Rishabh R

Right now I am going through suffering due to rejections from past. A girl rejected me and is now with someone else. I feel badly hurt. Tomorrow is my exam- what to do ?

Thank you @Yimpa and @Schizophonia.

@Bobby_2021 no cause I watch it using my laptop in my hostel room.

And also @Leo Gura will there be a video this Sunday? I am suffering due to bad marks in previous exams(even though I studied very hard). However, I took therapy and career counciling and the therapist told me to not to focus on marks but knowledge. I was able to score good marks in 1st internal test this semester but bad marks in 2nd internal and I am currently little worried for upcoming internals and exams . Any help is appreciated.

Little background: I am a college student .Pickup is not acceptable here as I live in India. Most girls call me brother and it is like a pin ingested in the brain. How do I overcome this situation ?Will Leo's How to get laid series work ?

@Someone here in Bhubaneshwar and Ranchi. Yeah that is the case @Leo Gura so, being social enough will solve the problem?

@NoSelfSelf sorry I didn't understand ?.

It's in Europe and there is 12 month mastery program. You can google Shaolin Europe .

You can view Shaolin online of shi yeng hi.

@ShardMare You can question your answers again and again by using why and how? Till when you are not satisfied with answers.

Guys, I was seeing Leo's video - How modern branding exploits you. In that video leo talks about developing detachment. So , how do I develop it so that I stop having heartbreaks and I stop caring what others are doing or saying ?

Now I think that I have found the solution to this problem by following my 1st value which is practicing autonomy - focussing on my life instead of focussing on other's life. Like not looking at couples , not looking at people who are getting intimate with their partners, not paying attention to who is talking to whom cause I cannot control other's but I can control what I do.

@Thought Art but I think that talking to girls outside of class is dangerous cause I live in India and cold approach is intolerable to many people. Once I was threatened by a girl's boyfriend whom I approached.

@Thought Art I am single but have approached many girls and faced threats rejections etc. Right now I am just talking to the girls of my class. What my problem is that I get jealous when someone else gets into a relationship. However I must face the truth is that I cannot control what other's say or do. What I can control is what I can say or do. Much love to love you @Thought Art and hope that you will do well in this domain .

@Yimpa ok thank you. By the way I must also realise that I am not responsible for what other people do and I cannot control how girls react to other boys , what I can control is how I react to girls.

@Sandy6 cause I think that he has some answers and mods also have good answers. However, I am fooling myself into giving himself my autonomy cause I am truth, I am generator of answers.

@integral I already got it broken many times.

Just wanted to ask you.

@Hello from Russia same happened with me and also sometimes happens with me . What they will do is that distract you , Gaslight you . Practically speaking continue your development and don't tell them about your development.

Like by questioning the answers of the first question and by applying the insights to life by asking how and why ?

@Danioover9000I want to be insightful and to penetrate different angles of the question by asking why and how questions .

For example: Question- Is self questioning more important or questioning others ? 1st way - Close the eyes and sit and ask yourself the above question constantly . Stay with the answers generated like - Self questioning is important for understanding , questioning others is used for information 2nd way : After those answers come then question those answers - why and how self questioning is important for understanding, why and how questioning others is used for information . Question deeper and deeper ( continue questioning with how and why till you wish to contemplate ). Which is the correct way ?

Ya @Danioover9000 I am asking like is contemplating a question from one linear thinking like staying with the question is ok or contemplating it with various angles will work ?

Is contemplation an act of asking the question to oneself and questioning the answers that the mind comes up with? And questioning it again and again like how do I do it . Or is it staying with one question and asking yourself the same starting question again and again and writing what comes to mind in the journal ?

So what comes to mind during contemplation is not correct. It must be questioned like if I ask - What create success: Answers -Non negative thinking -Going despite failure -Understanding what is working and what is not So must I question these 3 insights with the questions like How do I embody it ? How do I do it ? What is the significance of it ? What is it's purpose and what are some examples of it ?