Cathal

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  1. @itachi uchiha that's been my experience but i have heard stories, i think finding a sangha/spiritual group or just finding in general like minded people is the best solution that you can work on now. just trying to find them, putting the effort in to search and meetup and all that. i am sure with your intuition you will figure it out yourself
  2. @itachi uchiha loneliness!!!!!!!!! is!!!!!!! communicating to you, that, you haven't found your tribe/companions yet. in my experience anyways. the question is, are you being authentic enough around people to allow yourself to be accepted as you are... to feel accepted as you are? that is the medicine to loneliness but if you have no social interaction i mean, there has to be a change in your lifestyle. it's work man, it's work, it's really about putting the effort in even when you don't want to, trying to be genuinely curious about people and really allowing yourself to be, it is a deep scar for me. there is absolutely nothing you can to bypass this, as all forms of escape just return you back to the same point, it is an evolutionary need you will have to fulfill by finding people to fulfill it with!
  3. well if you are really fucking lost you will surely have to understand how to develop silence in the mind, like.. to actually FEEL stillness, otherwise it's just too likely you will get wrapped in another intellectual exercise. Intuition is really only understood if you experience life in a ceratin way, you want to look at reality for what it is. Your heart will ache out to what it wants to do, your mind will say no that's dangerous - why do you think people are so out of tune with intuition? it is this bubble of comfort destroying people and choosing ignorance over reality that makes them so fucking unstable and fragile 1. Learning how to develop trust in yourself and the end of having to fear what others think of you truly (and the end of trying to stop caring) 2. Returning to your childhood innocence, your state of harmony, your non-dual natural state - your inner guidance returning home to pure essence/consciousness. 3. Intuition will cathart the trash/trauma/the bonds of your separate self and dissolve the core identities you've created to adapt to your environment, you are returning home to the feeling of being truly free. 4. If you surrender to this form of intelligence, you give up attaching to the duality of the intellect and the limitations of instinct - intuition can drive you forward and pull you out of the grave if you only take the leap of confronting the fears of what you have been conditioned to believe. 5. Intuition is your inner map and your inner parent that KNOWS what is good for you/best for you - it may take some time to be able to read the map, but trusting yourself you can do the right thing creates the integrity that you can rely on yourself to take care of yourself, the bonds of the dysfunctional emotional core of dependence begins to dissolve and you can truly enjoy being alone and instead of seeking completion from people, you can enjoy each others company. 6. It is the lubrication to detaching yourself from a limited form of identity into the limitless/infinite potential you have as this pure witnessing essence, the awareness that is aware of itself.
  4. @PepperBlossoms Reframe that hurting people is sometimes good for them - now you can almost make that really retarded in your mind and distort what i'm saying but basically what i'm trying to say i is CONFRONTATION is better than fluffy nice messages for many many types of people. having the love to speak up for something greater than your own discomfort yes, this is important, pity is a coping mechanism when we believe we can't change. its a bit like envy like that, these are all limiting things that have to be overcome. also what you said, is really important to me because it basically gives the perfect context, you just lack integrity. you have things you value in your heart, but you feel emotionally too wavered to be consistent, that makes a lot of sense from your story. so there we go, building integrity inside of yourself by becoming involved and taking action - find the abundance in what gives you confidence and all these things seem to make less noise in your head
  5. @Loba Yeah that's such a beautiful thing how truly equal we all are, it's very hard to truly feel the equality when we have been brought up to either spit on people or worship people... shadow work man that was really nice to read and reminded me always and everyone has a desire for goodness sometimes in fucked up ways but it's just there, you can always see the glimmer of soul no matter how attached you get, even in the old people wanting to fucking die already, it's still there if you get close enough to them. I was asking because sometimes I see people who get involved with spirituality who become very reclusive or inactive from maybe there understanding of nothingness and all that shit, and I just don't get it, i'm trying to understand it
  6. @Loba yes <3 the only thing you can trust, your own direct experience - nothing else exists and is a construct of thoughts from your direct experience but not your direct experience, so it's your experience of reality vs a made up story in your head BUT U KNOW when you experience it, let me ask you, do you feel a lust to transform your life through action for others or do you think everything is inherently pointless so fuck it all and enjoy the ride? @Yarco btw this is opinion of others making up a story, is you making up a story - look for answers yourself!
  7. that only in intellectual minds paradoxes get formed
  8. my core wound of being unaccepted by my family as a kid seems to really fuck me hard sometimes but it blows my mind how much healing i've done on it - It's really like etchings in the sand that the oceans must wash over and over and over for it to heal, and sometimes some rough striving is needed for growth @BipolarGrowth nice to hear Brandon =]
  9. the one who says that is in a framework that says mind is an appearance, that is mind saying to itself ah there is an appearance of mind - it's another game you're in mind IS the framework from which you are in and how you are percieving reality/yourself and it is not something you observe, you are observing expressions of mind
  10. only through attachments the illusion that some'thing' is reincarnating comes about, when you are in the space of pure infinity there is nothing arising or passing away so neither something was born or will ever die - and what are you? an expression of infinity, your essence or drop or spirit or soul or whatever the fuck - unless you can experience that truly there is no center to you then you are attached, unable to percieve what is right in front of you, unable to truly understand this and your intellect will try endlessly to come up to a conclusion because it all seems so far fetched because of the current framework of reality you are in dissolve the frame and see there is no center, no time, everything is spontaneously emerging for absolutely no reason from nothing
  11. @Matys if this understanding that there are no others is not enriching you or making you more loving, then you have not understood what that means, and that is why people here really get entangeled by solipism and all that shit , then you are trapped heavily in your own conceptual understanding and creating a nest out of an insight instead of using that insight to truly free your(Self) - no, the truth is you are not seeing what is causing you to perceive the boundaries between you and Self or (no others) - it is a lack of understanding of your attachments to a self and that's ALL. the more blinded you are by that, the more you go on seeking - it is just attachment! and you can't meditate or 'realize' your way out of that - that is the fundamental root of what is causing you to percieve the way you do, and you also say 'no lasting basis for action' man, look around at the world really, look at some documentaries, look at what the world is right now, there's so much basis for action. You are just a product of an environment, everything from the guy sweeping the floors in mcdonalds to the people developing new vaccines are contributing to the fact you are breathing right now - start to see the logic as it is i will say it again for anyone else who reads this, if the no others insight is truly realized by you then you it will naturally emerge a deep love and drive to serve others, if it isn't, you have not understood the no others or you done psychedelics and are attaching yourself to your insights dysfunctionally - use it functionally as in doing shadow work and such things
  12. @egoeimai too gather info of your income to see if you are eligible for free therapy - if you make enough money to pay for it yourself, you would be declined
  13. can u bump here? this seems to have worked for everyone who wrote to me. so yeah bump /char
  14. @Migue Lonas ahah love it will steal this and make myself look funny at some point later
  15. @PepperBlossoms lack of emotional intelligence causes emotions to fuck you hard, that's when your emotions turn against you sweetness and love and joy and happiness - you don't even think about it, you just are it, you become the activity - and you want to spread it to others, naturally, everyone is like that but when you avoid, run, judge, escape, push away other emotions or fundamentally believe it's right and wrong to feel certain things, you will trap yourself in misery for suresy
  16. Most of you guys haven't realized you were raised up in a cult, it hasn't hit you, everything you do and value is defined by others and you are enslaved into seeking validation from other people in an echo chamber you can't even escape on the internet, you are merely a product of conditoning - at least what you seperate as other cults and communes people looked a bit happier would you rather be where you are or here?
  17. @Manusia Learn to trust yourself, that's all that you have to do to emerge masculine energy - that and working out The reason masculinity is so praised is because you were conditioned in a validation seeking society full of bitches who can't stand there own ground or do the right thing, they live in fear of not doing socially acceptable things and have there values and behaviours defined by others Find something bigger than yourself to live for and give yourself into it, your masculinity will blow up
  18. intense mania and suicidal comedowns (2019) they are a good substitute for a lack of emotional intelligence
  19. Be careful with psychedelics, they can really fuck with you - in the absolute sense of everything you can only grow and learn, but relative to your experience right now it can be extremely painful when there is a dense layer of ego that has all of these core attachments (like to your gf) and the existential things aren't exactly to be rushed, there is no rush to God-realization for anyone at all and I would say use lower doses to get some clarity on why there are these dense layers and how you can work through the layers instead of trying to eat the elephant in one bite - taking it bite by bite. What is the most important thing is not the secrets to the Universe but how to reduce your experience of suffering You are all alone but everything is you and it's better to reframe it as, you are deeply connected to everything around you at all times, you are an ecosystem that is in sync and harmony with the entire universe and this beautiful planet, but when you have strong attachments to limited forms such as a family or friends and a gf, I can imagine it's quite confrontationally intense to see them no more important as a tree or flower. But yeah, overall you can see now that everything around you is you and you can treat it with sweetness and you can begin to understand yourself so much more radically through being aware it's always your mind projecting itself and there is so much room for growth right now, your eyes are opened and you can use this experience as a reference frame for choices you make right now that are good for you and everyone around you <3
  20. @sleep Hi there. Let me ask you one thing, do you do any of things consistently a lot of the time? 99% of things you will suck at in life, but if you are afraid of failing you will miss out on 99% of stuff to do! fuck it and enjoy the process, learn to detach yourself from trying to go somewhere and enjoy what is in front of you, if you just try your best to find what works, the word failure doesn't even make sense. in your childhood you kept digging a hole and ran into so many obstacles, roots, rocks, insects, you never failed - you just kept doing something until it worked. that's how everything is, there is no failure, failure is in your bad, being bad at stuff is in your mind. ---there is only a measure of competence, sure you are incompetent in a few things! so what? you don't say 'i am' and leave it no, you put the effort into being more competent if it's something you truly want and leave what you don't want behind . there is only figuring out what works and what doesnt work - but when you introduce right and wrong, good and bad, you create the duality and resistance and suffering in yourself
  21. A real life purpose has no doubts in it. If there is a doubt what you are doing isn't your life purpose, its not your life purpose. Life purpose comes to YOU, it is realized by YOU and not constructed by thought. It comes when your heart is confronted by reality and followed through with your intuition/gut feeling that this is the right thing to do in life, it takes quite a lot of clarity and understanding to differentiate intuition and mind when you've been conditioned to distrust yourself since you were a kid. If you truly want to find your purpose, enrich yourself in life and what is really happening around the world and look inside of yourself to see how you can best serve others, giving will set you free! I just wanted to write that because of all the shit around purpose <3 There is no meaning, no inherent purpose to anything because that is purpose found in the mind. Your purpose is a found through feeling.
  22. @BipolarGrowth come on bro why not alexander the factory worker... joe is such a discrimanted name but true, not many people give a shit and despite the amazing beings who have walked this planet look at reality right now. the real question about mass awakening comes when the right people gather themselves together - we are too scattered across the world individually, you think?
  23. @Marv definitely wim hoff method is more for enjoying the very physical benefits but going towards deeper dimensions, shamanic breathwork is insane and still to this day I have experienced the most insane fucking cathartic experiences and deep connection to the essence and a lot of clarity for reflection and all that. if you are interested or want guidance there's a dude here who you can join a class for free, pretty sure leo has a video on it too, i do too haha