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@UnbornTao I could suggest that you could read the book Tao Te Ching which I have on Amazon Kindle as your name contains Tao . Great dude.

Thanks @UnbornTao as I today felt through the negative emotions of the past flashback , did self help therapy and typed in the worksheets that they are gone from my life , it brought me happiness. As you say, avoidance of pain creates more pain which is counterintuitively true.

What your age @eTorro ?

@Basman journaling and therapy both can help . One thing you can do is go to Therapistaid.com and download worksheets and write them using a pen and paper in your diary whenever you feel bad due to trauma but do it only after going through negative emotions first.

@Atb210201 great dude. @Yeah Yeah another thing is you can do is that put the not knowing for the future which is recognise that you don't know the future and also realise that you can get someone in the present

@SOUL And their overuse causes distress.

@Princess Arabia yeah it's a great quote from Buddhism and also here's another great quotes,- The desire for a Positive experience is itself a negative experience and paradoxically the acceptance and tolerance of a negative experience is itself a positive experience. Quoted by Mark Manson in his book - The Subtle Art of Not giving a ----.

@Princess Arabia Because our thinking of happiness is flawed as we compare our moment of suffering with someone else's moment of happiness which is unrealistic and skewed comparison as nobody is happy all the time.

Because we always want positive emotions but it is only going through negative emotions that we experience more strength , resilience and happiness.

Just now, Sugarcoat said: I am? Didn’t think about it @Sugarcoat Yes you are .

Great. You are displaying vulnerability.

This pdf illustrates almost all my insights on this topic. 17266657853111407028843140892220.pdf

My contemplations :

@Jacob Morres thanks but it think you misinterpreted by handwriting a bit such as -To recognise that emotion is succeeded and preceded by thought etc.

@Sugarcoat ok .

Now I have heard of an incident that two seniors beated a guy of my batch due to the fact that he was just playing with one seniors girlfriend. It is good that I am single rather than being in a toxic relationship which is not based on love but infatuation in my college.

I have developed immense hatred against girls of my batch whom when I first talk to they call me brother and reject me by giving bad reactions while when some other guys of my class talk to them , they get attracted to them and start dating them. I am suffering as even in the past in my highschool a girl whom I used to talk to rejected me by saying to study as these things are futile and after some time she started flirting with other guy. I have been on antidepressants since then and suffer when I see couples cuddling in my college campus. How to develop non reactivity ? Even tough I have made some progress by talking to many girls , flirting with some and realising that I can get a girlfriend.

@Sugarcoat Now I am confused but I appreciate your openmindedness.

@Fearey I have started using notepad.

@Sugarcoat Everyone puts their crush on pedestral including me. @Javfly33 The thing which is helpful is realizing that nobody is above you no matter what it seems.

Contemplated it right now : Now it's time to put the insights into action.

@Buck Edwards ok but any sources for typing one's insights ?

@Buck Edwards thanks for the recommendation. @Sugarcoat great to hear it.

They are helping somewhat as when I am off from them I suffer a lot but when I am on them I suffer but applying self help techniques I get over my suffering. @Sugarcoat Can I ask the disease ?