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@Leo Gura I think that Psychotherapy is deeply interlinked with spirituality such that it is difficult to do them separately. Spiritual stuff like unconditional self love, awareness of the ego mind, meditation, and energetic work are absolutely vital and serve as a foundation for psychotherapy. It's kind of a strange loop. Spirituality>>Psychotherapy >> Basic self-help >> Spirituality>> etc...

From my personal experience, trauma healing and shadow work is absolutely mandatory for even the possibility of a happy life if your childhood was traumatic. Leo often mentions to focus on basic self help before spirituality, but doing basic self help with intense childhood trauma is like climbing a mountain with a broken leg. Any change you make to your life will be built upon broken foundations which will corrupt every aspect of your self improvement journey. Instead, focusing on spirituality is probably a better idea especially the trauma healing aspects of it. Shadow work is a number 1 priority for people with bad childhoods. The majority of your spiritual journey will likely be healing from these childhood traumas. Expect a LOT of ego backlash. There is a silver lining, if you manage you heal yourself, your self actualization will be a piece of cake. The spiritual and self actualization journey requires emotional strength and healing from trauma will give you incredible emotional strength. Its like how defeating a high level boss in the game will make you a better player.

@something_else No, clubs are unpredictable and little things can cause your mind to spiral into a bad trip

bruh

How do you do this? I've found that the more I try to turn on state and get out of my head, the more anxious and in my head I get

I've experienced something like this on my most intense trip ever. It was an infinite white void of infinite love. Time didn't really mean anything there, so any experience of it would be eternal. Interestingly, after the eternity was over, I felt myself ascending to an even higher plane of existence than that one which happened to bring me back into my material body and human life. It's like the ultimate strange loop.

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@Spiral Wizard Lol i had the exact same problem but in reverse a few weeks ago xD. Girl had a personality that i vibed with but wasn't attracted to her physically. what a weird coincidence...

The people in my dreams are actually just me. I am sentient, therefore so are the people in my dreams. When I wake up, their sentience just collapses into mine since they were all just aspects of me.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AuLk-m3yphM This is by far the most mindblowing

I've recently come across the backwards law aka the 'law of reversed effort' which really resonated with me. Here are a few relavant quotes: “The harder we try with the conscious will to do something, the less we shall succeed. “Proficiency and the results of proficiency come only to those who have learned the paradoxical art of doing and not doing, or combining relaxation with activity, of letting go as a person in order that the immanent and transcendent unknown quantity may take hold.” 'The more you desperately want to be rich, the more poor and unworthy you feel, regardless of how much money you actually make. The more you desperately want to be sexy and desired, the uglier you come to see yourself, regardless of your actual physical appearance. The more you desperately want to be happy and loved, the lonelier and more afraid you become, regardless of those who surround you. The more you want to be spiritually enlightened, the more self-centered and shallow you become in trying to get there.' A big problem I've had with Leo's videos is that he always encourages self improvement with maximal effort. Like I need to spend every waking second developing myself and working on my goals. However I find that the more I try, the more my goals tend to evade me. In particular, the more i try to become confident, disciplined and conscious, the more socially awkward, lazy and ego driven I become. With pickup, the more I try to approach women in a confident manner, the more I tend to be overwhelmed with anxiety and pussy out. Consequently, my most bold and successful approaches were when I completely gave up on the idea of approaching women. The most confident I've ever been was when I stopped giving a shit about working on my confidence and my deepest states of consciousness (excluding psychedelics) were when I stopped giving a shit about increasing my consciousness and just meditated for fun. I'm also the most productive when im not trying to be, and procrastinate the most when I try and force myself to be productive. Leo's videos and other similar self help content tend to make this problem worse. Whenever I watch them I get the feeling that I'm not being productive enough about my goals, and that i should be doing more. Of course this makes me waste energy and prevents my from actually achieving my goals. It also makes life so much less enjoyable because i'm trying so hard instead of enjoying my life. However I also see the importance of discipline and action towards goals so I want to know: How can I do self development, pickup and spirituality with the backwards law taken into account?

Leg kicks can end a fight pretty much instantly. The average person will be unable to walk much less fight from 1 well placed leg kick, giving you time to make your escape. As for the clinch, most street fights are unpredictable and will inevitably end up in a clinch situation so its good to be prepared for every situation. I agree that you should always avoid being on your back but since street fights are so unpredictable so theres always the possibility that you end up on your back. In those situations, its better to be prepared than to not be. Also BJJ has more general use. For example if some drunk guy is being a douche, you can restrain and neutralise him without harming him. I think my overall argument is that its better to be prepared for all possible situations so a wide range of martial arts would be the most useful. Although i do agree that wrestling and boxing are best bang for your buck

I disagree with you on this bit. A well placed leg kick or teep can be fight ending for most people who aren't used to taking them. Muay thai also teaches,clinch elbows and knees which are devastating in a street fight on top of punches. As for BJJ, it's potentially the most useful out of all of these because it teaches you to fight off your back. if you get unlicky and theres a guy on top of you raining punches, bjj is the only martial art that will save you. Theres tons of street fight videos online where people with bjj destroy untrained opponents.

To become the most complete fighter, get a good base of boxing and wrestling then switch to muay thai and bjj.

Just wanted to rant because I had the weirdest sexual experience tonight. I'm 23 and still a virgin. It's something im quite insecure about and i've put a lot of work into myself to try and get better at attracting women. I'm still terrible at pickup and still struggle with approach anxiety and flirting and all that stuff. Well i must have done something right because a girl who i thought was just a friend slid into my DM's tonight, started flirting with me over text, and offered to come over. It threw me completely off guard because i wasn't really sure i was attracted to this girl in particular. I had feelings for her but i wasn't sure if I just saw her as a friend of something more. Because this had never happened before and I was in desperate need of sexual experience I told her to come round even though i wasn't really in the mood for sex. (I was in the middle of watching anime ). As soon as she said she would come round I suddenly felt extreme anxiety wash over me. I was not in a sexual mood in the slightest and I was worried about whether I could even get an erection up in this state. She came round and we started making out, one thing led to another and she was naked on top of me. It was at this point that I realised that I wasn't sexually attracted to her and I suddenly started feeling really uncomfortable. I told her to stop and we just sat there for a bit. We talked a bit and she went home. My mind is completely scrambled from this situation. I have been desperate to lose my virginity for years to the point where its driving me nuts yet when its right in front of me I refuse??? wtf is wrong with me? I also feel terrible because one of the reasons why i said no was because I didn't find her physically attractive even though her personality is exactly what I wanted in a partner. It's also probably ruined our friendship now and made things awkward between us. Fuck my life.

yeah I think one of the reasons was that I wasn't attracted at all to her naked body. It was decent before she took her clothes off and when she did i just realised that I wasnt attracted to her. Which feels kinda horrible as I don't like the idea of judging people for their bodies especially considering by own insecurities about my own body. Normally i would have said no but I had just watched Leo's video on always doing the most emotionally difficult thing...

lol out of all the shit i wrote, thats the one big problem?

she was chill about it but it was very awkward

I'm trying :'(

This is a worry of mine, if my anxiety is high and im not in the mood, how would i even be able to maintain an erection?

@Roy Fair enough, I guess i'm overthinking this because it happened like an hour ago. I'm worried that i'll get anxiety like this when im with a girl i'm attracted to. One of my goals is to become experienced at sex and dating so I was a bit desperate for sexuak experience. I guess this is what scarcity mentality gets you.

lol im 22 and i feel so old...

I actually quite liked the video. All that solipsism shit just didn't feel right to me but the video definitely set things straight

I found that i've become 10x more sensitive to psychedelics after doing 2 years of meditation and a 1 year break from psychedelics. A small dose of LSD gave me complete ego death and god realisation.

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