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How does it feel to go out to places where you’re essentially competing with celebrities? I’m assuming you must see a decent number of high profile dudes out and about in vegas then I can’t really think of a single time I’ve seen someone particularly well known or famous in a club where I stay, though I do notice a bit of insecurity when I see guys who are particularly good looking which is why I’m curious

I've seen Leo recommend a DMT vape pen instead of alcohol if you're going out to busy clubs. Microdosing other psychedelics would probably be pretty similar. Although I suppose DMT is quite short lived, whereas if you accidentally miscalculate your microdose for traditional pyschedelics things could go south pretty bad cos it'll last a long time.

I have not experienced anything like this. Maybe stop using Facebook. It is filled with crazy boomers who have nothing better to do than create drama.

Sorry man but this is super cringy, I don't think you should say this to her. If you're gonna try and escalate (which I don't recommend you do at this point) you're gonna need to be funny and playful about it, not super serious like that

It’s probably going to be a nightmare. You’ll be at odds all the time and simple things like your views on sex are going to clash horrifically Just go after girls that are at the same level of development as you. If you want some casual dating stage blue is not where you wanna be looking

Stop using online dating. It’s more trouble than it’s worth. Start going to busy sociable places where talking to girls is very acceptable. I gather India isn’t so great for that but there must be liberal places like bars, clubs etc. SOMEWHERE in the bigger cities Go to these places and talk to a bunch of girls

I've obtained some LSD from a new group of friends I made over the weekend. Also ordered a test kit, my plan is to take it this Thursday after the kit arrives and I can confirm it's LSD. This is my first time tripping on acid, but I've taken mescaline (from cacti) before and some other random substances like LSA from seeds and strong weed edibles, so I'm not totally inexperienced. But I would say this is probably my first proper trip on a traditional psychedelic. I've got two tabs, I'm planning on taking one, since I don't know the dosage. But I'm basically looking for any recommendations on things to try or avoid during what I'd consider my first proper trip I've read basic safety guides, but obviously the advice here is more tailored towards spirituality so I'm curious if anyone has any suggestions for inducing spiritual experiences while taking psychedelics. But I'd also just like any general suggestions or recommendations for fun things to try when tripping. Thanks in advance

The cheap solution to getting over this is to go to the busiest places. Like the places where you can’t even move from people. This seems counter-intuitive, but in a huge crowd you blend in, no one can tell you are alone so your mind lets you relax. And the chances of you meeting people is much higher. The root solution is what @flowboy recommended, however.

So I'm at the 8-9hr mark now. Was def a good first trip I reckon from reading other people's reports was prob about 80-100µg tab, so ideal first time trip dosage. I also now really wanna take a higher dosage and get properly blown away instead of just enjoying a cool headspace and some neat visuals. I think the thing I enjoyed the most was just closing my eyes and letting my mind morph and melt through tons of different random shapes, visuals and stories in my mind. It really is beautiful I tried going for a walk at one point but that was a mistake. I live in a town centre with lots of people around and the paranoia was intense and unpleasant quite quickly, so I just went home.

This feels like an exaggeration. I'm 1999, so technically a Zoomer (although I'd probably relate more to millennials) and I haven't really experienced anything like that. I'm regularly interacting with people in the 18-20 range as well and again, never really heard any stories of something like this. Plenty of dudes actually just being creepy though. I think what has happened is that zoomers have absolutely fucked social skills, especially the boys, so they are actually just being more creepy on the whole. I don't think it's that we are necessarily more sensitive to creepy behaviour now than before. Maybe a little bit. I hear a lot of people talk about the end of dating because of cancel-culture etc. but if you actually go out and about all the socially well-adjusted people are not having an issue, really. Perhaps it's different in the era of younger zoomers, that I don't know. It will be interesting to see how things go.

You don't know if the sources are full of shit or not. Again, back to the sport analogy: if you have never played basketball you could read 1000 books on it and think every one of them is genius, and taught you the truth. But I would still not come to you for basketball lessons, nor would I recommend anyone else does. For example, Leo's booklist has a value of $35 because of his own personal experience. We trust him to recommend good books and filter out bad ones. His booklist would be worthless if he himself had no experience. Not everything, just your posts about attraction advice. I just take a little bit of issue with someone preaching advice who doesn't have the experience to back it up. That's all. I think that's a fairly justifiable reason to question someone, especially since you post a lot in this sub-forum. From what I can tell, you've applied your booksmart attraction advice twice in your life. And that's it. You've successfully attracted two girls, now you feel qualified to tell other guys how to attract girls. If this is not the case and you have a lot more experience, then my point is moot.

I mean if that's what you're doing by all means continue. But somehow don't get the feeling that's true, or you'd have mentioned it sooner.

No no, it's definitely because you're a Cancer ♋

What job are you applying for there out of curiosity? As for working in an Amazon warehouse, your experience is not isolated. Amazon are actually running out of people to hire in a lot of places now because their staff turnover rate is through the roof. It's 150% per year which is absolutely nuts. You're certainly not alone in being screwed over by them.

Not disputing your knowledge/experience in relationships, only in the attraction phase. Knowing how to react on the fly is the heart of game.

It doesn't make a difference. You are giving advice about something you do not have a lot of experience with, which is unwise. Do you know how to advise basketball players because you read a hundred books about basketball and then scored two hoops? That is analogous to what you are doing right now. I'm not saying books are bad. I'm saying that book knowledge about attraction is not that valuable to most men, especially when it's not combined with practice. It's almost exactly like trying to learn a sport through reading books. When you show up for day 1 of basketball practice, they don't give you an assigned reading of 3 books. This is the point I am trying to convey at heart. Attracting girls isn't about having the right information, beyond the very basics And it is the heart of game. Dating Gurus largely write books to make lots of money. It's a very grifty genre of book on the whole because it sells so well

I agree entirely. Which is why you don't need to read lots of books to do it With one girl. That is not really quantifiable success from a particular method, it's mostly just the fact that you left your house, went somewhere with girls, and weren't totally socially inept. Because that's really all it takes for the average dude to get laid If you wanna be a player all you gotta do is keep going to places with lots of girls and refine your strategy for working the venue. And when it comes to actually talking to girls you just learn it by doing it over and over and seeing what works It's almost entirely about overcoming your fears rather than knowing what exactly to do

In regards to relationships, fair enough. You have a decent amount of experience and I think the parts of your posts that discuss that area are the parts I generally agree with and think are very well written However the attraction advice you give feels abstract and theoretical, which is not that useful, and is where I was questioning your experience. And it does seem you lack experience there Attracting girls is often about keeping it simple, getting the basics right, lots of practice. The more theory you consume, the more in your head you get. And it’s also about knowing the logistics: where to go, how to find girls, where to take girls, how to lead, how to deal with logistical problems that occur etc. It’s very hard to understand how this works and give advice on this topic without talking to a fuck ton of girls, you simply can’t understand the problems that come up on an emotional level (fear, anxiety) for guys trying to attract girls, or how girls will typically respond to certain things, or how to lead a girl in the short term None of that can be learned from a book

Then why all the research? Sorry, I wasn't saying you have low EQ. I was suggesting that you are primarily approaching relationships and giving advice to others on relationships in a very 'IQ' theoretical way, which is how I could pick out that you didn't have that much direct experience. Whenever I hear people talk about some wildly amazing book for dating, I always get sceptical. Men have been attracting women for hundreds of thousands of years, there's nothing new or secret to discover about it that can be taught to you by reading a bunch of books. You can get most of the theory for how to attract women from a 30 second google search: confidence, edginess, fun, playful, masculine, exciting, authenticity, detachment, exposure to lots of women. You actually can just boil down the whole thing to: go out and talk to lots of women, try exhibiting some of the above traits, push yourself, learn from mistakes, repeat. IMO reading books is counterproductive to the whole process. You're meant to be getting yourself out of your head, not cementing yourself in a cinder block of theory

Good to know. I'd rather start safe as well. I have a reasonably reliable source now anyway for when I want to get more.

Thanks @Benton @Cykaaaa! Will be sure to try out those suggestions From what I gather a typical tab is anywhere from 50-150µg, and I'm planning on taking one tab. I have a fairly high tolerance for other substances so I think that should be fine.

So, I do appreciate what you post here. And oftentimes I agree with you. But I did get a distinct vibe of "this guy has consumed way too much theory without much practice" from you which is why I asked. This particular post was a strong example of that. Most of the issues people have with dating don't really come from a lack of theoretical understanding. It's to do with getting yourself into the correct emotional state, dealing with fear, anxiety, knowing the right locations to go to, learning to be more sociable, building up a social circle etc. These things are very hard for someone with only a theoretical understanding to advise upon, because you don't have much experience with the emotional rollercoaster of relationships. You're basically applying IQ to a problem that fundamentally requires you to develop EQ. Wrong tool for the job. This is a warning sign to me. I would not normally take advice from someone who has only applied their own advice once or twice. If all of your theory is so useful to you, and works so well, why have you not gone out and applied it more?

Trying to do too many different things at once rather than concentrating your efforts Believing what someone (e.g. a spiritual teacher) tells you at face value, without doing your own investigations

No for all of these, girl's attraction very rarely changes over time. If a girl isn't attracted to you there's little you can do to change that. Unfortunately your best bet is to move on. Think of how many other girls there are out there! There are probably 1000 other girls you'd be attracted to within walking distance of you right now. Don't waste your time on a girl who won't reciprocate. I'd keep her as a friend if you think you can handle that, having female friends is good

Out of curiosity, how much direct experience do you have in this area?