You’re stuck in your head, disconnected from your body so now when you try to do something that is very natural for the body, you approach it in this overthinking way because youre just stuck in your head so you do everything from your head. This is the problem here. Practice and follow some instructions all you want but that’s like going to college without finishing high school . Backwards using dancing to help with social anxiety at parties sure. But if you do it with some idea in your head of some specific dance moves and rules to it, you’re just feeding the very problem itself. And you seem to pity yourself , like oh poor me. I don’t mean to be rude here but that’s the vibe. It’s not helping you, just feeding this mental story about yourself even more It truly is like that I would say. If you can’t feel the urge to dance in your body and simply follow it without instructions then there’s no point in doing anything else as that is like the basics If the social anxiety is so strong stopping you from even relaxing in your body at all then forget the dancing and do some work on that id suggest and stop pitying yourself digging yourself into your own suffering even deeper

you’re way overthinking this. you can start when you are alone you put on some music you like you feel that urge to move in your body . You just allow your body to do what it naturally feels like doing. Different people have different dance moves that comes naturally This is foundation

Wow I didn’t know that … thank you for enlightening me ?

Which part to understand , what it is about for me or for others because the others part is what I’m not understanding ? that’s why I’m asking you

Get your shit together, get a grip on yourself and your life and you won’t care about others because you are in full control over yourself and trust in yourself to be able to create something good for yourself independent of what others are doing ??????????????????????????????????????????✌?✌?✌?✌?✌?✌?????????

Ok what is it about then ??

Haha this was more fun to me to read than to party?some good points i sometimes think, damn, for some people clubbing/partying is their “it” , wonder what kind of existence that is . Id say that I bet for a lot of these people, that is their authentic self , at least how it feels for them. So it might seem purely superficial for you but for many of them that is genuinely how they are. the women part. Sexualizing yourself/making yourself hot to yourself isn’t some invitation/want to be sexually objectified by others when you’re out and about, just a point. it’s Two different things I don’t see the reason to be concerned about all of this tho. You trying to save society or something?