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Being bullied in school can fuck you up more than you realise, speaking from experience. It causes you to learn all sorts of coping mechanisms that affect you negatively for the rest of your life. For example bullied kids often learn that not reacting is a good way to stop bullies from targeting them as much, so they learn to ignore problems instead of facing them head on. Or they learn that self-expression/uniqueness = pain, so they learn to be shy and invisible. Or you end up with crippling social anxiety because your lizard brain learns to associate all other people with pain.

You have more control than you realise over your mood when you go out. Just chat to everyone you can in the most sociable parts of the club where talking is possible and I promise your nights out will get 10x better

This might be long but I’ll share my experience with clubbing. The two things that significantly improved my experience in clubs were: finding people to go with most weekends focusing on having fun instead of just talking to girls This is because a sociable state is key to having a good time in a club, and having a good time in a club is key to meeting girls there. The key to this puzzle is getting into that sociable flow state. The best way I’ve found to get into that state is to chat to guys first. Make friends. This is good because you’re no longer “alone” in the club, and it also significantly improves your state of mind. For example, here in the UK most clubs have a smoking area that’s crammed with people. When I used to go solo I headed straight for the smoking area, chatted to a bunch of people and made some temporary friends for the night. Just from this, my emotional state was 10x better and then I’d also have people to go and dance with or chat to. I now have more permanent friends that I met from doing this who I still go clubbing with occasionally, which makes things way easier. Once you can reliably chat to guys and make friends for the night, then you force yourself to more directly confront the fear of approaching girls. It will be much easier now, but likely still scary. Set yourself a goal of just talking to (or dancing) with 5 girls in one night and then scale it up over time. Once you have done the 5 approaches you have achieved your goal, you are free, you can relax, you can do whatever you want for the rest of the night in the club, you can feel proud of yourself. Then scale that number up each time. I noticed something very powerful happened when I had done the N approaches. Because I told myself that I had done what I came to do and now I was free to relax and chill out for the rest of the night, much of the anxiety and pressure vanishes almost instantly. I hope this helps you, sorry again that it’s so long

The list of issues you listed at the end are 100x more relevant than anything in that guy's video and deserve more attention and discussion. In essentially all cases, if a woman or man dropped a barbell on themselves in any gym, they'd get help quickly and no one would make a big deal out of it. She has a tripod for checking her form, not to detect creeps like is implied. And is that woman who is pressing charges for SA after the guy saved her life ungrateful and cruel? Absolutely. However I also can't find any information about it online either other than the original articles from some less than reliable news sites. Given it was 2.5 years ago you can likely conclude it came to nothing as would be expected. IIRC there is also a good samaritan law which would protect him. My point is not that this stuff isn't an issue. It is. But it isn't nearly as widespread as what channels like this make it out to be. if you want to be properly informed on these issues, channels like this are a very low quality place to get your information from. Just like the woman posting men staring on social media, these channels are trying to make money by creating outrage. They have no incentive to be fair or unbiased.

He mentioned he got falsely accused by a woman and that it had a significant impact on his life. Although I agree with you too, being online too much gives you a very warped sense of reality.

You sound like a broken record. Something horrible happened to you in the past, you need to get over that and move on with your life. Instead what you are doing is trying to convince yourself that the only way someone could have wronged you is because they were brainwashed by the evil boogeyman of feminism. No, they were just a bad person. The world is full of those and they exist in all groups and genders. You were in the wrong place at the wrong time, you got unlucky and met a shitty person who took advantage of you. You need to accept this and stop using it to fuel your own hatred or it is going to eat you alive. Ironically the extremist man-hating feminists are doing EXACTLY the same thing as you. Many of them had a very bad experience with a few men and construct an enemy out of all men to cope with it. That's what you're doing too.

Welcome to the casino

What issue did you have?

You can try holotropic breathing. I got some very interesting observer effects from it. Don't do it if you have heart conditions or breathing problems though. And start small and build up over time.

To be honest I saw just as many, if not more, beautiful women walking about streets in Scotland than when I go down to London for work. And especially in nightclubs. By that logic alone, Dhaka is better for getting better with women than London. City size probably gets you diminishing returns after you hit like 1 mil population. At that point you don't need anymore people. I think that living in a reasonably populous city where you can actually afford to live somewhere decent is better for improving your skills with women. It's hard to get better with women if you are constantly worried about if you can afford outrageously expensive rent or not. The average rent for a London property exceeded the median salary for the UK this year. Fuck that. Meeting girls and having a GF is already expensive, let alone with £1.5k rent for a mouldy studio flat with a 40 min commute to good venues.

Craig Ferguson is brilliant the guy is an absolute genius when it comes to flirting

I didn't say anything about London in my post I said I live in the UK. I live in Scotland, near Glasgow. Many cities in the rest of the UK (excluding the obvious like London) have a similar setup where moving a few miles out of the town centre will half your rent. I managed just fine in a city with 1/15th the population of London. Any major city in the UK will be fine. Obviously being in a small town is a big problem but London is likely not the solution unless you are rich or you need to live there for work. Sounds like the middle of nowhere The stat I can find is that around 15% of people aged 25-34 still live at home in the US. That's a lot, but it's not crazy. That means that for 85%+ of people in that age range it was possible to move out of their parents house. Like I said, if you don't have a decent job that should be your focus. In an ideal world any job would net you enough income to move out, but that's not the world we live in unfortunately. If you are working a crappy service job, yea, it's probably gonna be pretty hard to move out. I'm sure there are places where rent is cheaper, even in big cities. And you can also get a roommate. There are ways to make it more manageable with some planning. However I admit I don't know what the exact situation is in the US and it's possible I'm missing something.

Another argument is that responding with overkill is good practice for when a virus comes along that is significantly more deadly. I mean, I was 21 when I got covid and I got it really bad. I was reasonably healthy too. It wasn't so bad that I was near death or even hospitalised, but certainly worse than almost any other cold or illness I've had. My dad who is also reasonably healthy and only in his 50s has permanently lost his smell from covid. It might not be life or death for most people, but it's certainly much worse than regular flu or colds. It also spread around the world exceptionally quickly. It deserved humanities' full attention.

IIRC you live in the UK, right? It’s pretty doable here if you have the skills to land any job that makes you over £25k a year and choose to live somewhere cheap. If you can’t currently get a job which earns that then that’s what you should be focusing all your effort on. When I moved out 2.5yrs ago all my bills each month (including food) came to around £1000/month. If you were on 20k a year that would net you around £500 disposable income each month, which is pretty decent if you are young and single in the UK. Could get tight if you have a car to be fair, and cost of living crisis sucks too. That’s why I said £25k is prob where you can start to save a decent chunk each month. £25k could net you around £700 disposable income per month which is def enough to start saving. Like I said, the key is to live somewhere mildly inconvenient where rent is something like £500 per month instead of the more popular central places where it would be double that or more.

No, it really isn't.

Moving out of my parents house was probably the single biggest improvement to my dating life that I ever made. You can always live in cheaper parts of the city in the outskirts that have good public transport connection or are in driving distance from the city centre. That's what I did and it worked well. And 15-20% of your salary going to savings is pretty good.

I didn't say man bad woman good, I said that you are living in a delusion. I think that delusion comes from trauma, so I do sympathise with you. But maybe you should consider that your worldview is being heavily affected by a trauma that the majority of people have not experienced in their lives.

You're lost in the clouds, fighting a phantom.

If your defining characteristic as a guy is that you’re “nice” it says almost nothing unique about you, it’s just so god damn boring. Women typically want men who fit interesting, well-defined archetypes. Those men can be nice, but ‘nice’ just isn’t their defining characteristic. Thats not even getting started on the fact that if you have to tell people you’re nice, it means you are probably insecure about how nice you really are deep down.

I was in a club at the weekend that gave you unlimited free soft drinks if you showed your car keys at the bar lol

The people who run these events use psychological tactics and (basically) hypnosis to 'cure' people. Sometimes the effects are strong enough to actually work because hypnotic effects can cure certain things, but don't be fooled that you got healed by Jesus or god.

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I saw this today, it’s from a while ago but it gives you a good insight into how narcissistically he views charity and donations so I think it’s good context here. And also shows just what a delusional dick he is. If you want a TLDR; a guy posted a crowdfund thing on twitter for his sick son and Tate asked if he felt like a failure because he was begging for money for a surgery that cost less than a quarter of one of his cars. He then offered to pay for the surgery but only if the dad ‘asked him nicely’ https://www.thelondoneconomic.com/news/ask-nicely-and-ill-save-your-son-vile-andrew-tate-tweet-resurfaces-341311/

I got the sub-communication, the dude clearly feels happy that he's made some good progress and you were a bit of a dick about it by implying to him that it doesn't matter. I don't mean this to be insulting to you, but smashing other people's progress is a such a dick move that I felt I had to comment on it.

How is that relevant?