Rishabh R

However I have discovered that l feel better when I follow my values - .Focus on my life instead of other's life .Focus on my life purpose .Be honest with myself and everyone else (If I donot like something I must stand against it)(I must stop pretending) .Make my life revolve around the thing I love most (Science , especially Biological aspect of Science)

@something_else by proposing I don't mean that proposing for marriage but saying I love you

@NoSelfSelf oo yeah I remember that I have values but every day I see them and following them keeps me away from the rut sorry today I forgot to see my value paper due to classes.By the way my one of the values is to focus on my life instead of other's life.Thank you.

In my 1st year of collage I proposed a girl by saying -I love you on a chat(Initially she blocked me on WhatsApp as I didn't know that she was in the hospital recovering from covid -19).After proposing her on chat she said -I will slap will slap you on the face.And the next day her friend from a different engineering branch of the same collage threatened me and said that study and don't do all these things.This event occurred almost an year ago- I don't know that why I am not able to forget it even though I go out a lot and got a few girls attracted to me. How is my understanding not sufficient enough about the situation? How am I not understanding the guy who threatened me ? Also guys and @LeoGura can you all recommend good epistemology books for me ?By the way I have recently downloaded the book an Introduction to contemporary epistemology

@puporing yeah thanks it is good to move on but the scars remain ??

@PepperBlossoms by the way it is a good list and by looking at the list I am sure that you have contemplated the topic a lot ??.

@Leo Gura and guys how are you all? After contemplating conflicts (which I have to do even more in future) I came to following conclusions. Conflict arises when -One party or person unknowingly threatens the survival of other person or party/group -One doesn't take into account that that person didn't have the same survival demands as himself/herself -Not admitting that I don't know -Not exploring someone else's perspective -Not understanding the other side and many more causes are there which I can discover. Any more that you all can add ?

@PepperBlossoms wow

@Leo Gura and guys does contemplating - What counterintuitiveness is in here ? gives an insight into understanding , leads to success in situations and reduces conflicts.

Hi, guys.Is contemplating in situations -What counterintuitiveness is in here ? a path to make a counterintuitive move? As the more I contemplate this question ,more counterintuitive moves I make.

By contemplating - What is intelligence I came to following insights Intelligence is : -Beautifulness -Understanding -Phenomenon that results from inner capacity -Inversely proportional to suffering -Something against natural foolishness -Something intuitive -Something which takes the frame of reference in a forward direction -Connection between context and recontextualization -Happiness -Liberational happiness -Something higher than current frame of reference but related indirectly to it -A process -Grasping something -Popping from a frame of reference -Understanding one's foolishness -To stop demonizing something or someone and integrating the demonising in oneself that it becomes so small that it doesn't matter to oneself -Diversity Any thoughts guys ?

@Tim R Ya you are right but I was thinking that by keeping this post alive people can add many more perspectives to it ?.

Update : -Detaching from a frame of reference

@itachi uchiha yes obviously

Hi everyone,I was contemplating what intelligence is and it came to me as an insight that intelligence is seeing that there is always a great opportunity present since infinities of opportunities are present and also Science is like breaking parts of infinity to understand a part. How do I embody the 1st insight in my career, personal life and what are your all thoughts on that 2nd insight( @Leo Gura and others)?

I am scared of how the interactions of mine with my collage mates go when I meet them. Obviously the solution is to face my fear and go through it . I am also scared that the girl whom I proposed( said I love you) online rejected me badly and whose friend called to threaten me how will the girl react when she will meet me .So I have to go through it.

Another update: -Getting a gist of things -Sense making using connections from reference of things

I think that you need to embody the truth that you will get rejected a lot in life and continue on the path just I myself need to embrace the fact that I need to be persistent in the game of dating and relationships. And also try to get out of your mind in the situation in which you are interacting.

An update guys : -Seeing that there is always a great opportunity present since there is infinity of opportunities present -Science is like breaking parts of infinity to understand a part

An update guys : - Making an unlikely move I request you guys to keep this post alive otherwise it would be lost in flood of posts. And @Leo Gura any thoughts on it ?

Sorry @Leo Gura I am fearful and worried about you too. And also about your health too as you have physical health issues . Is it getting better ?

Update : -Paradigm in mind is not the reality itself

@Leo Gura After contemplating what wisdom am I lacking I got the following answers: I am underestimating the importance of laughter I am expecting literally every person to be gentle with me ( which is a great foolishness) Only I am responsible for my own happiness as when I become happy it is only through me happiness flows Other's thinking are hugely different from me so their actions thereby many people will act below my expectations Bad things have good things hidden inside them as when they happen they show the true nature of something like is it hollow or of good value Also being a patient of OCD I already enrolled in a doctor's therapy in which I am on antidepressants and so forth. Any suggestions @Leo Gura and guys/girls what can I supplement besides my therapy?

@Leo Gura and people after contemplating a little I recognised that my epistemology is very poor. I absorb information from all sources and fear to question the information and the source too. So is the questioning a key for me even though I am recieving diverse perspectives ?

@itachi uchiha Sorry u didn't understand my question. My question was that are there any other things which I can supplement with my ongoing OCD therapy with my therapist and the medicine which my Psychiatrist is giving me? Also I have already found the field in which I can be master in and I am not talking about passion here ?