Rishabh R

Reframe for hatred is that - The people who hurted me are one of the few people among thousands of people in life.

Happy Birthday @Leo Gura

@Av2521 I have been in that situation where everyone around you is committed except yourself. What matters is to stop caring about other people's love story and start building your own. Still to date , I feel jealous of other people's success in finding a girlfriend but when I stop caring a smile comes to my face automatically. I had a crush on a lot of women and their behaviour was insecure when I approached them or flirted with them they rejected me and then they started dating someone else. But who cares. Their choices determine their life and my actions determine my life. As per moving to big city I would say that have a primary agenda as something else than women is better rather than going solely for women.

Thanks @Lyubov and @Yimpa .

I sat down and contemplated for 30 minutes- How do I overcome challenges in life ? Here are the answers which I got :- - By realising that all challenges are temporary - By being optimistic that it will be overcomed -By realising that challenges are not as big as thought previously - By realising that I have overcame massive challenges -By acting by seeing a hopeful future -By realising that they make me stronger -By realising that procrastination will make them worse - By relying on my potential rather than external markers -By realising that they determine my potential Thanks.

@Miguel1 , @Leo Gura thanks.

@Yimpa 🙂

@Sugarcoat Yeah that's a great perspective but I think that everyone fails(including me of course) to realize the importance of direct experience which looking at one's hand, an object in the room or just focussing one's attention on what's being experienced. It offers such a deep tranquility and liberation from falsehood .

@Leo Gura Is it the case that people create fantasies and constructions to escape direct experience ? By the way contemplation leads to understanding of truth while direct experience leads to living with truth . Both are important but direct experience wins in case of truth.

@Hibahere Welcome back to the forum. I thought you became inactive on the forum.

@Consept Tell them in a polite way that you didn't like their actions and if the situation escalates then distance yourself from them by stop contacting them. By the way sorry for your situation. I mean , I know it's easy to give advice but difficult to implement.

@Clarence You have overcame one of the most toughest battles in life. Great! As it was one of the quotes of Socrates (I don't know weather Socrates said it or not): Respect everyone because everyone you meet is fighting a tough battle. - I think this need to be understood by me and the forum members since it's a self-improvement forum.

Direct cold approaches -95. Maybe more. I stopped counting them.

This is good. 👍

@Av2521 Talking to women whom you find attractive. Only approach those women whom you are attracted to. You will improve as you have already conquered depressive episodes without therapy or medication which is a big thing in itself.

That's a great advice. Thanks.

@Leo Gura How to deal with rejection ? Is stop thinking about it is better or is being hopeful again for the next opportunity better ?

@TheGreekSeeker He once used to follow me. He was active here last on 2023.

@Leo Gura How to generate results in life from contemplation ? Is it to contemplate and act on those insights ? I have many answers from contemplation . Thank you.

@Leo Gura I have read all his books and watched his podcasts. I liked them especially the book called Subtle Art of not giving a ----. I have found his work similar to your's.

I was suffering emotionally due to past mistreatment of me by people but when I stopped my mental talk the suffering was neutralised and I began to feel normal.

@JosephKnecht l have a book of Rumi called - The essential Rumi. 😀

@Aaron p I just stopped talking to myself.

@Jayson G Yeah more precisely -- We suffering more in imagination than in reality.

That's a healthy approach towards dating.