Rishabh R

@NoSelfSelf great man.

Yeah dude @NoSelfSelf responsibility is at the core of the inner game as it not only forces one to take action but also destroys the negative feelings. Like for example this perspective - I am single right now but I am responsible for that and also I am responsible for improving my dating life. I have a choice to wether stuck in this or move forward taking action etc.

@manuel bon absolutely , I realised that I underestimated my potential in this domain of life . And by the way congratulations man, greatful for you.

@QVx by understanding that everyone suffers but some cope with it in better ways than others.

@manuel bon thanks and today I realised that I also had a girlfriend in the past as one of the girls from my past was constantly looking at me and she took a step forward to interact with me by first shaking my hand and smiling and saying friend haha. I used to talk to her but later didn't had a contact. There is also a girl in my batch who treats me well she everytime touches me on my shoulders when she sits next to me before asking for help in exams and she smiles while doing that every time.

@Raze ok thanks .

@Raze so you are talking about detachment.

@QVx yeah absolutely people suffer due to same problems upto varying degree and also being wrapped in ourselves which is referred to as selfishness maximises suffering.

@Nadia Starseed sorry to hear this about you. Seeing this post I realised that girls suffer too in the realm of dating. I was jealous of girls getting into relationships easily.

@NoSelfSelf thanks and I think that this thing is inspired from stoicism that one cannot control other people or external circumstances but oneself , one's actions, thoughts, attitude.

@NoSelfSelf so one of the key aspects of game is realising that you are the prize not the girl ?

@NoSelfSelf ok . But I asked myself right now that why do I want a relationship and the answer was that because I think that it will make me happy , then I questioned in my mind again why then the answer was that I don't know that people in relationship suffer too. Why do I don't know that people in relationship suffer too then the answer is - because I am comparing my whole life with others specific part of life. Why ? Because I am a fool. Sorry dude but I discovered this through self questioning. But I will keep my optimism and actions. Thanks.

@NoSelfSelf yeah feeling bad is a part of life . The key is to feel through your negative feelings and then act. I have realised that the combination of Optimism and action is crucial as even one is lost then things will go downturn.

@shree thanks and philosophy , therapy have helped a lot even CBT and developing a growth mindset has helped me a lot.

@shree thank you as from a week I am practicing feeling through the negative emotions whenever they arise including anger. This thing I learned from Acceptance and commitment therapy quickly turns my suffering into a smile on my face

@Raze sorry I didn't understood.

@Raze oh yeah that's right . But game is part optimism part detachment which you are talking about.

@museumoftrees thank you my friend.

@Raze I would disagree as optimism has helped me in many areas of life including personal life.

@NoSelfSelf thanks and I realised that as @Leo Gura said we must not underestimate our inner game/mindset as it would make taking action easier.

After I overcame each obstacle I wrote them down from major ones to minor ones. I realised that overcoming obstacles is about combination of 3 displines: 1.Optimism 2.Effort 3.Time or patience In the photo till 142 is not written which is my current number of obstacles I overcame. Even tough this concept is from another self help courses or community of which I am part of , I thank @Leo Gura for planting the initial seed of self-help and personal development in my mind as it works .

Mark Manson.By the way @Leo Gura I have a question that were you teaching us Acceptance and commitment therapy which is accepting the negative thoughts , emotions during the time of suffering as you spoke in your videos to feeling fully when suffering? I find this therapy effective after years of trying CBT with somewhat success rate. Will there be a new video this Sunday ?

@Leo Gura please more practical videos on survival. Will your future YouTube videos help me to better survive and possibly thrive in life ? as I wouldn't be able to afford your new course . Even tough the key to success of my life lies in my hands. These self help courses (less costly ones) which I have taken before and the books which I have bought can give me guidances which ultimately I have to customise for my life. Thanks.

@aurum yeah absolutely but now is not the correct time as placements will be beginning in my college in few months or so.

Sorry everyone who is committed but I being a 23 year old single hates couples. It makes me extremely angry when I see couples. I have talked to more than 60 girls in my life but I don't know why I hate to see girls with their boyfriends on my college campus. Even I become angry at seeing young couples in public but I don't become angry when I see older like mature couples. Why is that ? I have watched Leo's how to get laid series multiple times. I fear that if I would get arranged married then what would happen, like I would cry a lot cause my friends are having girlfriends and I think that they will get love married( it is called love marriage in India when a boy gets married according to his own choice). I have tried Cole Hasting's Ultimate self mastery course and applied the worksheets diligently. It said to develop a growth mindset.So my question is that is it right for me to be optimistic that this will change and then go about taking action. Any adversity or setbacks like rejection or threat is temporary and continue to act ? I have continued to talk to girls despite getting threats, rejections still with no girlfriend . However this is the final semester in my college after that I think I will get no chance - is it correct or just my assumption ?