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What do I do if I feel hopeless and like I am not capable of achieving anything serious / becoming a massive value provider?

It wasn't a real date but a role play scene during the dating workshop, but I think the same thing would happen to me in real life as well. The setting was that me and the girl I was partners with are on our first date at the restaurant and we need to chat, flirt, and show attraction for each other. And I just failed miserably, haha. The moment I sat down at the table across her, my heart started racing, my mind went completely empty, and I just stared at her like an idiot, having no clue what to do. I've tried to save it a few times, asking to restart the scene and asking her random questions (like oh, tell me about those bracelets you are wearing). But I would quickly get reach dead end and once again find myself not knowing what to say and covering my face with my palms in embarrassment. The funny thing is that before the exercise, I was able to have pretty decent conversations with this same girl, in a more relaxed, friendly atmosphere. But I completely shat my pants under pressure. I know there is probably no easy, magic solution to it and it's just a matter of exposing myself to this kind of experience again, and again, and again, until my brain stops freaking out. But still, does anyone have any tips, lol? I know I am supposed to free associate and come up with topis based on what's happening right now, and also ask her questions, but I couldn't do any of it at all.

@Sincerity I think I might take 0.5gr of mushrooms the next time I go out. I think it could help me.

we clearly have different personality types.

@SchizophoniaI wish I could be like you, that would make things very simple. But I am not.

@Princess Arabia thank you.

Have you seen their live presentation? Lol. Ahead of everyone might be a stretch.

@Yimpa so sweet <3 Thanks.

I wasn't rejected. I just fucked up real bad.

@Leo Gura didn't a lot of human rights, specifically: equality, feminism, acceptance of gay people, start out as stage orange thing? Just by the nature of dropping stage blue values and it being the rational thing to do? At least it seems so to me because those movements all started way before any stage green (which has expanded them a lot since then).

@ivankiss thank you! Hopefully, I will be able to get some more experience with this soon.

@ivankissok, thanks

And it's funny because normally, I could only dream of a girl asking if I want to hold her hands like that. But in this case I just was too proud to do that, and because it felt like such a low hanging fruit to reach for.

@ivankiss I agree that it comes down to fear. What exactly I was afraid off? I need to think about that. I guess I just felt put on the spot. Like: here you are, perform. And that pressure is what made me so anxious? Why is that scary? What I was afraid would happen if I performed badly? Well, I am in luck, cause I did perform badly, haha. And I guess what happened is that I: 1. lost an opportunity with that girl 2. yeah, made a fool of myself as well, I guess 3. now I feel kind of empty, sad, and lonely Is that all I was afraid off or is there something more? I feel like there is. I think that if I was fully aware that this is all there is to it, I wouldn't care that much. Actually, I guess I really wanted to look good in her eyes, and also in the eyes of everybody else there. And was more afraid of making a fool of myself that I am consciously admitting. And that's what caused the most stress.

Oh also, I was freaking out so much that she was like "do you want to hold my hands?"

That's what I've recently realised with those dating workshops and also acting classes. Just having balls to raise your hand and volunteer and just showing up isn't enough. Unless I somehow get my mind under control, it will keep sabotaging me and I want be able to actually do anything. I don't think that's true (maybe the last part, a bit). Sure, she was attractive. But I wasn't obsessed with her or "wanted" her all that much. I came there with the mindset of getting a fishing rod, not a fish. And I tried to keep coming back to it, without being distracted by whether I like any particular girl or not. Maybe I wasn't able to fully embody it, but still. I just feel like there was so much inherent pressure in the situation itself, aside from whether the girl was attractive or not. I think she could be ugly and I wouldn't do much better.

...and people with no intellectual integrity Unless you are making a viral youtube interview that is.

I am glad. Respect for actually watching it. I would be surprised

@Nivsch enjoy

Dr Mike: Is there research that backs up where if you change someone's diet to have high vit C content, that that negates their risk of smoking? Dr Gundry: Yeah, that has all been done in the blue zones Dr Mike: Do you think that the blue zone project is a valuable thing for us to look at as a form of evidence? Dr Gundry: Uhh, no.

it's hard for me to say anything about this, because it's so generic. Which theory are you referring to, that smoking increases longevity or that modern fruits out of season are horrible for you and you might as well eat milky ways? In any case, this is irrelevant. This is not a thread about diet. I've posted this video as a prefect example of speaking to somebody who is incapable of reasoning with you with integrity, showing how pointless it is. This comment from youtube summarizes it perfectly: Dr Gundry: Fruits are bad Dr Mike: but they contain so many nutrients Dr Gundry: yes that’s why they are healthy Dr mike: but you said they are horrible Dr Gundry: yes, I treat people in my clinic

Being a responsible, conscious citizen is the essense of democracy. Anybody who thinks that a propagandist who cares about nothing but his wallet is a hero has something wrong with them.

I've done infinitely more for democracy than your friend Charlie, who's had a net negative impact on it, by being a sober, moral, prudent citizen.

And God said, Let there be fire: and there was fire.