Matthi

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  1. @Blackhawk That's okay, thank you for your concern
  2. @mememe Yes, of course you are right. Seeing a therapist is really a obvious step to solve my current problem. Once I got out of the mental hospital I was just scared to death of everyone that was a part of the mental health system, but that's of course a irrational fear. I am now searching for a therapist that will help to guide me through the steps I will have to take next. Thank you for convincing me to finally do this!
  3. Thank you for your replies, they help me a lot I want to add that yesterday I was in a pretty depressed mood, and so I painted a quite dark and depressing picture in my story. And while my situation is difficult, it's not hopeless, and I already feel better today. I am pretty sure that there aren't any irreversible consequences. After I got out of the hospital I was extremely emotionally suppressed and still am, but I am positive I will be able to let that go in the future. I don't feel inherently damaged, just traumatised and scared, and unwilling to accept what happened. Also, they forced me to take some pills, but as far as I can remember, they didn't make me feel different at all, atleast not consciously. That's a good idea, though I couldn't find something like this so far. But I think I might be able to live alone, since it seems to be mostly the current environment that pulls me down. I remember a few times where I took a small trip to a nearby city by myself for a few hours, to get away from home for a bit, and suddenly my mind cleared up a lot, and even my social anxiety wasn't as bad anymore, but when I got back home, my mind closed down again almost immediately.
  4. Hi, I am a 23 year old man, have no job, and still live with my parents. I want to move out, but don't know how. I have extremely low self-esteem, and pretty bad social anxiety, to the point that I literally can't form a coherent sentence when in front of a stranger. Even while writing this post, I'm totally stressed out because I don't know how you guys will judge me . Since I can remember, my parents always told me I was retarded, because I was different from my siblings, and often times didn't do what they wanted me to do, and they regularly took me to different therapists to prove their point (By the way, when I talk about my parents, I mostly mean my dad, and my mom was just always agreeing with him). By the time I entered high school I already was barely able to socialize. And when I was 15, I had a mental breakdown and didn't have the energy to go to school anymore. So I stayed home for several months, while spending most of my time lying in my bed and watching random Youtube-Videos and playing Videogames. During this time my dad got furious. He came into my room every day just to tell me what a lazy, stupid piece of shit I was, and eventually I couldn't take it anymore, and started screaming at my parents, whenever they entered my room and even said a single word to me, to get the hell out. And I was screaming so loudly and pushing and punching them so harshly, that they actually listened sometimes. This went on for about three months, then one day, without warning, some doctor came into my room, and said, he would take me with him. I tried to resist at first, but he was stronger than me. So he and my parents drove me to a mental hospital. I stayed there for another three months. The people there were horrible and most of the doctors treated me like a retard. Some of them didn't even try to hide their feeling of superiority and power. When I came out of the hospital I was a psychological wreck. And worse than that, my parents had transformed into demons during my absence. They now treated me even worse than the people in the hospital, and my dad told me repeatedly, if I didn't do everything he told me to, they would send me right back. And fair enough, that happened. After a couple of months of following all the rules I was supposed to follow while getting increasingly angry at the inside, one day my parents wanted to play a board game with me, but I said no, not with my dad. He just said: "Okay then", and a week later they brought me right back to the mental hospital. At this point I was feeling so bad there, that I somehow actually managed to convince the doctors there to let me go (I don't know how that worked out). So they released me back home after about a week. By this point I was terrified of my parents, because they could send me back anytime they wanted to. They never did though. I went to school for a few weeks after this, but then started to stay at home again, because I couldn't handle it anymore. I never finished school to this day. At this point my parents just decided to treat me as a retard, that is incapable of doing anything on its own. And so basically since that moment till today, I live at home with my parents, doing almost nothing, except watching Youtube Videos and playing Videogames, and watching Videos about Personal Development from time to time. I also started meditating two months ago. Additionaly to this story, my parents also forced me to learn the piano since I was pretty young. I was really talented at it, but never felt really passionate about it. Shortly after I quit school, they signed me up at a University for Music, and I got accepted. I only lasted a year though, because it was too difficult for me. Now my parents want to sign me up for another sort of music-based school, but I don't want to go there. It would be a good opportunity to move out, since it's too far away from our home otherwise, but I don't want to move out on my parents' terms. I want to create my own life, but again, have no idea how to do that. The only skill I can offer right now is playing the piano, but I'm quite tired of that, and it makes me feel anxious. So, yeah, sorry for that long post; I didn't plan on sharing my whole life story, but it kinda happened. Also sorry if it's all over the place, but I have a very confused and chaotic mind right now, and that's the best I can do at this moment. Still, I would be greatful if anyone of you has some tips that could help me out of this mess . Thanks for reading this!