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I guess girls not willing to pay for themselves is also a good filter. Since I don't want to be with a person like that anyway. I want to have a strong and independent partner who respects me and herself.

Okay, maybe not the best example. But your party example is also bad. Why make appeals to culture or majority opinion if we are trying to use reason?

this is going too far

Like really, as if he is not also giving her his time. If she thought that their time is of equal value, then they would cancel each other out. Instead, she feel like her time is more valuable so she wants to be paid for on top of him putting all his time and effort in.

Asking a person out IS THE HARD PART. You should be the one showing appreciation for being approached. You are feeling entitled, to be approached, asked out, taken out on a pre-planned adventure, and also be paid for, lol. But somehow, in your mind the guy is the one who is entitled. This is expected of both parties. And so should be paying your half. It's a shared experience that both people are benefiting from and they should mutually contribute to it. It's not about being cheap, it's about being fair. But I guess if all you see are dollar signs than yeah, very cheap.

@Princess Arabia you are acting like he is a sex worker asking you to pay for your time with him. when in fact he is just asking you to contribute to the date fairly, 50/50

Or maybe bitter, idk

Lol, this honestly sounds so arrogant. I don't see why it should be different? Also, I don't think you are considering this, but you basically filtering out all the guys who are actually genuine and authentic enough to actually have a position on this. Leaving yourself with the kind of guys you see in this thread "I will do whatever if it means I will get into her pants". But maybe that's who you are looking for, idk. Personally, I think that if a man is willing to give up sex and dating opportunities for the sake of his beliefs, that says a lot.

Being in nature has a positive psychological effect on people. And being barefoot can stimulate the nerves in your feet, and in general give you a lot of cool sensations, which might once again have positive psychological effect on you. What makes you think that it has anything to do with electric charges?

I think this is a very important part.

Not so fast! Before you go, check out this 4 minute habit tracker video. And if you get interested, the whole concept of bullet journal in general. I think this is a much more positive mindset, because you stop looking at relapses as relapses, just a part of your journey to rewire your brain. And also imagine tracking it for like a year, and seeing yourself gradually improve, a few percent at a time.

@Thought Art do you stick to splitting as a matter of principle?

@Hojo first of all, this "asking to get taken advantage of" is a weak mindset. The worst thing that will happen is that you will pay for some random person's coffee, is it so horrible? You don't have to see them again if you didn't like their attitude. Secondly, I didn't say how you need to act. I didn't say that you always need to act in a way to please them. What "act accordingly" means depends on you and the situation. Maybe for you that means get up and leave.

@freddyteisen what exactly do you refer to when you say "grounding" and how do you think it works?

Once again, you are overcomplicating an already simple thing. There is no a simpler solution. Just see if the person is paying and act accordingly.

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you are overcomplicating it. It way simpler than that

@Princess Arabia or not even a date, just in general. Whenever I am invited to go out I always assume that I am expected to pay for myself. That just seems like common decency to me. A few times I didn't have the money so I would just say that straight away: "sorry, I can't come, I don't have the money right now". And then my friend would say that it's okay and that he will pay for me. And that was super sweet and special. I can't imagine just taking that for granted.

@Princess Arabia what's your reasoning behind the idea that whoever asks another person out on a date should be expected to pay? It sounds very entitled to me, like you are coming down from heaven and doing them a favor

@AION you are excused.

How convenient for you. Zero self awareness.

@Michael569 what do you think I described?

@Michael569 yeah, this is such a stereotype, lol. There are just as many woke feminist girls (using his language) in Poland as in the Western Europe or America.

You are so disingenuous with your fake spiritual attitude. I've quoted his specific point and said that it's wrong. So your argument about truths and blindspots does not fit the situation. But who cares about that as long as you can act like you have some spiritual high ground, right? Exactly, cause I am right and all your arguments have zero substance behind them, so you need to backtrack and "call me out on my attitude". If you want to be so spiritual, why don't you start by focusing on yourself and accepting my "attitude", instead of preaching to other people? Oh, right - preaching is cooler and easier. No, as a matter of fact, he did not.