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You certainly implied it. If you had framed the question as 'hey, no new video for a while, is everything alright?' then fair dos. But it was this part: You sound like someone's boss telling them to get back to work and that you expect better from them lol My point was quite aggressively framed, so sorry. But was just trying to say that you aren't owed anything as it's totally free content

Are you honestly that addicted... Jesus christ, get a hobby or something It's not disrespectful to anyone, you're not owned anything. It's free content

You can also walk down the street without worrying about getting raped and murdered Yes girls get a better deal on dating apps but that's a very narrow slice of life

Out of curiosity (and feel free not to share if this is too personal!) were you bullied when you were younger? Or how was your social life in school is perhaps a more accurate question? I'm asking because a few of the attractive dudes I know who had confidence issues were bullied quite a bit and under socialised in school

The grass is always greener on the other side It always looks like things are better for others than they are for you

The grass is always greener

It doesn't really need explanation. If you could sign up to an app and have 5 hot girls a day wanting your attention you would do it

I didn't say only low value girls use tinder. I said that as an average to even above average guy on tinder you are only going to be able to consistently match with low to medium value girls

Duh

It doesn't even look like there's that much correlation. Stuff just looks kinda randomly arranged. The only strong pattern I see is that a lot of the super dark shit is authoritarian right

Well at least show me someone who you think deserved a ban but wasn't banned, if it's a big issue there should be plenty of examples I know. But unfortunately you can't ban people for that

I mean, there are more male internet users, more male users on the forum, and it's usually men who struggle with dating more than women. I would say those are the main reasons that the dating section is mainly male posts Can you show an example of someone not being banned after being sexist and misogynistic? I'm fairly active in this section and I can't really think of many, maybe 1 or 2. But I do know that examples of it are not going to be as apparent to me as they would be to you, so I know I could easily have missed them

Got my first long term relationship (when I was a shy insecure 17 year old) on Tinder. Stayed with her for 2.5 years. Was an ok time but mentally she was quite unstable After that I started using Tinder again and in a year and a half I've slept with maybe 10-15 girls from tinder? Some were maybe slightly above average, some were... uhm... not. Many of the girls on tinder I found had self-esteem issues too, or just generally slightly quirky personalities but not necessarily in a good way, at least for my tastes. I've only ever met 2-3 girls from tinder that I would even consider a longer term relationship with, but I'd feel like I was settling --- The thing is, you gotta ask yourself why a girl in the 18-25ish age range who is: at least average looking; has friends; has a stable personality, would use tinder. The answer is that in every country in the world except the US (lol) they don't. It's like <10% of girls in that age range that use dating apps in most countries I can think of three main reasons why a girl would use tinder: 1. short term loneliness & boredom 2. access to extremely high value and good looking men 3. struggles to attract men she's attracted to in real life I'm sure there are more but these are the three main ones I can think of. Now when you swipe through Tinder and see the really hot girls who are clearly pretty basic and just living your average hot girl life, they're absolutely in #2 and good fucking luck matching with them, you won't even show up in their stack for them to swipe on you #1 is the girls who download tinder whenever they want to fuck, swipe for 10mins, pick the hottest dude they can match with nearby which is almost certainly not you or I, then delete the app #3 can either be because she doesn't look great or because personality. She could be unattractive, she could be nuts or best case she could just be introverted/shy and not go out much So basically, if you're like average to above average you're going to be fighting over the girls in #3 which is not a great pool of choice. Maybe occasionally you get lucky and find a girl in #1, but she's probably not that hot If this makes online dating sound like a shit show: good. It was meant to. If you can get matches it's useful as something you have running in the background but don't ever make it your sole method of meeting girls because it will destroy your self esteem and waste tons of your time

This^^^

This sounds almost murderous. Pickup is good but when you start sounding a bit like a serial killer take a step back Discussing strategies to 'isolate a girl from her friends' is approaching that territory... You actually sound like a psychopath here. Of course girls are going to be 'attached to security' when they're physically at risk of so much danger, especially in a club It would be weirder if they weren't concerned with their safety If a girl trusts you then she'll follow you. You don't need magical words to counteract the 'i want to go back to my friends' because by that time you've already failed Her being super concerned about going back to her friends is basically her telling you that you haven't built enough trust yet for whatever you're asking her to do, or she just isn't attracted. Either way it's a rejection

It's probably one of the fields with the most abundantly available jobs that there is right now I work as a web developer now btw, sort of full stack so I do frontend and backend. It's not something I want to do forever but it's a fantastic starting point. Good money, usually pretty chill companies, often remote or hybrid working You also learn a lot of the basics of online marketing and design which is great if you want to start your own business in the future In regards to online courses, I've never taken one. But I did do CS at uni and it taught me nothing about web development Having a good portfolio of personal projects was what made me stand out when applying for my first web dev job. If online courses expose you to the job market and let you build up a decent portfolio of projects, then they're probably worth it

I get the sense you think this is a bad thing Often a POV based on intuition and feeling can be correct even if you can't necessarily find the logic to spell it out

How is this different? Owning your frame, displaying confidence are indicators that you're in fact not a loser or a virgin. If you delivered that line confidently I guarantee you 95%+ of girls would assume you were joking

You're being too literal By confidently proclaiming that you're a shy virgin you actually give the impression that you're the exact opposite It's not about the literal words you say, it's how they're said

Just do that material stuff while you're young and you can Figuratively, you want to be the rich person who understands that money can't make them happy rather than the poor person coping with the fact they don't have money by saying money can't make you happy Replace money with most material pursuits you desire and this still works

Depending on what media you consume, it's not all bad. For example if you watch a whole bunch of YouTube or social media you can end up being exposed to a lot of new ideas Although this is less the case now because these algorithms are designed to feed you more and more of the same They also help you keep up to date with current trends Back when I was 15-16 (6-7 years ago) YT + video games ended up being the motivation for me to learn programming and now I work as a software engineer. Between aged 15-18 almost all the code I wrote was mods for video games that me and my virtual friends played. Frankly these were some of the best years of my life thus far and I gained many invaluable lessons from these years, yet they felt like pure fun Having said that, such a path at my current age would likely just be time wasted. It's tricky to balance

Yes. Don't pester women going about their day in environments that aren't normally that sociable like a street or a mall At least don't make a habit of it, do it if you're out naturally and see a girl you find attractive If you wanna spam approach girls go to a club, it's basically why they exist

Note that I said no such thing. I simply suggested that you could if you wish and may be happier as a result Speak to many traditional, conservative old people and they will often tell you that they regret how rigid they were in earlier life and wished they'd explored more before settling down in like their early twenties. That is essentially them regretting not developing to a more orangey lifestyle when they were younger. I'm pretty sure the two bits of advice I've had from most of the older generation I know is 'go explore the world' and 'dont settle down too early' Uhm. There can be. If you're a pedophile that's an incredibly toxic preference I know what you mean, but if you have unhealthy preferences it can be very toxic for you and those around you Marriage is a dying concept. I have no plans of getting married. Why the fuck do I need the government in my relationship? I'll settle down with someone I love but I'm not getting married, I find the whole idea of marriage dumb as shit, especially if you're a dude If you actually love the person you are with you can make it work without involving the government. Problem is if your partner is chosen for you or you settle down early there's a very very high chance that you aren't suited and thus you need the government to introduce barriers to prevent you from separating. Pickup exists to allow men to sort through partners until they find one they truly match with. Women don't really need pickup for this, they just need to explore and find the best man they can

Get that stick out of your ass

What is it about loud music settings you don't like? If you really hate these then your other options are to make some friends, go do activities you enjoy, meet girls that way If you can't go to busy sociable places and you can't build a social circle then yea celibacy is probably your only option lol. But I'd recommend you instead try pushing your comfort zones and see what happens You sound a little bit like you have the "I'm above partying and socialising" attitude that I used to have when I was in high school to justify myself being kind of a loner. Holy fuck I'm glad I got over that