Rishabh R

I hate the forum version of Leo and like the video version of him. His videos have expanded my growth to tremendous hights and they are great. Even the latest one.

Oh really, thanks.

Yeah, it's very difficult and trust me it takes a huge amount of practice.

@Leo Gura 27 minutes passed by watching the video and when I thought about your first proof by pausing the video a little I realised that reality is one as everything which divided is connected to each other. On the surface two things seem divided but there is a deeper connection between the two which is beyond the surface. For example a water bottle kept on one end of the table and a diary kept at diametrically opposite end of the table on the surface they may seem two separate objects but both are connected by the air in between them and every object is connected in the universe to other object even though it might sound imaginary to some but like two cars with a string or the brain activity may seem distinct from the external environment but actually the air connects the brain and the environment deeply. If object X exists then Y exists and both are connected so they are one. If both exist they both have to be connected otherwise either Y would exist or X would exist that would be still one. Am I going right Leo ? Must I keep going on thinking about this ?

Leo more practical self-help stuff to master survival paired with increasing the quality of one's epistemology . Also , as a person who is meditating since, 5 years I find it difficult to meditate consistently daily and the same goes for contemplation . Can you give a feedback ? Even though I have the key to my problems.

@Leo Gura But what about when one is suffering due to some sort of failure. Is it wise to accept suffering? which I recognized in my experience it lessens the power of negative emotions. And also it is distinct from reframing , however reframing is important as it motivates you to act. Which way to go either acceptance of failure or reframing of failure ? Also , are episodes based on shadow work , hope coming in the near future ?

@Sugarcoat You can practice it consistently which will eventually make you feel more better over a long period of time.

@Sugarcoat That is a sign of a symptoms of depression. Basically there are two ways heal it : 1st way is hope or future looking perspective. 2nd way is acceptance of negative emotions when you feel down or disconnected. I hope it helps you.

@Leo Gura Does basic self-help changes one's state even a little ? Also what kind of state is required for recovering from setbacks ?

@Leo Gura A total of 6 girls responded warmly to my advancements up till now.

I have come to the realisation that I can find a girlfriend no matter how many times I am rejected. I attracted 4 girls in 5 days. @Leo Gura Is this assumption high quality that if even 2 girls respond warmly to your advancements in a time period of over 1 month then you are already successful with girls ? Thanks.

Great point.

In meditations by Marcus Aurelius opens the book with similar passage-- When you wake up in the morning tell yourself that people you will meet would be dishonest, muddling etc. because they can't see the good from the bad but I have seen the nature of good so they can't hurt me. By the way it is a nice perspective that no matter what others say to you it is your's permission weather to take it personally or not. I think that this can be done by separation of responsibility. Like for example- I am responsible for my actions and other's are responsible for their actions.

Reframe for hatred is that - The people who hurted me are one of the few people among thousands of people in life.

Happy Birthday @Leo Gura

@Av2521 I have been in that situation where everyone around you is committed except yourself. What matters is to stop caring about other people's love story and start building your own. Still to date , I feel jealous of other people's success in finding a girlfriend but when I stop caring a smile comes to my face automatically. I had a crush on a lot of women and their behaviour was insecure when I approached them or flirted with them they rejected me and then they started dating someone else. But who cares. Their choices determine their life and my actions determine my life. As per moving to big city I would say that have a primary agenda as something else than women is better rather than going solely for women.

Thanks @Lyubov and @Yimpa .

I sat down and contemplated for 30 minutes- How do I overcome challenges in life ? Here are the answers which I got :- - By realising that all challenges are temporary - By being optimistic that it will be overcomed -By realising that challenges are not as big as thought previously - By realising that I have overcame massive challenges -By acting by seeing a hopeful future -By realising that they make me stronger -By realising that procrastination will make them worse - By relying on my potential rather than external markers -By realising that they determine my potential Thanks.

@Miguel1 , @Leo Gura thanks.

@Yimpa 🙂

@Sugarcoat Yeah that's a great perspective but I think that everyone fails(including me of course) to realize the importance of direct experience which looking at one's hand, an object in the room or just focussing one's attention on what's being experienced. It offers such a deep tranquility and liberation from falsehood .

@Leo Gura Is it the case that people create fantasies and constructions to escape direct experience ? By the way contemplation leads to understanding of truth while direct experience leads to living with truth . Both are important but direct experience wins in case of truth.

@Hibahere Welcome back to the forum. I thought you became inactive on the forum.

@Consept Tell them in a polite way that you didn't like their actions and if the situation escalates then distance yourself from them by stop contacting them. By the way sorry for your situation. I mean , I know it's easy to give advice but difficult to implement.

@Clarence You have overcame one of the most toughest battles in life. Great! As it was one of the quotes of Socrates (I don't know weather Socrates said it or not): Respect everyone because everyone you meet is fighting a tough battle. - I think this need to be understood by me and the forum members since it's a self-improvement forum.