Sugarcoat

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  1. My spontaneous thought is that it might not be best to leave her to decide if she wants to text you because she might not have high initial interest so it might lower the chances of her writing to you. You could write something like “that’s great you’re prioritizing your mental health and staying true to yourself (or “I appreciate the honesty”) .” You could also insert something about yourself if you also have similar struggles. But then I’d tell her like “I’ll get back to you when I have time to meet, then it’s up to you based on how you’re feeling.” I’m a young woman who isn’t the best at socializing either so take with grain of salt but basically I think you should initiate because her initial interest might be low (because she doesn’t know you much , the interest can grow if she gets to know you, but then you must make sure it actually happens)
  2. Am I seriously missing out by not keeping up with this ai thing? I only use chatgpt
  3. I meant that the picture in OPs post is more accurate to the reddit forum
  4. The non duality forum on Reddit is more accurate
  5. It’s a form of socialization although not up to par with real life socialization I am more detached from socialization than most
  6. It’s so brutal right.
  7. But when you are here you have attachments and aversions and don’t feel like you’re god..
  8. Most people who think like that probably do in a dualistic way, like religious people Effortlessness can be paradoxical because I find thinking can be effortless but thinking tends to be tied to ego
  9. It’s funny I have bought his book “can’t hurt me” but haven’t read it .
  10. Takes more than a mere saying to turn the ego off. Maybe one could turn that saying into a mantra and it might be more effective. Beautiful post nevertheless. I think the hardest ownership is carrying an identity, existing as limited form, maybe because it’s ultimately untrue so it almost never can be fully relaxed and effortless
  11. I feel this is the accurate interpretation of Christianity
  12. I had a nightmare this week. I am a little weird in the way that I can kinda enjoy nightmares: because I find it interesting what my mind is able to imagine. I’m impressed sometimes by the complexity of my dreams. How my mind is able to imagine so vividly and structured without my conscious effort. I also tend to be somewhat aware while I dream that I’m dreaming: contributing to me not being very fearful of nightmares (although I can still be a little freaked out) I don’t remember that much but what stood out about the nightmare was that I imagined that I was about to get “stuck” in a kind of nothingness. Basically I dreamt that I was going to enter a state where my ego was still there, but all my senses were off, so no sight, no smell, no touch, no hearing etc. And I dreamt that I was being stuck in that nothingness and couldn’t escape, couldn’t move or nothing. I wonder how that would be. Would one go absolutely insane from that? Like imagine if all your senses would “turn off” but you still had your ego and was aware of that “nothingness”. Creepy right.
  13. I’m open to that as I don’t know enough
  14. Cool you did that! I’ve been trying too, to push my limits lately, i notice I stop way before my body gives out
  15. But dying I think includes end of self too Its not me pretending I’m here..reality is
  16. I find in my own journey that this has undid layers to the ego but I never got the entire thing
  17. I think it’s best to contemplate that while in discomfort
  18. I’m not fully getting you but I think you’re pointing to something deep and might be coming from a different place than I am. I find you can do psychological/spiritual work to undo significant amount of societal conditioning. Some things will be left like for example the use of language in your brain. But undoing those things don’t guarantee awakening. Maybe one could awaken but still have societal conditioning
  19. I don’t even know if awareness is possible in a state of no perception . But honestly I don’t really care. Sounds hypocritical since I wrote this thread. But sometimes there’s not much thought put into it