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Its a limit I am placing on teachings about consciousness. Which is fine.

From your very own teachings, and my own insights, love is the ultimate reality. Therefore there should not be a disconnect between the two. Any teaching of the ultimate reality must be loving and compassionate otherwise it isn't the ultimate truth. Because the ultimate truth is love. If you aren't interested in compassion then you aren't really interested in the highest truth. Since compassion is applied love and love is the highest truth. These are your own words! your lack of compassion is a serious and legitimate concern for many people, not because they aren't interested in higher truth, but because your lack of compassion is not aligned with the highest truth. And no amount of alien consciousness or god realization is going to change that.

well both actually. there is some chemistry involved but its mostly electrical engineering and computer science.

Ask him how he knows that. Basically the way to debate people like this is to question their assumptions about reality. The fundamental mistake skeptics make is not turning their skepticism on their own assumptions. That being said it's unlikely you will change their minds. Minds are won over by emotions and gut feelings. Not with logical argument. Logical argument is just there to reinforce your worldview.

I'm struggling with some really sneaky protector parts: The distractor, the procrastinator, the monkey mind and the tiredness part. These parts are uniquely difficult because they have so much power over me and also they prevent me from doing my IFS practice. They can distract me for hours both from IFS work and real life work that needs to be done. These have been around since my childhood and have had a huge effect on my life. They are also working together synergistically. Any attempt to work with one of these parts results in the others doing their thing. This is going to be really difficult

Ok i see. One issue I have is that my values and preferences change vastly over time as does my personality. I used to be INTP and extremely scientific, atheistic and materialistic but all of that has changed. My nature seems to be heavily influenced by external things that happen to me. Is that still my nature?

That's more computer science and electrical engineering than physics

I see. How do you know what your nature is? And what do you do if your nature goes against your survival?

You would probably prefer chemistry then. Especially organic chemistry.

How do you holistically develop yourself?

Physics is way more important imo. But it depends on the field you want to go into.

I agree. Leo has some exiled parts and is definitely shows.

This is actually pretty mindblowing. My entire life was spent trying to improve my parts e.g. muscles, looks, body language. But most of the girls I knew were attracted to wholes. I've never met a girl who rejected someone because their arms were too small. And yet me and most guys I know care so much about muscles. I just assumed girls cared about that stuff because guys were like that.

lol It's the other way round.

True. Striking and grappling fundamentals are super important in street fights. But even if you are a good striker you still need takedown defence just in case. Anyhow, I think this discussion has gotten off topic

yeah I actually saw one a few weeks ago where they grabbed each other and it went to the ground. Apparently most street fights go to the ground.

But so can the grappler. All dirty tricks can be done more effectively by the grappler when they have the superior position. Grappling is absolutely not useless. If you ever get into a fight with a musclehead, he's gonna try to grab you and you'd better know how to grapple.

Yeah that used to be me a few years ago. It absolutely sucked.

Maybe not in striking but in grappling they are definitely useful. I do bjj and the buff guys are much harder to grapple with even if they aren't that skilled. They just grab hold of you and its hard to escape. That being said, if they are unskilled, then their strength can be worked around with skill and agility.

He's just a guy who thinks he knows everything because he's a scientist. A lot of scientists think that their understanding of science trumps everything else and they don't need to understand philosophy because science.

Fear is love resisting itself

I'm getting bursts of frustration. An important part of me desperately wants my life to change and to be honest I agree with it. I've been healing but my life has been stagnating for nearly a year now. A self help guru would be appalled at my life the past few months. If anything my life has gotten worse on a material and social level. Its hard to make progress when my foundations are constantly being ripped apart. I guess this is one of the downsides of IFS.

I've done a lot of unburdening and I'm getting backlash from protector parts that are scared of so much internal change. IFS recommends not working with exiles without permission from protectors but I guess I skipped that step... oh well

The best natural alternative is opening your heart chakra