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So @Leo Gura as per self confidence it essential to believe that I can change the situation for better ?

@Yimpa ok thank you . So how do I overcome pain and suffering to get to other side ? Will reframing thoughts help me ? By the way you are right , it shows me the avoidance of truth mechanism .

Any sources , will therapy help? as I am working with the therapist and therapist told that what those girls did to me was extreme as no one deserves to be treated that badly as they treated me. When will your mind course release ?like @Leo Gura please release it soon . Can positive psychology and optimism help me ? And Leo you talk about taking responsibility for situations but I am confused as my therapist said me that if someone mistreated you then that is the choice that they are making and they are responsible for it ? - Is this a healthy way to take responsibility? My therapist also told me to write a forgiveness letter expressing my emotions and later throw it . Also I saw on wikihow's article to how to move on from heartbreak and one of the points was to challenge my negative thoughts and assumptions like - I will not get a girlfriend and replace it with - Is it really true? I don't know the future ( which I also know to be true but not able to apply in life practically). Who knows I will meet someone new in the future.

@Loving Radiance I read the book upward spiral a little and looking forward to do those exercises- writing the thought down and reframing it .

@Leo Gura how can I become a more optimistic person ? Could you release a video this Sunday of how to become optimistic in general ?

Ya the same thing is frustrating and traumatising to me . It fills me with extreme anger. By the way I can consider the possibility that I am deluding myself with anger and also I am deluding myself by making an assumption that nobody will love me .

Ok.

@Leo Gura ok and so must I return to watching how to get laid series and heal trauma besides doing it, right ?

@Yimpa I didn't blame any women but I was just describing my situation. And also like if you are talking about responsibility then one must take healthy responsibility like I am responsible for my feelings, actions , thoughts and not others. And also you don't know what I am going through. @Princess Arabia that was a great advice .

So , @Leo Gura approaching is more powerful than eye contact but a few girls were constantly looking in me in eyes and we were making eye contact. When I approached a girl in college besides 55 girls she first talked to me nicely but from behind her boyfriend came and abused me , threatened me and told me to leave that campus so what can I do to prevent this from happening again ?

@Leo Eckl sorry by mistake I tagged you. @Leo Gura But I am already seeing a therapist and she told me to do focussed breathing . As per trauma she told me to write a letter to those girls in which you express your emotions to her and at the end forgive them . And then either burn or throw the letter in the dustbin . By the way how can I be optimistic that I will get get a girlfriend cause I try to make eye contact with girls every time I go out and few girls look me in eyes. Also I talk to girls?

@ItsNick thank you both but I don't have psychedelics available to me. @DefinitelyNotARobot

Is there any drug or psychedelic legal in India . By the way I am already on antidepressants.

@OBEler sorry but psychedelics are banned in my country (India).

@StarStruck ok.

No @Princess Arabia I have suffered from girls rejection in the past and also their ugly character. Also other girls behave badly with me. ?

@StarStruck ok but how were other therapies to you ?

I want that person to be not only beautiful in look but more important than that in character.

No I don't think so because if a human tells a thing then it is based on their interpretation about things . And all human interpretations are partial and relativistic.

And like the people who are dating in college , smoking cigerette, being abusive are wasting their precious time as I am the one of few people's in college who is single and is not smoking , also I had a junk food and jerking off addiction which I am working on and haven't done these addictions since 11 days(I am not boasting ). And my friends troll me , laugh at me for watching Actualized.org and they tell that I am doing a fraud by refusing to eat junk food and they are calling you a psychedelic addict . Could you explain me in relation to the episode that what kind of avoidance of truth mechanism is within them? And also me which is causing me to feel bad ? Will facing truth make me happy ? By the way how can I be hopeful that I can get a girlfriend ? And also I don't smoke cigerette , generally don't abuse others.

So I am doing right by seeing a therapist ?

Is it true guys cause I wonder ? My therapist also said me to do so.

So , I was playing caroom board game with my younger brother. I used to lose a lot in this game against my brother. This time instead of focussing on winning the game I I focussed on knowledge of the game - like how to use the striker efficiently to get the points. I mean it was an actual physical game. And I won 2 subsequent games. As counterintuitive it sounds , is it true? So I am wondering that is the same things applicable in academia and exams?

By the way later I lost to my brother by 3 -10. So I am really confused.

@Danioover9000 haha .Even though I am a virgin I can feel it . Ok thank you