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@HMD do you have any resources or can you explain in detail whay process did you follow, please? Also, I love the quotes. @Identity thanks, that's encouraging. I know that this is the most straightforward approach. And I guess I am doing it bit by bit. But I feel like I am too inconsistent with it, lack patience, give up too quickly, etc. For example I did pickup for like a week. I even found people to do it with. I had a week off from work so I would spend almost the whole day outsude trying to approach girls. But after a week I just quit and haven't done it since. And it's not just pickup, it's like that with almost everything that I do.

@Sincerity @Intraplanetary but what if I want to live my life bravely as a whole, not just have courage around "must have" things? For example a few days ago I was at a post office and a drunk/high/crazy guy was bothering an old lady because she "took" his spot in a line that he previously "reserved". I felt like I should step in but instead just walked out like it's none of my business. Yesterday it was raining heavily and I had an umbrella with me and I thought how it would be cool to offer some girl to walk with her. But I didn't because I was too afraid. @Intraplanetary thanks for sharing the book, I will check it out.

I love handwriting much more than typing on a computer and whenever I really need to think things through I do it on paper. I am not sure why, but I feel like it's easier for me to think this way, not to mention that I just love the process in general. But of course the issue is that you can't really organise and store your notes the same way you could in a digital commonplace book. So I was wondering if there is anything I can do to overcome this issue. The only thing I can think of so far is to make photos or scans of my notes and then upload them to my digital commonplace book, but I am worried that they will start taking up too much space and it will be cumbersome in general. Has anyone tried to do it this way? What software should I use: Notion, Obsidian (I don't like outlook because it's windows only and I have a mac and don't want to be tied to one OS forever in general).

@Average Investor thanks for sharing

@Girzo @Thought Art @Average Investor thanks for advise guys I've decided to use a hybrid system for now. Writing some notes by hand and some on a laptop + taking photos of handwritten notes like Girzo advised. @Leo Gura so basically I would need to have a whole library of separate notebooks for different topics if I went fully with handwriting, right? @Stretch how do you organize them exactly?

Also, this sub forum seems to be dead. You would have better chances if you posted it in mental health or self-actualization section.

@Mileyofpink what makes you yhink he has one? Did he mention it anywhere?

@Thought Art wow, this one is actually really cool. And I guess I could buy it in an alternative universe, but I love my fountain pens too much ))

@LSD-Rumi yeah this is probably what I will do or get a scanner in the long term. I am just worried that my commonplace book file will become too big over time and if it might cause any issues. @RebornConsciousness Yeah, that's a good idea. Having two different apps sounds like a bad idea for me and I don't really need it on a mobile. Also, as I said I don't really like one note because it's not really clear to me what will happen if I decide to switch OS to Linux for example. I like obsidian more because it uses standard files and markup language so my files won't be tied down to just obsidian if anything happens to it. Plus it's available on mac, windows, and linux. I just need to learn how to use it properly. Ehh, but they are so awesome, haha.

@Lila9 thanks for sharing. Does it save notes in pdf so that you can watch them anywhere? I don't think this is the best option for me though. I like the feeling of writing on the paper and disconnecting from all the electronic devices since I already spend too much time in front of the screen. Also, I've just bought a new fountain pen, ink, and a journal and am really excited to use them, haha I think I will go for a mixed system where I take some notes on my laptop (for example from actualized.org videos) and then also have a paper journal on the side. I've come up with a really cool idea of an emotional mastery journal (inspired by your suggestion btw).

Also, as a sidenote, I think that having siblings is really great. I don't know what I would do without my sister and brother.

No problem it was very interesting to read. I see. You sound like a great mom, so I am sure you will do great. If kids should be born to anyone it's to people like you I think. Idk honestly. Sometimes I feel excited by the idea of having a child and raising it, and can fantasize about it here and there. But also sometimes I feel like dedicating my life to myself, haha. In any case, if I will every have kids, it will probably be in my late 30s / early 40s, because I would like to be the best dad I can for them.

I signed a letter. Now, if we are all going to die, I can at least say that I did my part in trying to stop it

So we are basically fucked because even if we should actually shut it down, there is no way humanity would organize itself to actually implement this decision, right? Like even just doing it on the scale of one country, like the US, would be super hard. There is no chance that it can be done on a worldwide scale. @Leo Gura shouldn't intelligence be correlated with how loving you are? Do you think that this is not going to be the case with AI? I mean, if it has no self-awareness or consciousness, then it shouldn't act out of its own free will. And if it will indeed become conscious, hyper intelligent, and able to act on its own, then shouldn't it also be able to appreciate life? Or am I getting it wrong?

@ElenaO wow, I've just read the whole thing and think that it's really cool that you documented your journey here. In the beginning you didn't sound like you would ever want to repeat this process again, did your opinion change now? What made you decide to have a second kid? Edit: also, did doctors tell you why did you have the miscarriage / what went wrong?

Idk, it's kind of fun. I've watched a bunch of serial killer documentaries lately. Maybe I could become one as well. Maybe it's my life purpose to be a vigilante serial killer, haha And if I was contemplating my choice of victims, cheaters would be at the top of the list. But don't worry, I am just trolling

Wait till you learn what I would do with your balls if you cheated for real

Because you behave like one. You could honestly let a woman who you are dating know that you plan to sleep with other people even after marriying her because that's just who you are and because you have a very primal libido, and blah, blah, blah. That would be a strong move. But you know that if you did this no woman would decide to build a relationship with you so instead you decide to use sneaky tactics and manipulations. You would be a loser because you can't get the amount of sex that you want while being upfront and honest. For example by building a polyamourous relationship or by staying single and having casual sex with different women. That would require some skills, effort and character on your part, and you have none, which is a definition of a looser. On top of that you decide to compensate your lack of skills, effort, and character with petty lies and manipulation. Which turns you into a little, sneaky looser. If you have sex with another woman while being in a committed monogamous relationship and hide this from your wife because you are fully aware that she would be hurt by it and wouldn't like it, then you don't love your wife in the first place. And probably also have no idea what it means to love someone at all. So the notion of you "not loving your wife less" after it is irrelevant since there was no love to begin with. No, I am a man, and I would rather cut my balls off than cheat on my partner.

Besides you turning into a sneaky little looser? There is no problem. For you. For your wife it would be a problem however, cause that would mean that she has wasted a tonn of time and energy on a sneaky little looser instead of spending it with someone who genuinely loves her and cares about her.

@Lila9 haha, wtf.

100% agree with that, but I also think that different breeds should have a place to exist. Border Collies are amazing for example and are a quite healthy breed. And yeah, the industry could be much more conscious and ethical of course.

So... How do I take ownership of my life and actually make real transformations that stick?

This is an interesting point of view. So you think that in the future (in an ideal world) nobody should be allowed to have pets at all. Also, do you mean the process of breeding and selling / buying a pet is unethical in general or do you mean dogs and cats specifically because they need to eat meat?

I feel like this song is so true Это как бросать постепенно — тот же самый развод Размазывать свои сопли по стенам на ещё один год От гнезда до полёта — только рывок Ты либо бросился навстречу неизвестности, либо не смог Я буду долго запрягать у хлипкого моста Но с прошлым своим распишусь в один удар хлыста Сорву с себя всё напускное, за слоем слой Открою глаза и впервые увижу, кто я такой Во всём себе признаюсь, все пластыри посдираю Где я сужу, не остыв, где надменен до края Где я на самом деле о себе, а не о ком-то С чем я родился и что нацепил для понта Где я себя обманываю — впредь и отныне Пропасть в один шаг между достоинством и гордыней Чтобы научиться парить, на небосклоне мерцать Нужно увидеть в отражении слепого птенца

What stops me from changing my life right now and becoming the person I want to be? The only thing that stops me is my own victim complex. I like to whine about how lost, depressed, hopeless I am. I've put myself into a mindset where I feel helpless. I tell myself that I just "can't control myself" and how I always backslide to where I started. But what if it doesn't have to be like that? What if it's my own decision to backslide and give up, and go back to my old ways? What really stops me from saying "No" and moving forward forever? Nothing, my own limiting beliefs and victim mentality, that's it. I can do it, I can change if I really decide to. I can change right now. I don't have to keep struggling back and forth forever, this is madness. Whatever suffering I escape by giving up is nothing compared to how I suffer by drowning in this swamp I am living in now. Suffering comes from victimhood, uncertainty, and back and forth struggle.