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Stage green can be very promiscuous. It could develop further so that sex becomes pretty much free for guys. At first I thought it was a good thing because removing the neediness for sex would make people come together only for deeper reasons. On the other hand maybe that's what relationships are all about at the end. Loving somebody because you have to because you are dependent on them. You bullshit yourself into a bubble, the dependency is stronger than your demand for truth and you are genuinely happy in that bullshit bubble. What's the bigger picture here? Edit: Anyone familiar with the hippie movement? They probably had lots of experiences with that.

Thats true. I just dont think it makes up happier. A deep connection is great but is something you have to work towards and if there are tons of easy options out of there it doesnt happen as easily. Just like healthy food in the supermarket isnt picked by anyone although it is the best choice. (Bad analogy maybe: I dont think just sex is necessary is like candy just bad but it can be for many).

@Miguel1 Thats still a lot, thanks! Edit: I feel like when people burn through their karma their character develops. These incels, black pillers, red pillers wouldn't be that way when there was a society with easier access to sex I think.

Changing by staying the same - Staying the same by changing PARADOX: The more you change the more you stay the same. In the reverse way how Star Wars looses its spirit by trying to hold onto it. From Leos Blog George Lucas Explains Star Wars: You can't "hold on to the spirit that started all this" because spirit is dynamic"

Its scary. I think a person who is confident enough to think that a dating coach would help them has already gotten enough approval that they dont need one that much.

I blocked all music and I feel a lot more at peace. The little dopamine rush from music could distract and numb myself from work and responsibility. But I am very sensitive to all distraction cause I have ADHD. Just try it out and see how it goes. Moderation is probably key. You can put a timer on your music to make it easier when you find it positive to reduce your consumption.

I see. And I agree there must still be ways to communicate what you are looking for. Because there will be people looking for shallow sex and there will be people looking for something deeper and these people need to manage themselves. I think I need to further explain what I mean by free sex. I dont mean absolute free sex, just a bigger proportion of society being open for free sex so sexy people could always meet. So just imagine the system would be similar to the first world countries now just that there would be a higher percentage of promiscuity (especially at clubs and tinder.) Everyone could consensually bang in a shallow way or when they are tired of that look (and only look) for a deep connection in traditional ways. Everyone would get what they want, people who dont want deep connections dont need to lie and hurt others just to have sex and people who want a deep connection actually focus on that because there is no neediness lying to you (that you are in love with somebody when you are actually not so you can justify sleeping with somebody). I have a real life example for that. In Germany there is a super leftist sex positive club. People go (half) naked in there and there are tons of places to bang and people bang there all the time. Are clubs like these good or bad for society is what my post boils down to?

What do you mean by fucked up people and how would they abuse the system?

Yeah. What do you want to demonstrate?

@rawdawg Nope sorry.

He is taking a break. He is on the forum though so not dead.

@Rafael Thundercat Great examples!

Don't you think the act of sex itself is a form of intimacy or is it a special kind of sex that is deepening? And what's your opinion on the initial question? Do you think free sex is a good thing and people would connect with the intention of depth?

Fantastic.

True. What's your position on this then, like when is sex appropriate?

Being mature means, you get joy out of doing the right thing. If you haven't discovered that you get joy out of that, you are forced to take immature love because you always take love in the best form that is available.

I like that. Very very interesting. It makes a lot of intuitive sense. I like this example of what it means in reverse. Once a certain grounding structure is given it's fun to break out of it. Like with the clone troopers.

Communication seems to be the problem here. People who approach sex differently (one casual, the other one with the intention to bond) shouldn't be together.

Interesting. Had similar thoughts as well recently. I have F+ with a girl right now. There is no deep romantic spark for me but the time with her is super enjoyable. I feel like I can be myself, no pressure, my life is pretty good with that.. If I go ham into spirituality then maybe long lasting relationship strategies are the way to go for grounding basic mental health as I get deep satisfaction from spirituality. (maybe) On the other hand I want to burn through some deep romantic karma.

Difficult to say, that goes to the core of creation at the most meta level I guess. I dont have awakenings regarding this but some thoughts. I think the meta thing is that love wins. Meaning higher forms of love win. Meaning parts of consciousness that have embodied more parts of reality (love) generally have the upper hand. That doesnt mean that a developed person can't be killed by a serial killer of course. But the developed person tends to be around people who are also well developed and together they built a strong society that far succeeds (wins the fight) against the social circle of what serial killers or other less developed people would built. So in general higher forms of love win. If you watched Avatar the last Airbender I really like the scene where Iron teaches Zuko how to redirect Lightning. Iroh found that technique by learning techniques from other tribes outside the fire nation. By embodying other parts of reality (love) he overpowered smaller parts of reality. (like narrow minded fire benders)

Does it end well? I don't want to have to watch the movie now.

Just saw your Blog post about good game and "shooting the shit". Is this example in the video adequate? I just want to make sure I understand correctly.

I haven't seen his forum presence as I joined after Connor. I loved Connors videos so much even though the cringe was almost unbearable. Of course it was crazy and he was out of control but his vibe was incredible. It felt like I kind of understood how people of a more developed society could be like. Free of fears, totally engaged with the present moment. Living every day as though it was the last. The amount of shit he went through in just a couple months. Always changing as well so it kept being real.

What about bisexuals then...

It's either not articulated clearly what is meant by it or it doenst make sense to me. "If serious philosophy starts and ends when you realize you are God philosophy never happens."