TurquoiseAngel

What kind of dancing / place? You can still attract girls using your own personality traits and having fun your way. Some girls will be attracted to the quiet, confident guy enjoying yourself on the sidelines, not needing to pick up or be the life and soul. You don't need lots of girls all over you at all times, you need only one. One quality interaction with one significant girl at a time will be more fruitful than lots of random girls all around you (this might even destroy your game in my opinion). He was accepted in the group and got free drinks...is that what you are looking for? Group acceptance and free drinks? I have met many men like the one you describe. They are actually not creating sexual tense and attraction with women, they are being used for entertainment and will possibly almost always end up in friend-zone. If you think you are better looking you have a huge advantage. Work on your authenticity and create you own game instead of PUA or other people's game.

Let her be free to find someone who will passionately love her, enjoy being with her, have sex with her and build a future with her. Tell her that you care about her happiness and you are not the guy who will give her the love and appreciation she deserves. She might suffer at the beginning but she will thank you later. Be kind, compassionate, answer her questions honestly but with gentleness. Do it face to face in a safe environment where she can cry if she needs to and have time to composure herself.

Are you sure you are straight? Just asking questions...

Healthy suffering comes with light bulb moments and unhealthy suffering keeps you in a dark loop of toxic patterns and victimhood. Lots of creative ideas and resourcefulness from healthy suffering but unhealthy suffering you make you age quickly and get sick.

You need to listen to the podcasts I posted and get more info on this topic.

And her ex husband's story: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/mormon-stories-lds/id312094772?i=1000481711354

Her childhood friend talking here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/mormon-stories-lds/id312094772?i=1000565436701

Why would you waste your precious time?

It depends on what kind of coaching you are talking about. The best coaches will help you to see your own perspective and help you change your perspective on your own terms if you want and are ready to. Life coaches are not really supposed to teach you anything (I am a coach). They are supposed to act as a sound board, ask you deep questions tailored to your specific situation so you think in ways you never had before and they are supposed to challenge your limiting beliefs so you can empower yourself. It is not like having two doctors and having two different diagnosis. Leo is acting more as a mentor than a coach. If somebody is teaching you anything they are mentoring you, not coaching. I agree with FlyingLotus, best to work with a high quality one rather than two lower quality ones however do your research properly because in this industry price not always necessarily means quality. Look out for testimonials and qualifications. You will probably get a 30 to 45 minutes complimentary session to ask questions, get to know your coach and see if you both are a good fit. You will benefit from using and trusting your intuition here and clarify all of your doubts and curiosities. Having said that I am working with 3 coaches at the moment - 1 for business / 1 for my art making / 1 for communication skills and English language (this is a mix of coaching and mentoring as I am advanced level but I want to get to native level). I had another coach for health and fitness but I simply don't have any more time and energy at the moment, plus this an area that I need less support with. So in a nutshell, think about the area of your life you want to work on and find a coach that specialises in that particular area (not because they will teach you but most importantly because they have probably been where you are or have a passion for the topic which gives them great empathy and insight about the challenges you are going through) or find a general Life Coach that is happy to coach in any topic. Or work with more than one like I do but I suggest that you compartmentalise. Or find a mentor. Hope this helps and let me know if you have any questions.

Great awareness. Take charge. I feel that she is replacing the role of your mum somehow? All of us have an inner child that needs to heal. Be the parent of this inner child. If you can't do for yourself right now, think of you as a little boy who is being neglected and not looked after very well. and do it for him! Re-parent yourself. I hope it helps;) Let me know how it goes.

Years and years ago when I first started watching youtube (I came late to the party btw), when I found Leo and other great people, I also came across mindvalley and although I tried many times to get into it, I could not. I have even physical reactions in my body by listen the voice of Vishen Lakhiani or even looking at him. I can listen to Marisa Peer a little bit but I don't trust her (for no reason). I also have tried to watch Ajit Nawalkha (who I just discoevered is the co-founder), still, it doesn't gel. I can't stand. I am coming to the point of considering paying youtube so I don't have to see the ads popping up every time I want to watch something. It specially comes when I click on Actualized. However I know this is not a solution. Understanding why it triggers me so bad and dealing with it would be a better thing to do. Any ideas? and, is it only me?

I don't think Leo ever talked about and I am wondering if anyone here is familiar with it? I got into it for about a week but with most all things now, I need less than a week to see if it fits with what I am or trying to create or if it will be BS for me (at least at the moment). However during that week, I met many people who are deep into it and now are living their whole lives out of the new found identity and as they keep connecting with me, the topic is always coming up. Any thoughts?

I enjoyed reading this, thank you.

Okay! Now it suddenly became more interesting and closer to my heart.

Thank you for the video, I will watch eventually. I worked with two Enneagrams coaches (only 1 session each) and they work with the concept that we have 2 wings - they don't know each other. So apparently I am a 5 with one wing 4 and one wing 1

@fopylo You are allowed to be a work in progress - and a masterpiece - at the same time. Have you heard of this quote? Don't be afraid of making bad and insignificant art, it is better then NO art

According to an enneagram coach assessment I am a 5w4w1 Do you identify with the perfectionism of 1? I don't know much about 2 ...

I really enjoyed the week that I spent learning about it and it was cool see some of my patterning through the lenses of yet another system but I guess what bothered me was people letting it take over their lives and just describing themselves by whatever enneagram they claim they are and using it as an excuse or reason for everything. It felt caged. I do not want to be boxed up and labelled. Plus I think that with the amount of healing I had already done and continue doing it was causing more noise in me then peace.

Great awareness! Now, what are you going to do about it?

Enneagram Human Design Gene Keys

You are not trusting the process, trusting yourself and trusting music. And you are not committed and consistent. And you are not celebrating you for being on the journey but want a perfect finished product. The only failure is not doing anything. When you do something, even if the result doesn't please you, it is valuable information about your next step and about you.

Hi Leo, Since you like Spiral Dynamics, have you had a look at Gene Keys and Human Design? Would love to hear your take on it.

Going back to basics

+1 I would be more interested in an in depth Osho discussion then Peter J