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@Thought Art I see. How are the meetings organised. Do you prepare something before one, or do you just go and improvise?

@Thought Art wow, that's really cool. I've actually done some climbing myself in the past. And I've considered joining toastmasters but I am too afraid. How do the meetings usually look? also, did you manage to get any friends or relationships from climbing/salsa/toastmasters?

@Leo Gura I honestly wonder why I can't just do it all at the same time. Normal people seem to be able to do so. My parents did that. My grandparents did that. Why can't I do it?

@Lila9 thank you for advise, especially about money. It's nice to hear a girl's perspective. Yes, I have a stable job but I am basically living paycheck to paycheck. And I also wanted to invest some money into coaching/therapy and other stuff for myself.

@Leo Gura I knooow. I just wanted to get a confidence boost

@Jacob Morres insteresting, thanks. I think I need to slow down and do things gradually, and do both. Idk.

Why can't I do both though? This also has to be some sort of a limiting belief, right? Why can't I just have a balanced lifestyle???

I was talking more about sustaining a relationship later. Like what if she wants to travel, go out, birthday presents, etc. Yeah. I am 23, but I feel the same way. Like I am behund the curve and need to get all of those things sorted asap. And I don't think it's healthy.

@Yimpa I will. And i get what you are trying to say, thank you. I just think that I need to take some external action as well.

@Yimpa not if it has only been one session and you've been procrastinating on doing the homework for a month.

@Yimpa and I am actually starting to work with a coach. It doesn't change the fact that I need to take some actual action.

@Yimpa I took Leo's life purpose course, and tried to complete it several times, but I would always get stuck at picking your life purpose section because I felt like I am not ready to do so. I did the values exercises like 3-4 times though. It didn't help me that much.

@Yimpa this is too vague. Yes, I am not in alignment with my values and probably don't even know what they are exactly. So what do you expect me to do, sit there and journal about my values? That's what I've been doing my whole life, I need to take some real action.

@Yimpa wdym?

@Leo Gura so you think it would be a right decision to prioritise it over career and business success? I was always using you as an example, saying things like: "look, Leo managed to ignore relationship until 26 something years old while prioritising his career and he is doing great, so I can do it as well". But I am not Leo, I am my own person with different personality. At least from what you've said, it doesn't sound like lack of relationships bothered you that much. Unfortunately, it does bother me a lot. It's basically something that I think about daily and it messes with my mental health (which in turn bothers me on its own, because i think that it is kind of shallow to be honest, lol).

The big limiting belief that I have is that I don't have enough money to afford having a relationship right now. And this may be true. But I don't think it matters actually. I don't even need a relationship, I need to learn how to socialize, get friends, and get laid first. And even if I get a relationship and it falls apart because I can't afford it, it would still be a great learning experience and totally worth it.

Serious question, could you please elaborate?

@Sincerity ok, thank you

@Sincerity it's really hard to sit still for 4+ hours though, isn't it? How does it usually go for you?

@Sincerity thank you. Every trip I had I would just wonder around and do whatever. I imagine they would be much more powerful if I sat still like during meditation.

@Leo Gura do ypu recommend sitting stil during longer trips as well? Like mushrooms or LSD.

@Chives99 thank you ))

@Leo Gura not necessairly arguing with what you said, but how do you know if he makes any actual judgements and political decisions on his own at this point?

@Judy2 yes, everything will be okay <3

I see. I live in Poland, but I am not sure what the prices are here since I don't travel much. Yeah, you must feel pretty bad right now, I am sorry to hear that. Why did the fight break out? Did you decide to bring this topic to him or was it something unrelated? What needs of yours does he not understand / acknowledge in your opinion? Do you think that there is something that you don't listen to as well?