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There was chemistry there while we were talking, then when it actually came to the sex it just wasn't great. Oddly I've been in a similar position to the guy you hooked up with before too, the girl was in an open relationship and I met her off Feeld. It made me uncomfortable thinking about the boyfriend so I didn't want to see her again. I thought I'd be capable of handling it at first, but I could tell that she wasn't really that into her bf after we slept together, she was talking about how much more she enjoyed sleeping with me than with her BF. Something about that made me feel like I was ruining a relationship and I wasn't OK with that. Maybe that could be part of it in your case too.

Whenever I've hooked up with a girl and she wanted to hook up again but I didn't, it was because the sexual chemistry just wasn't there for me.

What in the fuck did I just read? I feel like I need to wash out my eyeballs with soap and water now

It kind of makes sense that the slower you move the more muscle growth you’ll encourage. The more time your muscles spend under tension the more they tear and the more they grow. The only hill I’ve ever seen Jeff Nippard die on say in terms of how your reps should be timed is that the eccentric should be at least 1 second. Realistically if your eccentric is shorter than 1 second you’re probably lifting with bad form or trying to lift weights that are too heavy for you

Gemini is probably the best value for money for general purpose stuff. ChatGPT quite heavily limits a lot of complex function like image processing while Gemini has much more relaxed limits on them. For coding I like Claude, I pay £10/m to Copilot and I can use Claude for complex agent tasks several times per day without ever hitting the limits.

I feel depressed if I wake up in the pitch black. I want to wake up to blisteringly bright sunshine.

Wow. Dude is proud of himself for going 11 days without smoking and now is already finding a way to rationalise starting to smoke again while proclaiming how 'easy' it is to quit. I hope you're not taking this seriously.

God damn any woman reading this is thinking "I would not touch this guy with a 10ft pole" This is such a weaselly and scummy approach to dating. It's better to just start building a life a girl would actually want to be a part of instead of trying to fake it with all of these schemes. Do cool stuff and you'll get authentic high quality photos of yourself that way which you can use on dating apps, then you'll have far more success. I bet you that you had little success on apps because your photos are terrible or they look fake. Build a social circle, do cool stuff, get cool photos, and go out to busy mixed gender places and talk to girls in person. I cannot imagine how bad my emotional state would be if every night I was scouring men's profiles on instagram to hit on the women they follow, with my completely AI generated profile, telling them about my AI generated pet.

It’s implied by the fact that you have picked out these two single issues as the easiest ways to determine if someone is worth taking seriously. Climate change makes sense, but porn is such an odd hill to die on

I find it bizarre that porn is top of your list for threats to humanity. Like you consider it on the same threat level as climate change which could potentially cause the extinction of humanity? Not to be rude, but that’s kind of crazy. The people who use porn as a substitute for real human connection have an unhealthy relationship with it. If you are otherwise well rounded and jerk off to porn a few times a week it’s not going to suddenly ruin your life

Google simple stuff, ask complex questions here

I don’t mean to be rude, but this is extremely easy information to google

Comparing smoking to a gun is actually unfair on guns. Smoking kills 10x more people per year in the US than guns do.

Because they're made from tobacco from a specific plant and that's just what is inside of that plant. Those plants contain nicotine but also a bunch of other stuff. There is probably something different available in every country. All that really matters is that you can refill it with e-liquid of a low strength. Just find what's available in your country.

Check out this video on the health impacts. Nicotine itself is not super harmful, it raises your heart rate and blood pressure which is not ideal but beyond that it won't kill you any quicker than caffeine. The tar, carbon monoxide and all of other random shit in cigarettes is what is really bad for you. Vaping also includes some unhealthy compounds, but not anywhere near as many as a cigarette. Yes, vaping can be more addictive in some ways but it's also significantly healthier for you than cigarettes. You also have a lot more control over nicotine content. Don't just buy disposable vapes, they're usually extremely strong. Buy a refillable one and get low nicotine content e-liquid, then progressively buy lower nicotine content e-liquid every few weeks. You can even buy e-liquid in flavours you don't really like to make it less addictive. You could also switch to zyn pouches, they're the healthiest way to take nicotine if you're trying to stop. Just make sure to get low strength ones and try to taper off.

Get a vape, start at 20mg (2%) nicotine content then slowly reduce the nicotine potency every week or two, from 20mg -> 15mg -> 10mg -> 5mg -> 3mg -> quit Vaping is still bad for you but it's estimated to be like 95% healthier than smoking. And a gradual taper off like this is much easier than just suddenly quitting. Once you get down to 3mg or you stop entirely, if you're still having cravings, have an occasional weak strength zyn or nicotine pouch Nicotine itself isn't that bad for you, it's the delivery method that comes with issues

Moving to a bigger city will help a lot. Small cities can work but it depends a lot on the city and whether it has good nightlife

It’s not incredibly reliable data but I saw a Reddit post recently of a guy who used tinder passport to gather data on women’s preferences for casual/serious relationships all over the world. The formula was: # of girls looking for short term / (# of girls looking for short term + # of girls looking for long term) It ranged all the way from 90% in Argentina to around 10-20% in most of Western Europe. Interestingly Nordics + Western Europe were the countries where the least women were looking for short term. In the US it was around 30%. Either way, this is not a small percentage of the population of women.

The best thing by far for me has been to move into a built-to-rent apartment. Most big cities have these. They usually have a co-working space, gym and organise social events. I've gone from having no friends to a solid friend group of like 15 people in around 2 months just by living here. It's insane. They're usually quite pricey, but for me it's been very worth it. Aside from this, all of the usual stuff like hobby groups and gigs etc. are good ideas.

A lot of people like this (me included) think we are eating a lot of calories but our diets are extremely inconsistent, we tend to have low appetite and fill that appetite with something like one or two easy high calorie meals and some snacks every day, which is not enough to be in caloric surplus even though the food is unhealthy and calorie dense. You may also eat 4000 calories one day and 700 on other days, which balances out to caloric deficit. If you start counting calories you'll be surprised just how little you actually eat. And to be clear this is not healthy for you either. You're destroying the inside of your body even if you don't look unhealthy on the outside.

If you use a credit card properly it has lots of benefits. It increases your credit score often you get rewards in the form of air miles or cashback it can make it easier to manage your month to month finances since everything comes out of your bank account in one big sum you have significantly increased purchase protection since if you get scammed, card-swiped etc. you'll always get the money back Using it properly just means paying it off in full every month and not letting any interest build up at all.

The key to going solo is: Go to the busiest places you can Talk to everybody It also helps to go to places that have quieter parts where you can actually talk to people properly. Going with a group of friends is almost always more fun, but going out solo can be very good for building social skills

London is great. Every time I've gone out there I've ended up hooking up with someone. The biggest issue is that it's an expensive city both in terms of rent and going out. You end up having to live in shitty multi-person accommodation, or miles out of the city. And a drink at a popular club can be upwards of £20. These aren't unmanageable hurdles, but it does suck. It's an amazing city for nightlife if you're staying there for a few days in a hotel in the centre of the city, I'm just not sure I'd want to live there. I think traditional daygame is pretty degen and I've never really done it, so I can't talk about whether that is good in London or not. People in the UK don't tend to have a high tolerance for annoying strangers so it probably sucks.

The most I ever got laid was when I lived a 30 sec walk from the entrance to a club. It's insane how much of a difference it makes. I was lucky that I lived in a cheap city at the time though, which London is not. It was quite a nice flat too, so I could have afterparties which was great for getting laid and making friends.