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Just because a relationship lasts a long time doesn’t mean it’s a good relationship I think when you’re young you should experiment a lot so you know what you want out of a serious relationship

For some people it just comes natural For others the only way to detach really is to build up a sense of abundance. If you feel like you’re only meeting women you’re attracted to rarely, you’re gonna get super needy when you do meet them There isn’t really a quick solution to this, it just kinda comes with experience and with talking to lots and lots of girls

I think in clubs simple is better. There’s a good chance the girl won’t hear you first time and it gets super awkward to repeat complicated openers a few times I don’t think the actual content of the opener matters as much as your energy when you deliver it I’d pick something simple and just try it over and over. Or you could open with the thing about the girl that stands out to you the most. Observe whatever it is that stands out about her and point it out with high energy

Dude get a grip, you sound toxic af

How does the women know whether the man she is talking to is safe or not? She has no idea how he will respond to rejection. In many circumstances the women knows nothing about the man and is not going to risk her safety in the name of being honest to some dude she barely knows Yea in a perfect world a women wouldn't need to play games like that but we don't live in anything near a perfect world lol

You could do a sample of your average millennial and younger population and find roughly the same thing. About half of all people under the age of 35 will probably report struggling with some kind of mental illness at some point in their life. Might even be higher I don't think this forum necessarily attracts a higher percentage of people who struggle with mental health

In a sense you are right, us men can't really understand why women feel like this because frankly we love being objectified by women right from the get go, it doesn't bother us The die hard feminist idea that men are constantly objectifying women and that is toxic and evil and so on, is dumb. I have a feeling that is what you don't like and you are probably right to feel that way But honestly I don't think this is as big of an issue as you make it out to be. Many girls like being objectified... by a guy that's playful, fun, attractive and set up a situation where the girl feels safe. Once you've reached that stage, nothing turns a girl on more than you using her like your dirty little sex object who exists purely to satisfy your deepest dirtiest desires for the night. Then cuddling up with her afterwards. The problems occur when you are treating her like a subhuman item that exists purely to satisfy your desires right from the get go without any build up. Women interpret this as creepiness because they know what you want, and they know that you don't care for their wellbeing at all. You only care about your own desires and not what she wants. You're selfish and you offer her nothing. That is the kind of objectification women are repelled by You're basically seen as spoilt child who just wants sex without giving the girl anything in return

6'4 But I'm also quite lanky. Being tall is nice, especially in a busy environment like a club, it functions like a fancy shirt that gets you noticed. But it doesn't get you approached by girls. At least not girls I also find attractive. If I go to a club for a night I'll usually get 1 or 2 girls come up and point out my height, but it's usually one of two archetypes of girl who approach me for it: questionably attractive gothy girls looking for a tall skinny guy, or extremely tall girls. Neither of these I'm into, really. They tend to have very masculine personalities on top of that if they approach you too Closest I've had to a hot girl approach me was a girl's friend come up and say her friend thought I was cute, her friend was a hot American girl, but then I went and talked to her friend and she was clearly not into me. I'm not really sure what happened there. I suspect my personality didn't cut it Long story short, waiting for girls to approach you is a terrible strategy

I can't remember where I read this, it might have been something Leo said: "Women don't want looks, women want a man" If you look good you have a significant advantage but you can totally nullify that by not having masculine personality qualities like the confidence to go and talk to a girl I also look pretty good, and I'm very tall too, but it's very rare I'd get approached. It's happened a few times and it's usually been girls I'm not that into, it usually tends to be quite masculine girls

I'm pretty sure this kind of thinking is why the solipsism video was taken down lol

Grass is always greener

I mean everyone has celeb crushes. But it’s quite disrespectful to rub it in your significant others face like that I remember me and my ex used to joke about what celebs we each found attractive, but it was done in a tongue and cheek humorous way and it was mutual

Oh yea totally agree. That’s pure scumbaggery. If you know the other person wants more and you don’t but you keep seeing them that’s pure manipulation Being direct about just wanting sex isn’t bad as long as you’re not a total asshat about it either. But it’s kind of a bad strategy for guys and a very risky strategy for girls. It’s more fun for everyone if you’re a bit more playful and flirty about it

I actually can’t understand this. It’s totally not a criticism, it just feels so totally alien to how I (and I suspect many men) experience sexuality that I struggle to even empathise with it like I wish I could

Nah I'm a dude. No one is making you, and you certainly don't have to, but it's nice to do things for others sometimes. The picture I get here is that these ladies feel left out since I'm assuming there aren't that many men their own age there. It's good to try and include everyone in these kinds of activities if you can. You wouldn't want to feel left out either

Why can't you just split it and sometimes dance with girls your age and sometimes the older women? If they make up 10% of the scene then 1 in every 10 times dance with one of the older women. I bet if girls your age see you having a great time laughing and dancing with the older women they'll want to dance with you even more Yea no one is altruistic when it comes to their dating lives, but this isn't dating. This is salsa dancing

Some people are born to be in the military. It's what they want to do, they get a huge kick out of everything about it. And some people are not really like that, but they have a massive sense of national pride motivating them. Those are the two types of soldiers who win wars. If neither of those describe you, don't join the military if you can avoid it. Let those two classes of people join the army, while you do your own thing with your life. They will be better soldiers than you will ever be If you're not one of those people then you're just likely to die pointlessly in a war you don't really care about, forced to hurt and kill people you don't want to hurt or kill

Trust me dude, height on dating apps is not like some magical key. Facial appearance, coolness and lifestyle are way more important there Yea it’s nice to be able to put 6ft+ and it helps but if you’re 6ft+ with a crappy profile it isn’t gonna save you

This kind of fits my description. My lack of social skills definitely hinders me. I've never been diagnosed with anything but I probably have some kind of social anxiety and mild aspergers or something maybe Honestly though, I've made tons of progress in the past 6 months since moving out of my parents house, I'm just pushing my limits every weekend in terms of going out partying and just meeting lots of people. I've joined sports classes (jiu jitsu), I go to a chess club. Not to meet girls (you probably couldn't find worse hobbies to meet girls lol) but just to make sure I'm doing something social almost every night of the week If you're not seriously autistic or have serious mental illness then you can learn social skills. It isn't easy and it's definitely scary but it's possible

I’ve had social anxiety ever since school I’m not totally incapable socially, but I almost never feel at ease in social situations and in many of them I get downright overwhelmed I was wondering if anyone had experience/advice with therapy for treating, I would say, moderate social anxiety? I reached out to what appears to be the main therapy group in my city to see what they say, but it’s gonna be around £100 (~$130) a session so it’s certainly not cheap I’m doing my own stuff to try and be more sociable as well, going out, hobbies etc. but even then there’s always an undertone of anxiety and uneasiness that I want to eliminate and I figured maybe therapy could help Thanks for any advice!

Biggest thing was loss of smell. I still can't smell properly after 6 months. It's very slowly improving, but still only maybe 50-60% of what it was before

This is the linchpin of your entire argument, and it’s pure speculation There have been gay people since humanity began. Stop giving a fuck about it, who cares if it’s normalised. Anything that moves it towards being considered more acceptable will reduce the suicide rate and suffering of that community in the long run. Anything that does the opposite (more or less what you are suggesting as far as I can tell) will keep it where it is or increase it. If you reduce the acceptability of it in order to decrease the number of homosexual people overall, you will just increase the suffering of the smaller group of homosexual people because they feel like there’s more of a problem with them

Literally anything can be funny if you pull it off right. It's not really about the words, more the delivery

How is what you're doing any different? This is a silly point to make when you're also unwilling to compromise even slightly on your position... lol

I have no idea Like I said, I chimed in here because I disagreed with the IMO kinda silly and basic "Russia putin evil" statement OP was making. I'm no expert on international politics. I just disagreed with that style of thinking because no intelligent group acts out of 'evil', they do what they do for good and just reasons from their own perspective. And I used the admittedly pretty basic knowledge I have on the situation (+ some common sense) to argue that point