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Can relate. On meds I also had less problems socializing but all the social shit I went through I processed made me angry as well and I got colder, not hugging much any more and so forth. I also realized that I didn't make bad social decisions they were all good, I just lacked a little self-righteousness.

Oh interesting, what was his medication before quitting? Yes people with inattentive adhd can mirror the energy of the other person, which makes them more calm.

Damn I didnt read the thread concentrated. I can relate to this so much. On the other hand it could be a helpful phase to get your material meets met IF you can get out of it and find yourself afterwards.

Catching the devil You cant ultimately grasp the devil because you are it. You are the devil. And all you are doing is deviling. Trying to grasp what the devil is itself deviling. Like a finger that tries to point to itself. But it can only point away from itself.

I haven't done therapy either. But I know there are just some things that help and where therapist might help you with: If you have people who put you at ease for example or a body double who helps with studying or even finding your LP so you develop a hyper focus on that and get shit done.

I did have the same fear and have the same fear going forward. I did take medikinet and it did change my personality quite a lot. Now that I didnt take it for quite a while my old personality came back quite a lot. But not completely. It helped me to work through experiences which were very emotionally charged in that I was just able to regulate the emotions that were connected to the experiences and then let these experiences go. It felt pretty unlovely though, it all happened unconsciously. I would have rather worked through that consciously. Like I feel changed without an experience that caused the change. In general I feel a little healthier and more practical but it's the way I got here that doesnt sit right with me. Have you tried therapy? At least in Germany medication are usually only described after "natural" healing methods are tried out.

No this!: Don't be fooled, women can be pigs too.

This becomes a new science.

@Infinite Tsukuyomi I would be too afraid to show pictures of me in underwear. It feels like a certain status commitment, in the end I care more about relationship then much sex. And I have a regular package, I dont know if this is something you can market. I asked chatgpt for more subtle ways to show of your meat, its hilarious: Yes, there are ways to subtly highlight your physique and hint at what you’re bringing to the table without being as overt as posing in underwear. Here are some more reserved but still effective ways to showcase yourself on Tinder: 1. Well-Fitted Pants or Shorts • A good pair of grey sweatpants (the classic) or well-fitted jeans can subtly showcase your shape without being over-the-top. • Athletic shorts with a slight bulge in a natural pose (like sitting casually) can also do the trick. 2. Swimwear Shots • A beach or pool pic in swim trunks is a socially acceptable way to show some skin. • The key is to look natural—walking, standing confidently, or coming out of the water. 3. Gym or Sports Pics • A post-workout mirror selfie in fitted shorts can showcase both physique and a natural outline. • Playing a sport (e.g., basketball, running) in compression shorts or fitted joggers works too. 4. Sitting Poses • A relaxed seated pose with legs spread slightly apart (not exaggerated) can naturally emphasize your package. • Something like sitting on a ledge or steps in casual wear. 5. Slight Shadow or Lighting Tricks • Soft lighting or shadow placement can enhance certain features without making it seem staged. • A photo where the light hits from the side can subtly create a shape. 6. A Towel Shot (Post-Shower, But Classy) • A post-shower mirror selfie wrapped in a towel can be suggestive while leaving a bit to the imagination. • Keeping it casual (e.g., brushing teeth or looking at your phone) makes it feel effortless. 7. Low-Key Bedroom Shot • Sitting or lying in bed with sheets draped over your lower body can give a relaxed, intimate vibe without going full thirst-trap. • Boxers peeking out from under sheets can work too.

Small biodegradable garbage bags (if you separate your waste) because: they fill up quicker and so you never built up a lot of fruit/ vegetable juice that would need cleaning and you can throw the whole bag away. Women's baggy jeans. Women jeans fit and look better then mens jeans on men. Womens jeans sometimes have many details though like smaller bags or feminine cut which looks a little weird on men. If you get a baggy jeans it's naturally a manly style. So you get a women's jeans with manly style. I felt very smart for this one. Joe Nimble Addict shoe. It's a great all around shoe, it has elements of a barefoot shoe like a wider toe box and a flat sole but its not a complete barefoot shoe as the sole is still 10mm. The shoe doesnt look like a "health shoe" at all. Cardigan which dont fully close. There are some which are intentionally cut in a way that they dont cover your whole chest. It's great to have it at home hanging over a chair and put on when it's a little colder.

Yeah probably it was an emotional comment. But my point was that there need to be mechanisms that punish behavior like this. That he gets a thread on this forum for doing dumb shit just proves my point that bad behavior benefits him as he gets more famous for it.

I doubt that. The rest I agree with.

The last few days I wasn't very productive. I have holidays (from school) but exams phase so I really should get shit now but I didnt. I need social support for emotion regulation and hopefully body doubles for studying. I tried getting shit done on my own for years with no success with few phases of working with other people where magic happened when I finally got something done. But finding the right people is difficult for me, there is basically no one I know that I would like to have that close to me. It's a pretty difficult situation.

Had my weekly ADHD self help group session today. I learn something new every time. Apparently keto diet can help with adhd symptoms, I might try that out. What's very interesting is that although people with adhd have very similar symptoms oftentimes it doesnt make them similar people at all. Some are more, some are less intelligent. Some have interests there and others there. For example many people with adhd struggle with attention span, especially if the task at hand isnt interesting so most adhd people would struggle with hard science for example. But if a person with adhd is interested in that, that person can get a hyper focus on this subject and competly nail it. I can develop a hyper focus. When I was a teenager I sometimes pissed myself when playing video games because I had such a hyper focus at the task at hand my system didnt have enough resources to even maintain basic bodily functions. I always thought that what kept me from achieving much wasn't my lack of intelligence or talent but interest. If I would just find the one thing I am very passionate about I would be great at it. Thats very likely the case. What is that though wtf!? It's in the direction of selflessness, great character, creativity, understanding .. it's not something easily tangible.

@NewKidOnTheBlock Then you just waste your vote which could be used against trump by voting democrats.

@Shodburrito Do you feel better now that you opened up and shared it?

I abandoned the belief that girls are physically attracted to guys in a significant way. Maybe it's different on tinder because looks are all there is. Well it takes a match to make a date. I dont think women would swipe right if they weren't interested, the guy can show off his matches to other people so the girls invest status.

Yes but it's against everything you have been told. Like it's usually about being charming and funny and when that goes right girls become emotionally open for sex. He just straight up shows off his meat wtf. But I am no attracting doctor btw. I see this as a learning opportunity. Maybe I am too uptight.

@Raze The button in the middle of the tinder apps makes two things visible, who likes you and what the top picks are.

I feel like people like this only adopt their behavior when serious punishments are on the line. He doesnt need to go to jail for this right? - he just becomes more popular. So it's a net win for him. I dont think it much more complicated then that. For that reason he should go to jail though.

Yeah thats what I mean. You explained it better though.

@Daniel Balan When we dont know the subject that is being talked about we tend to rely on secondary indicators which would indicate/ make it more likely that what is being said is valid. Indicators like a good ability to articulate oneself, confidence, ... basically what you talk about. You said It yourself, you need to think critically about what is being said. When you catch somebody lying you have to put all what is being said into question. And I also think with experience you won't get persuaded as easily. When you study human behavior by observing other people you can kind develop a good enough bullshit detector to see that trump isnt authentic, even if you dont know much about politics.

Sesame Street is brilliant at times.

Probably just for attention. Kanye does a lot for attention. Or the site got hacked.

Because a small company doesnt have enough power to be that unethical. When they get bigger they have a growing potential to do so.