Rishabh R

@Nadosa You can question those stories which are in your mind.

@Something Funny Keep going. Eventually you will get there.

@Something Funny But still you are averagely happy and that's enough. You made progress that's what matters.

@Something Funny For example - Being fulfilled, being overall happy ,self respect etc. Define success internally. By the way I took my response from a book -Models by Mark Manson. (It's a great book which you can check out)

@Something Funny I think that you are measuring your progress the wrong way. You can move your standard of success from external achievement to internal metrics .

It's good to see you succeed in this domain of life.

@Carl-Richard One's social environment, social conditioning and the things that one consumes online or offline determines the quality of thought.

Yeah, it is the side effect not the cause and also it can be one's career or hobby or something else other than relationships. I have also realized from my experience (even though I have never been in a relationship ) that when one stop chasing the external -the person stops falling into the trap of hedonic treadmill and fulfillment increases. For example thinking that -If I could get something then I would be happy.

@TheGod Try to sit alone in a room with yourself. Feel through the feelings of loneliness and see it go away the moment you confront it. You had a great realisation that you and we all are escaping from being alone in other words trying to fill the void that we should let it be there. Have you practiced meditation for 20 minutes? Just wanted to ask you.

Do watch these videos for guidance.

This is the key. Having something more important in one's life other than women. It is the advice of top dating books which I have read - not to make women the purpose of your life. Even though before reading those books I tried to have my career more important than the opposite gender and this I have learned after painful circumstances in my life.

This is a great question. I was thinking of it right now.

@meta_male Reframe the rejections in the light of Growth Mindset and keep going until you don't get the results. As well as realise that most girls whom you hit on won't be receptive to you.The moment you find out that a girl is unreceptive leave her and move on to the receptive one's. For example- If a girl is smiling at you, if she approaches you then she is receptive. I was in a similar situation of experiencing chronic rejection in college but now if a girl isn't receptive to me , I don't care and move on.

I think that life purpose is important but epistemology can improve your sense making. You can practice basic epistemology in it's simplest form by deeply questioning your own beliefs , assumptions and thoughts - The benefit of rigorous questioning is that it helps you to unearth your limiting beliefs as well which can help you fulfill your life purpose and improve your decision making. In case of metaphysics I am not sure but practices of epistemology such as questioning my own thoughts has helped me a lot.

@Leo Gura Yeah your episodes- Assumption is the mother of all ----- ups and The power of asking questions mafe me questions my thoughts when I was desperately chasing happiness which made me unhappy. But now a these days my happiness is more than that of my past even though I still feel negative emotions sometimes which is normal. Yesterday I remember that my mind was creating imaginary scenarios from based on negative events of the past but when I questioned them then they disappeared from my mind and my reactivity , anger dissipated. @Leo Gura Even though your work is in the spiritual domain why do I feel that what you say is mostly similar to Mark Manson. Such as counterintuitive nature of life etc.

I have discovered that after a few years of questioning oneself that it is the root of most self-improvement if not all. Even therapy utilises questioning to alleviate mental illness. Developing resilience too requires ourselves to unearth our initial thoughts,beliefs and assumptions about a certain situation. @Leo Gura correctly said that one's question determine the quality of one's life. But we are so blind to this depth of growth reached when one consistently questions oneself. I don't mean to be in the state of analysis paralysis but rather questioning oneself and still taking action. If one develops this habit then life becomes more beautiful as it embarks a person on a series of surprises and well as primes the brain to function optimally. Thank you.

@Something Funny Man you are moving ahead and it's good to see you . Seems like my best wish worked 😂.

@SimpleGuy No it's not normal for you to have negative emotions. Instead having negative emotions indicate that one is a healthy and functional adult . The positivity culture is guilty of promoting unhealthy pursuits of never having negative emotions, or never feeling bad. I have been guilty myself for this as years ago I used to "Eliminate suffering" rather than accepting or dealing with suffering which I do it since more than an year ago. And life has improved due to it. Negative emotions are necessary to be acknowledged and processed of you want to create rock solid, real happiness .

@Something Funny All the best.

@Schizophonia Ok I saw it now.

@Sincerity Accepting negative emotions are the key to emotional regulation and living a happy life.I have learned this the hard way. Earlier I used to number my negative emotions by thinking positive but when I started accepting them, my suffering reduced.

Your post resonates with me as I was once a believer of victim mindset but later , I mean recently (for 1 year) I adopted the growth mindset by reframing each failure, setbacks, adversity and I can say honestly that it is better than having a victim mindset be it in case of resilience, success and tranquility.

@Schizophonia 👍. But I have discovered that reading actual books has improved my life. Even though it might not be a necessity.

That is why most people want a quick fix to their problems and improve their lives without actually doing the work. But reading is far more valuable than consuming what algorithm tells you to. I really love reading - Read approximately 16 or so books in almost 2 years( hard copy and Amazon Kindle combined ). Recently ordered my 17th book. By experience I would say that reading is worth it.

@Majed Good job.