Federico del pueblo

Why would you? As long as you are ok with being shorter or equally tall I don't see a problem. You know it's possible (as you said). Your height won't necessarily be a limiting factor. Just be prepared for the occasional shit test of "you're a bit short for me" => "A bit short for what?! Slow down ;)"

@softlyblossoming @Tristan12 I think what this all boils down to is this: The solution for one's emotional issues must be as deep as the emotional issues themselves. They can be deeper too, but they don't have to. E.g. I know that I don't have to become enlightened to overcome certain emotional issues, but if I want to completely understand what reality is, then I have to become enlightened. Like, when your social fears and Traumata are severe, "deep inner work" is necessary, emotional releases etc. For someone else just "desensitizing" himself can be enough, because the fears are not so deeply rooted. For some people positive thinking works. Like they can simply speak affirmations that basically are the opposite of their limiting beliefs and it works, after some time they have a more positive belief. Another person with severe trauma tries the positive thinking approach and just gets traumatised even more because affirming the opposite of their trauma actually triggers the trauma emotions and not any positive emotions. Now I feel much better for having replied to your long posts in the other thread haha ? And I've had similar things too. Long elaborate posts. No answer. So I'm feeling like "dude, this posts contains everything you need to know, other people outside this forum might need years to gather this knowledge and you were probably just thinking 'meh...that's too much stuff, let's see if there are other techniques, I just want this one technique that instantly liberates me from everything without effort', so thanks a lot".

You can be friends with girls, but it does get hard if they are really your type/hot etc. This works better if they are taken, like this you have a good moral reason to not hit on them.

? And then? What comes next? ?

@justfortoday Awesome post, it is starting to make more sense now. So the most mind boggling and seemingly impossible thing to understand was always that there is ONLY my pov. But what I understand now is that as long as I'm living through my own lifetime, I'm the only experience god is having. Once I'm dead I'll move on to live another life (or maybe I'll just bask in infinity for some "time"??!!). As long as I'm living, "everybody" else is just like a NPC who technically doesn't have consciousness (right?!!), including just for today. But "Federico" will "die" someday, and at some point the consciousness that's writing this post right now is gonna have become justfortoday and is gonna create a post on a forum about consciousness, but it's gonna be "me" who is writing the post. And actually it is "me" who created this thread, just not from my limited human pov that I'm currently inhabiting. Am I getting it right more or less?

Got it. Yeah, if one particular girl is really cool, then it can sting for sure.

And "we" will be sitting there at some fire, "both" having grown extremely long and grey beards, understanding that the asker and the answerer, as well as well as what was asked for are all one and the same and nothing at all, and thus we will have a gentle wise grin on our faces.

@Karmadhi This is probably why the concept of abundance gets emphasized so much in game. If you were already texting with three other girls then you probably wouldn't be so upset about that one girl, even if you were also a bit into her. You'd have more of a "hmm yeah, I think I'll give that other girl another chance too, if she responds again..." kind of attitude. This is basically how it is for many girls which is why they're so unattached so easily. So just keep going and create more dating options

The best solution is to do both :-)

Yeah you did! Ah these good old times... And this is all really good for your Karma ?

@softlyblossoming Oh thanks! That was actually really helpful! ?

Could be true. I'm just unsure about the part, but who knows, maybe he would if you managed to become a tiger yourself.

I would definitely not ask you to proof that to me if we really were in the Savannah

Oh man @Nahm ??? I might not understand all of what you're saying, but you definitely make me laugh really hard sometimes ?

Sure, seems like there's nothing but thoughts. But all of this is just thoughts too, isn't it? I'm just not sure why you keep talking like all kinds of distinctions don't have any value because they are just thoughts? If I hadn't ever gone to school, "I didn't go to school" would just be a thought, but the consequences for my life would still suck. Maybe the "highest teachings" of Leo are actually of value for someone even if it's just in their thoughts.

What if you were in the African Savannah and then suddenly a hungry looking tiger appeared in front of you, running towards you? Would you simply say "hungry tiger is just a thought" and sit down and meditate or would you try to get inside your car?

There was already a date scheduled. This is not the same as abandoning texting. Abandoning texting is when you've had a date and then after it you simply don't message the other person anymore (for weeks or longer/forever). He still should have confirmed the date via text, but this is just an organisational matter. The fact that a guy schedules a date should already communicate enough interest, but yes, I know that this is different from your pov and you'd like to have more lovey doveyness in the time before the date like "?????? so looking forward to seeing you again!!!! Can't wait!!!! ?????!!" But trust me that most guys have done things like this more than often enough and it just fails too frequently, which is why we then change our behaviours.

Sure, but it's important to note that (if I remember correctly) the op has NOT had sex with the girl yet and she is also acting weird and plays games etc. @Karmadhi has already shown "interest" on the date, has escalated to the kiss and the girl texts him this "the end was weird" kind of BS. If he now keeps texting a lot he might actually make himself less interesting, she is already showing less investment than he is.

@Karmadhi I don't remember the details of the story with your girl, but just wanted to add my 2 cents in terms of the messaging. With some girls it can work to text a little bit more, but the context is very important. If she's already showing little investment then you texting her more probably will just make you another orbiter of hers. Once you've had sex with her and there is more commitment from her, then it could actually hurt you if you rarely ever text her. I once had a girl tell me "well, you never text me, so I feel like I don't know you (silly logic from my pov because you'd only get to know a person when you meet up, but anyway...), and I don't want to meet up with people I don't know". Until then I had only ever texted her when I wanted to schedule the next date, but it seemed kinda obvious that if I kept doing this I would have lost her (she basically told me this). So from then on I had a little bit of back and forth via text and then at some point scheduled the next date, no more complaints ? This continued for probably more than 6 months until she went back to her own country. Sometimes girls will tell you what you need to do to sleep with them, but ofc it's hard to know when this is the case and when not, so take it with a grain of salt.

What is that supposed to mean?

What more needs to be understood? Is it really that hard to find out if you have some homosexuality in you?

How fast does this stuff work after swallowing the pill?

Are you triggered into anger or into insecurity? Anyway, I think you just have to persist with calling them out on their BS. And there is this saying of "love it, change it, or leave it". If you find that your efforts don't get you the results in the mid to long term, then maybe you want to consider relocating. And maybe see if some empathy helps you. These girls might have their own fuck ups, so they need these strategies, it just helps them to feel better.

Then what makes a woman a whore in your eyes. This differs for different people, so it would be interesting to know how define whore.