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I'll take a million shots if I have to

Thank you @Thought Art Other actualizers let me know as well.

A big challenge for me is actually implementing the things I learn in self-help videos and books and being consistent with it. Also, not giving in too much on distractions and procrastinations. I could list a hundred more challenges. Self-development is a long road, it's a war in a sense.

You get exceptionally good at game the same way you get exceptionally good at anything.

I saw this pass too. Very interesting. I'm looking forward to know more about Richard Wrangham analysis of evolution. However, males studying this type of content should be aware that this can pretty much reinforce red-pill and victim type ideologies. This type of content doesn't inform an actualizer on how he should act.

Are you saying I should fap before going out ?

What is the appropriate way of pulling a girl home during nightgame ? Is there an hour during the night that is better for pulling ? By that I mean, can pulling early in the night be done or is not feasible ? Also, can I go for the pull minutes after meeting her ? How long is the right length of time ?

I don't mind spending hours with a girl, in fact I love it. I've just noticed that time spent with one girl doesn't increase the connection. Creating connection and intimacy isn't usually a problem for me, displaying safety isn't either. It's mostly lack of forwardness from my part and i've been contemplating recently how I spend too much time without making a move. So right now i'm kind of swinging my pendulum to the other side and pushing myself to not wait to make things happen.

That was exactly my question, glad you could synthesize it into something simpler

However, mine does @aurum & @Leo Gura, thanks for the information, very helpful. Made a lot of sense to me.

You are making assumptions based off a question I asked. There is no problem

Wouldn't it be a better investment of time to try to pull her in 30-60 minutes and approach other girls if she isn't dtf than waiting and building connection ? What if you spend all your night on one woman ? But if she isn't attracted to someone under 30 minutes, how can that change in let's say 3-6 hours ? Makes sense. At 2am women must be in the state most optimal to have a hook up.

Exactly. Girls need to understand this. My degree of respect will never increase for a girl that makes me wait. Girls that make me wait, i'll make them wait by stopping the interaction altogether and letting them find a new prospect. Go ahead, wait, if that's what you want to do.

I can't wait to enjoy the deep emotional connection i'll have with a girl who is withholding sex from me because she is too scared that i'll reject her if she has sex with me. Also, sex isn't a formality. It's rather the absence of sex that is a formality. If you don't want to have sex with someone, you are not attracted to them. People that are attracted to each other want to have sex with each other. Emotional connection and attraction are very different things.

You went clubbing a billion times and had zero success?

I actually get annoyed by a girl if she tries to wait too long for sex to happen. I usually won't go on more than two dates, three dates maximum. Having sex on the first date is optimal for me. Feeling physical and emotional attraction and instantly consuming it is how I prefer things to be. I'm not going to be someone's puppy and jump through hoops to have sex with her if she wants to make me wait. I feel like making men wait is how some women try to gain control of men and that can be toxic.

Bro, you are going to kill it. Don't let self-doubt run you down. Once you hit the clubs and approach these girls it's a success no matter the outcome.

try pink hair, that's how i got laid the most

Seems like you have things to work on.

Hey guys, i'm looking for a good documentary or a series on the history of psychedelics. If someone knows any good one please let me know.

@Jonty Interesting, thanks

Simply don't try to be smooth by text and do not try to build attraction. Just arrange a date and don't text her anything else. She'll respond or flake independent of how you texted her. Text her something as simple as this : Hey - i'm free on the 17 - meet me at (x) at 7 No question marks

Reflect on the relationship, focus especially on how you could be a better partner in the next one. Think about what type of partner you would like to attract next. Work on every aspect on yourself. Spend more time working on your craft (i.e writing) and hone down on your talents and passions. Go on with life tasks and life purpose. Also, go into no contact. None of this 'staying friends' non-sense. Especially if one or both still have romantic feelings for the other.

We can't regulate the dating market. Do you want to be forced to have sex with women you are not attracted to or repelled by ? So why should women be forced to have sex with guys they are not attracted to ? Stop wasting your time with this non-sense. Society will not hand out sex to you neither should they

Hey. I'm in my early twenties, i'm physically fit and eat healthy most of the time. I don't watch porn, don't smoke, don't do drugs, etc. But sometimes, when i'm with chicks, I have troubles getting strong erections, especially before i'm penetrating her. If I succeed in not thinking too much about the anxiety of not being hard and stay excited long enough to where we both have our clothes off and I can put on a condom without becoming anxious and start to fuck her then I will be hard like a horse and there won't be a problem. However if I think too much about not being able to get hard I will become instantaneously soft just before it's time for penetration and I will spiral into feelings of shame. I know that my erectile dysfunction is caused by an anxiety to perform and to be hard. I just can't not care about not being hard. I'm wondering if anyone on this forum went through something similar and has solid tips to help me solve this problem permanently. I might be thinking of going to see a sex therapist, help me deal with these issues personally. Looking forward to hear about y'all advices and insights.