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You do realise that 99% of people who have a girlfriend, wife, family, are not into pickup, right? You do not need to have "skills" to get a girlfriend. This is actually a limiting belief. Have you seen most guys in a relationship? They are just your average guy who plays video games, has a 9 to 5 job, and some friends who he drinks with on Friday.

Just get a girlfriend?

@mmKay I think most people do pickup for ego (or personal development in rare cases like Leo), not because of Libido. Having a relationship is probably the easiest way to get your sex needs met. If you do that by trying to get to 10000 approaches then you are spending a shit ton of time on it. Time that you could have used to focus on that other stuff. I think pickup is really inefficient if you just want to satisfy your libido.

But do you need to have as good social skills as she does, though? What about all the feminine/masculine and opposites attract stuff?

I think the idea is that if you do that many approaches, techniques become redundant. Your brain just start to making intuitive connections on how to do it. Kind of like learning hand-balancing. Sure, you can learn as much theory as you want, but to actually learn how to stand on one hand you just need to stand on your hands for 10000 hours to allow your brain to learn it. And of course you need to be really into it to do 10000 approaches. To you it sounds like a grind, and "why doo all that if you can get results in the first 100", but some guys probably just enjoy the act of approaching itself. So for them it's a non-issue.

I see.

There are a lot of actual rape cases in India though, no?

@Leo Gura I really love the idea of becoming really good at something through practice, but isn't feeling like you need to get good because of "what am I going to do if my girlfriend leaves me?" a bad mindset? It sound kind of neurotic. I recognise it as such because I often have the same way of thinking in many other areas of life. Realistically speaking, if you were able to find your current girlfriend, then you should be able to find another girlfriend in the same way afterwards. So there is no need to stress too much about it. Sure, finding a new girlfriend won't be as efficient and automated as if you were a professional pickup artist, but most people don't need it to be that efficient, I think.

@Princess Arabia I kind of lumped those quotes of yours with Emerald, sorry. I've re-read what you are talking about ad can see that you were using them in a different context. But my other point still stands. I don't think that just because someone watches porn that means that they have no right to criticise it.

@Emerald @Princess Arabia why, after both nagging Leo with "aren't you watching porn as well" you just ignore his response and keep singing the same tune? I would like to hear your thoughts on it. Is it hypocritical to call out something if you participate in it? Like Leo said, production of your phone is unethical, yet you still use it. Does that mean that you now have no right to raise this issue because it would be hypocritical? How is that different from watching porn while also raising issues that it has? If we are not allowed to do that, then how are we supposed to improve as a society? Because this applies to basically everything: "Oh, you don't like climate change? Aren't you causing it as well by driving a car to work, hypocrite?" Where does this attitude lead us? Literal crabs in the bucket situation. *** Also, I love how both of you say that judging things is wrong and unspiritual, while you in turn judge people on this forum for raising this issue. And instead of acknowledging that they might be to a degree, just weaponise psychology and therapy talk to dismiss them: "There is nothing wrong with porn, there is something wrong with you if you have an issue with it" is basically what you are saying. @Emerald if you really cared about helping people get over their shame based feelings around porn, wouldn't the first step be trying to emphasise with them and acknowledging that some things that they are saying are valid? As opposed to, you know, entirely dismissing what they are saying and just shaming them more?

Leo has lots of different tyoes of mediatation on his channel, and there are even more of them in general. Which one is best for people who struggle with adhd and want to reduce the symptoms? Just focusing on your breath or something like that?

Hi @Leo Gura, I am trying to update my email address for the courses account, but it doesn't work. The page only allows you to change email and password at the same time, not separately. Otherwise, it gives you an error saying that passwords don't match. And when I try to change them both at the same time, only password changes, and email stays the same. There is a message saying: "Verification email sent. You must now confirm your new email." But nothing arrives at my new mailbox. Instead, I get an email at my old mailbox saying that my password was changed. Do you know if something can be done about this?

@Ulax thank you

@Davino ok, thank you

My speaking skills are bad. And big part of it is because I am simply afraid to talk and express myself. I haven't tried it yet, but I think AI can be really good and helping me to fix this simply because it will allow me to talk as much as I want without the fear of being judged or saying something stupid. An alternative way would be to start socializing a lot, going to toast masters and do other stuff like this. Which is great, but it's a much bigger commitment and I don't have time an energy for it right now. So I think an opportunity to practice your speaking skills without "getting out of bed" is really nice.

@Buck Edwards paid. Are you saying that those voice training apps are free? Can you share any? I've checked the one mentioned abaove and it is subsription based.

@Davino are they also based on chat gpt api? What are the benefots of using them over the main chat gpt app?

How on earth is it possible to: Have a job Have a social life Spend time with your family Workout: cardio, strength training, and flexibility Have a relationship Do personal development and spirituality Have time for yourself to relax, enjoy your hobbies, and whatever Eat healthy Are there people who actually manage to do all of these and not burn out or is this just a self-help myth of an ideal life?

@Buck Edwards thank you

How?

By internet addiction I mean everything that you online simply to get some dopamine: youtube, tv shows, movies, games, social media, reddit, even actualized.org to some degree. My main question are: 1. Is quiting cold turkey really the best option? 2. How do you draw a line between using internet for good and wasting time on it? Even sites like reddit have a tonn of good information on many specialized topics, so I am reluctant to cut the out completely. But then if I don't there is a high potential for me just getting sucked into scrolling it forever. 3. How do you strike a balance when it comes to allowing yourself to enjoy some stuff, like good movies and video games? Once again, I feel reluctant to just remove them completely from my life. 4. How do you get through the initials feelings of void when you haven't adopted any positive habits yet and dopamine withdrawal in general? Should I just suck it up?

@LifeEnjoyer thanks. Do you listen to them with headphones on? Do they have any lasting effect on you or does it work only when you are actually listening?

I've started watching the documentary from Leo's blog and it is so disgusting. I just don't understand the amount of mental gymnastics that is necessary to support and justify what they did to Palestine. It's not just the taking of the land itself that astounds me, it is the brutality and cold-bloodedness of it. Referring to another thread on the same topic, I think that ethnic cleansing is a totally correct term to use. And after all these horrors, people have surprised Pikachu face when terrorist organizations start to pop up, lol. Also, it really puts into perspective how I view the west vs China, Russia, Soviet Union, etc. I am obviously 100% against what China and Russia are doing now, because one evil deed doesn't make another okay but, in my opinion, it really shows how good people are at demonizing things that are convenient to demonize and justifying things that are convenient to justify. When you really look at it, what the Soviet Union did is not so different from what the west did in Palestine in terms of cruelty. The only difference is scale.

@r0ckyreed i see, thank you