Rishabh R

@ted73104 thank you. Replied to @HMD but didn't wanted to make you seem that I don't care about you by not replying to you.

@HMD Eating junk food , walking back and forth too much/ wasting my time. However, in regard to upcoming events I always have been surprised when I admit to myself that I don't know what will happen in the future.

Any suggestions

Confidence has got nothing to do with what we will achieve but it has everything to do with our comfort with what we lack. I learned this from Mark Manson. https://markmanson.net/how-to-be-confident

Hi, I am a 22 year old college student in India. I am ok at studies. Most of my friends are in a relationship whereas I am not and I am suffering due to it. Girls reject me and go to someone else which make me suffer more. Also I get extremely jealous when I see a couple.I am pissed off at girls of my batch who call me brother but it no longer affects me.So what's the solution to my problem ? Is optimism is or responsibility for improving the situation or Not knowing ? Please help.

@NoSelfSelf I am doing self development from 2017 with no girlfriend since childhood upto till date. Thank you for your help.

And guys how do I fix my jealousy if girls are getting into relationships by earlier rejecting me and calling me brother? Lot of people in my college are finding relationships and I am among the few who are single.

@NoSelfSelf How can I fix my neediness ? Which coaches do you recommend. By the way I contemplated now that will getting a girl make me happy in long term ? To which the answer was no.

@Leo Gura any idea ?

Ya but guys I am a student and I am not allowed to go to bars and clubs as my father don't want me to go there. However, I am better than I know is the truth - this is a good perspective .

@itsadistraction ya that seems to me a good advice but by the way I would prefer to lowering my standards and how can I do it ? Also in case of asking out I said a girl I love you over a text. She gave me a rude reply and the next day her male friend gave me a threat call. Now she is with someone else and I am jealous that she has found somebody and I have not. She also abused me , bullied me after I complained the matter to a senior.

@Majed I tried and cold approached 50 + girls in my campus. However, cold approach doesn't work in India. I was kicked out of a campus while cold approaching a girl. I don't know what to do .

Yeah you are right @Ajay0 I am going to re read it.

Guys any idea ?

You were right when you told that we need to follow other self help teacher as you are focussed on higher things. And followed other teachers like Mark Manson (bought his courses) , Ryan Holiday- even bought a book written by him . And they genuinely improve lives if those teachings are applied after thinking. For example - to overcome adversity we must not only persist but also distinguish things that are in our control ( persist in that ) and not in our control (accept that ). Self help really improves lives. But most people underestimate self help . Majority of them spend time on reels, YouTube shorts ( I am glad you didn't release short instead the clips channel was great) while not paying attention to self help, philosophy. Movies , shorts are for time wasters and self help , philosophy is for time users. I am not saying that one must never watch movies , shorts etc but most of the time must be spend on something way greater than those ( grateful that you are upto something greater). Waiting to see you back in YouTube. Thank you.

Every now and then they troll me , insult me for watching actualized.org.They think that philosophy is just mental jerk off. Even though I am interested in science and I am studying it in my college, I will not stop on the path of self actualization, self help , pursuing philosophy to develop myself. Cause Leo taught me questioning. Thank you. Your episodes - Assumptions is the mother of all screw ups and gaslighting ones were a game changer for me. Maybe I must minimize my exposure to them. However, I am a little jealous of them that how they are able to score better marks than me without taking as much action as me. Maybe , I must focus on understanding and knowledge which will counterintuitively increase my marks. I feel anger towards them. Thank you.

Will seeing the good in negative situation as per - Obstacle is the way - help me ?

Book - Obstacle is the way by Ryan Holiday. I mostly think it is worth it. What are your opinion guys.

@UnbornTao read the full book and it was good , going to re read it.

Is it good to re read the book guys as I find it beautiful ?

Read the full book -Obstacle is the way by Ryan Holiday( Hardcopy, hardback). Looking forward to apply it - perceive the things for what they are then act rightly and finally endure, accept the world.

Right now I am going through suffering due to rejections from past. A girl rejected me and is now with someone else. I feel badly hurt. Tomorrow is my exam- what to do ?

Thank you @Yimpa and @Schizophonia.

@Bobby_2021 no cause I watch it using my laptop in my hostel room.

And also @Leo Gura will there be a video this Sunday? I am suffering due to bad marks in previous exams(even though I studied very hard). However, I took therapy and career counciling and the therapist told me to not to focus on marks but knowledge. I was able to score good marks in 1st internal test this semester but bad marks in 2nd internal and I am currently little worried for upcoming internals and exams . Any help is appreciated.