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The date was meh... I didn't embarrass myself and nothing horrible happened, but I couldn't really build any connection between us. We talked but it felt very awkward, forced, and robotic. Basically a dry exchange of facts and opinions with a pinch of fake niceness. I watched this video before going And that's how I wanted the date to go. Deep, intimate, heartfelt conversations and real emotional connection. But I couldn't get anywhere near that. There was also no physical contact aside from a hug at the beginning and the end and no romantic vibes at all. Zero flirting, zero intimacy, zero sexual tension. And the moments of silence were awkward and uncomfortable. To be honest I also didn't really feel attracted to her, but that doesn't change the fact that I am really bad at this. Mostly, I feel disappointed. I feel like I didn't really push myself and didn't make any progress.

@Rishabh Rthank you

@Zenterusthank you. I totally agree. The question is how do I actually start living this kind of mindset? How do I actually start feeling this way?

Ha! I got a match. Now watch me fuck up the date

There is a girl that I kind of like because of her personality, but I am not sure if I will be attracted to her physically as well. I have an opportunity to go on a date with her, but I am really afraid that I will realize that I am not attracted to her after all and that I will have to reject her. Should I still go and treat it as an experiment to see if we click or is it better for me to not go at all if I am not 100% sure that I am attracted to her? Basically, is it only ethical to go on dates with people who you are 100% certain you are attracted to? I am feeling like this is the case and like I would be mistreating / disrespecting them otherwise.

Okay, thank you.

What I am mean by disrespecting is that: if I am not sure if they are attractive enough for me, then why am I bothering them at all. Its like I am treating them as a second choice. Like: oh yeah, I am not really attracted to you that much but I guess you will do, I can deal with it. Who wants to be treated like that? The more I think about it, the more fucked up it sounds.

This is hard for me to do when I already know someone as a person. I know I am not obligated but I am really afraid of upsetting and hurting people.

@pursuitofspirit idk yet, I think they are supposed to email us tomorrow.

Lol, you are regarded. Russia has been annexing Ukrainian land since 2014.

What on earth made you think that buying anything from tai lopez is a good idea? He is literally the most known self help scammer out there, lol.

I don't know, I find this sad. I think she and JP have some actual mental health issues and are suffering because of it. Satan aside, just look at what she has done to her face. No sane person would do this. She is crying in that video from the original post and can't even move a muscle.

@Leo Gura it's just depressing if this is true.

@Leo Gura i wonder if she is being genuine

It seems like everyone in their family is sick both mentally and physically. Talk about bad genes...

Can someone recommend me good resources for learning kriya yoga? A cource / a book / a youtube channel. I've never done it so its hard for me to discern bullshit from high quality stuff.

Did you end up buying the one from the museum? Lol.

I actually think the opposite would be the case. Because people here are so casual with Leo, much more casual than the normal student / teacher relationship. Nobody talks to Sadhguru like we talk to Leo here, lol.

I would love to attend, if I could.

thank you. this is very sweet. how do i know what small short term things to do towards career/life purpose specifically?

What do I do if I feel hopeless and like I am not capable of achieving anything serious / becoming a massive value provider?

It wasn't a real date but a role play scene during the dating workshop, but I think the same thing would happen to me in real life as well. The setting was that me and the girl I was partners with are on our first date at the restaurant and we need to chat, flirt, and show attraction for each other. And I just failed miserably, haha. The moment I sat down at the table across her, my heart started racing, my mind went completely empty, and I just stared at her like an idiot, having no clue what to do. I've tried to save it a few times, asking to restart the scene and asking her random questions (like oh, tell me about those bracelets you are wearing). But I would quickly get reach dead end and once again find myself not knowing what to say and covering my face with my palms in embarrassment. The funny thing is that before the exercise, I was able to have pretty decent conversations with this same girl, in a more relaxed, friendly atmosphere. But I completely shat my pants under pressure. I know there is probably no easy, magic solution to it and it's just a matter of exposing myself to this kind of experience again, and again, and again, until my brain stops freaking out. But still, does anyone have any tips, lol? I know I am supposed to free associate and come up with topis based on what's happening right now, and also ask her questions, but I couldn't do any of it at all.

@Sincerity I think I might take 0.5gr of mushrooms the next time I go out. I think it could help me.

we clearly have different personality types.

@SchizophoniaI wish I could be like you, that would make things very simple. But I am not.