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@Monster Energy I have experienced that women are attracted to I mean in most of the cases to personality.Confidence which signals outcome independence rather than the confidence of getting her is highly counterintuitive. They choose partners based on their interactions with men not appearance per say . For most women it's like this I don't know about the rest. Attraction is Subtle and highly deceptive as well as follows reverse psychology .

Stand in I don't know , stand in it bask in it. See places where it leads you ,it will lead you to places you would not even have anticipated ,I promise you that .

Got a job after resigning from an underpaying job. Acted in alignment with my values for the 64th day. Also observed a significant or meaningful reduction in my anxiety by taking action despite being anxious .

@Vido Imagination that a thing is better than what you already have.

@Joseph Maynor Nope I don't think so. Without them this community would be a more stinkier mess. I have experienced it in other communities.

To obsess over a thing which you can't have. Opposite of gratitude .

I feel like what's appropriate from my life experience is - Comparison is the theif of Joy . I have experienced that everytime when I compare myself to others I feel like a failure ,miserable but when I see my own progress I feel good.

@Joshe I would frame the question as - How can we detoxify the forum ?

This post is great .

Life is suffering- Buddha.😂

@Leo Gura Now replace it with 8 breakups. What a pain.

Hope he does .

@TheGod Man you spoke words of wisdom.

@Inliytened1 Ok that came to my mind but I have seen many players chasing girls and ending up nowhere . I was also a sort of player very earlier in life and I noticed that it's a pathway of hurt. Rather screen women according to alignment ,talk to many of them but settle for one of them.

This is gold .

Nope relationships are like investments. If you scatter your investment in different domains you may get or master nothing . But if you put a single targeted investment then you get really cool dividends . Watch Leo's video - Why valuable things take development over time.

@YIDIRYIDIR Great post . I never thought about meaning and I rarely or almost never felt a lack of meaning . What I painfully realized that during negative circumstances if I don't take action or execute them nothing will change. Circumstances rarely change themselves .

@Mellowmarsh Yup it's fake. Studies have shown that it's highly exaggerated version of what happens in real life .

@felixk_priv Great. I mean it fills me with excitement having conquered a challenge and gives me related feeling even though it doesn't last. And it's a deliberate act in which I engage with the challenges over and over again. Few months back I was not retained in the training program but now I have a job and id much better. I mean this quote from Kung Fu panda 4 is great - You never know what you can do unless you do it. Once I reflected back at an year and realized that I underestimate my own potential. Action is the key which let's you know your potential not theorizing .

Listening to Music.

@Emerald You're insights are great . I mean I fell into this trap of pickup or per say being a player in order to get a girlfriend. My main issue wasn't that I wanted a girlfriend but I was jealous of girls having relationships even though I am a man. This happened to me in college. I had a terrible dating life in college or say no dating life . My batchmates were going from relationship to relationship. Also the relationships of which I was envious none of them lasted. Also I failed to take this insight seriously that I was already vulnerable. And yup a few girls were attracted to me. While performance based pickup can get you girls but honestly vulnerability can lose you girls who are not good for you. Most guys choose the performance based pickup . But the latter is kernel of wisdom and fulfillment even though it can get you no dates or relationship.

Challenge the assumption that you can't date or get laid . And also act despite anxiety I mean even those people who get laid have some form of bitterness towards women. Including me too. But I regularly question my hatred . That's half of the problem. And by the way keep going despite pain of rejection.

Sorry @Asia P today I realized today that I lied to you regarding this . By the way I do apply this rule few times while facing disrespect from my relatives however I have made my values more important than their respect or disrespect .

@Rafael Thundercat Ok but I am already over it and what let me get over the rejection is that sitting with the sting of rejection rather than escaping it .I am antifragile.

Got rejected yesterday by a former girl classmate of mine after having a vulnerable conversation. I have been talking to her since 3 years. I expressed myself honestly to her despite nervousness. The rejection stinged but later it became ok. Yup @Leo Gura is right based on his avoidance of Truth episode . The seeking of truth will sting. However , I also realized that the sting lasted briefly . And also as I accepted it the sting reduced. @Miguel1 Yup you are right ,being vulnerable hurts but as per Leo's - How to get Laid series allowing your true to get rejected is better than putting a persona. Nope I was already vulnerable with her by expressing myself honestly to her multiple times. Like she asked questions about me . Even though she used to reply late but she responded with multiple messages to me even when I messaged her once on WhatsApp. In real life she waved hi to me multiple times. Pulled me by my arms to show a YouTube short and helped me stand against a guy bully. I expressed honest compliments to her.Told me to meet her before leaving the city but circumstances didn't allowed our meeting. Bye.