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@Schizophonia Isn't setting boundaries a constructive thing ? Is hiding abuse a form of inauthenticity ? I didn't have the intention to create drama but being honest.

I don't know why people think that I am crying when I tell that they are hurting me. I am not taking advantage of someone who is not around here but just delivering the message here regarding his behaviour. As per my weakness I have completely owned my weakness by getting bullied , abused in the past by both men and women or more precisely boys and girls. Thanks.

One the one hand, I feel like I should finish my studies absolutely clean, pass all my subjects in the proper way and just prove to myself that I can do whatever I want.--- This is a better way. The solution of your problem lies in your hand and you have already answered your question in this post.Time has proved to me again and again that negative situations lead to positive outcomes. Since, life is counterintuitive.

@manuel bon You are doing good by accepting the emotion of anger. Let it flow through you by feeling through it and later act in a way that would be better for you and others. Hope your dad is well.

@manuel bon Accepting anger is the best way I have found to deal with it. I knew w it's tough but you can do it.

@Sugarcoat Yeah . @Schizophonia Detachment is also great . Also if one is in the present moment that person is detached from outcome and flowing like smooth stream of water. The ability to create gaps between the stream of thoughts either by questioning your thoughts or being present is a great skill.

@Letho Thanks.

@Letho Question -- How to think ? By thinking through When I was contemplating this question , I came up with a more interesting question-- How do I act in the best way possible ? Thanks.

My mind has a habit of suffering due to romantic rejections, bullying , hurtful interactions that happened in the past. However, when I meditate my suffering lessens. Could anyone explain why this happens ? Thanks.

@Schizophonia Sorry , I misunderstood you.

So , sharing something which you find good online is neediness according to you. 😂

@Schizophonia sorry dude but I think that video which I linked changed my perspective on life. As per father figure I do have my father for which I am grateful. As per learned helplessness I am also aware that I attracted girls in the past which will happen in the future and is also present reality.

@Majed I think the best way is to be comfortable with never finding a partner. I know it sounds foolish on the surface but maybe isn't there is something to it -- When you stop looking for love , love finds you. Check out this video.

@Sugarcoat Yeah and it has also shown to help with emotional regulation.

I recently watched this video and liked the idea of questioning our beliefs emotions . Could @Leo Gura and you people guide me on this episode further. Thanks.

Yeah , I had fun with girls and still do have it sometimes.

You already told this in your part 1 of the series. Yeah you tried way , way harder than me. By the way , must I approach girls who are receptive to me than girls who call me bro or don't treat me well ? Any further advice other than the 3 part series . And also is it a fact of life that some other beautiful girl will be receptive to me. Also, your advice is pretty mature Leo. Been following you since 2017. Would there be more content based on practical aspects of life as well as cognitive development such as Epistemology? Really liked your epistemology video of questioning assumptions. Thanks.

@Leo Gura Must I think of others of age Younger and similar to me who are more experienced than me as more successful than me in dating or I must stop comparing myself to them. By the way what can I do when I see a beautiful random girl with her boyfriend and I become extremely angry ? Any solutions. By the way I have flirted with many girls in my life but never been in a serious relationship. I am 24.

@Leo Gura As per my life I am not able to generate survival value such as getting a girlfriend but I am doing good in my career. I have watched your -- How to get laid series multiple times , read other dating book also. As per your advice I have approached 100 girls in my campus. I have noticed that when I approach girls they become insecure while afterwards they start dating someone else. Girls think of me as inferior in dating. I have hatred , resentment against them and also revengeful thoughts against those girls. Maybe my desire to get a girl who has never been in a relationship is impossible and I am suffering due to it. By the way I am trying to accept my suffering. 😁 I sometimes feel that it's good that I don't have a girlfriend in University because multiple suicides happened in my college in regard to relationships. Boys threaten each other, beat up each other when they see other boy talking to their girlfriend. By the way I have also got threats years ago. Here, some girls smoke cigarettes and drink alcohol. Am I worthy or worthless . Haha.

@Justine I also started watching Leo's video since, 2017. I would recommend you to follow other self-improvement teachers too such as Mark Manson , Ryan holiday etc. For Leo's video I will recommend -- How to fall in love with life.

@Sugarcoat You look mature and beautiful at the same time.

@Sugarcoat best of luck for University.

To everyone it's a request to not to turn it into an incel thread. I have a different intention of spreading a positive and empowering message to everyone including struggling males.

We assume that women don't love or like us but it's a lie. Both thoughts- I am loved by everyone and I am loved by no one are delusional lies. The truth as I have experienced by living more than 24 years is that some women do like us and will like us in the future. This isn't a wishful thinking but a ground reality which we all men need to face.

@Davino What you can do is feel through or accept both negative and positive emotions. This is the key even though it's easy to say and hard to do.