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@James123 Mind is a belief. It's all imagination. Non of "this belongs to this". All appearing here now

@Breakingthewall That supposes there is an imaginary self, and this self is you. That there is no self is also appearing as imagination. Just imagination appearing - this is enlightenment. Not a person that becomes enlightened. That's a lovely story

@Mellowmarsh I - definitely doesn't exist. A demand for knowledge for the human mind - definitely exists. Just say you're parroting. Don't just say stuff to sound smart. There's nothing special about the belief in the self than a belief in any other imaginary thing.

@James123 Accumulation presupposes there are beliefs in plural that exist "behind the scenes" (stored in the mind). Experience is just one, not an accumulation of stuff from the past. It is all just imagined now.

@Leo Gura Doesn't seem like there is any other that is conscious in this experience. There is only one consciousness. No other experiences. Heck, not even one experience to be honest. Just that - the greatest joke 🤣

@Butters What does Leo have to do with this?

@CARDOZZO Yeah I did cum in her mouth the 2 times we met. Swallowed it like it was nothing

I couldn't meet her the next day as my dick and nervous system around it are still recovering

A little update: Matched with a stunning hot ladyboy that agreed to meet just for her to blow me. No dick at all involved. Was the best blowjob I got in my life. The only thing that kinda made it slightly weird is her voice sounds a bit like a gay guy, but nonetheless was the best. And the thing is that she has no problem meeting again. She really really want to suck me off again. So the trade off seems pretty fine lol

A little update: Matched with a stunning hot ladyboy that agreed to meet just for her to blow me. No dick at all involved. Was the best blowjob I got in my life. The only thing that kinda made it slightly weird is her voice sounds a bit like a gay guy, but nonetheless was the best. And the thing is that she has no problem meeting again. She really really want to suck me off again. So the trade off seems pretty fine lol

So I have those short blitzes of managing to go and socialize, but then followed by a long time of just avoiding going out, too long. This is mostly tailored to my travelers out here, as traveling around and staying in hostels and making friends is the lifestyle. Plenty of opportunity to meet new friends and women. My struggle is that I just don't have this motivation to go out and meet random people. I'm here in Thailand and there are many parties and bars, but it just feels weird going alone, and forget that aspect, I just mostly don't have the energy and motivation for it. Very high stimulus. Maybe here and there. But it frustrates me a little to think on my new year's resolution about setting to do 20 approaches a week, and this first month of January... I'm still on 0. Well, 0 in the technical aspect of cold approaching, because I did talk with like 3 people in my hostel in total for all this time being (one of them was a girl).

So I'm currently traveling Thailand, and I really want to improve my dating/sex life. I've never approached really a woman in my life trying to get her number, forget about approaching to sleep. I'll exclude one recent time I lost my virginity to a Thai woman who was somewhat of a prostitute but eventually wanted to see me of her own will, so I guess this is pretty much the only "practice" I had running game, but it was easy because like I said she was more into me, it was in a club, and I was somewhat drunk. So I've watched Leo Gura's part 1 and part 2 of how to get laid, and he said some very insightful things, which I've tried using, such as to make some playful statements/observational assumptions, creating attraction through eye contact and bouncing her around to feel comfortable following me. So I want to practice more of it, and the issue is that I don't know how to actually "practice". Leo gave some crazy exercises of going out 3 nights a week and approaching 30 women a week, like bro, let me start with something very small. I don't even know yet really how to do 1 approach. Aside from not knowing how to open the approach, I don't know how appropriate the situation is for approaching. Walking around alone in the afternoon on some busy walking paths, seeing a girl in the crowd for 1.5 seconds and then quickly turning around and saying loudly "hey, I really liked your vibe and wanting to come and say hi. My name is Fopylo, what is yours?" doesn't sound like something people actually do. It seems a bit weird. And how do I practice approaching in a pragmatic measurable way that makes sense?

I am so sorry to just jump like that in the thread and share something immediate about this topic, but kinda relates to op's ideas: I matched with this ladyboy a while back ago and on her bio she is "looking for new friends", and even though this is not what I'm looking for I still though why not, why not make a ladyboy as a friend just to get to know them? On her bio she out she's into philosophy, anthropology and she likes to create music... She's also one of the cutest ones I've saw. So she asked me back then why I matched with her and what am I looking for and explained to her just a platonic friendship, but it felt a bit tiring and like an interview so I kinda let go already. A few days pass and out of nowhere she just asks me "you want to hookup?". Apparently she is feeling like that lately. And she also said she wants sex. Man... My head hurts just thinking of this. If she just had a pussy... But she is a man down there... I can't... But such an opportunity. For the lore? Is it worth it? Man...

@Leo Gura Yes but what if I don't have any fun friend around to go out with?

Leo gura: 👑 You: 🙇🏻 Lol, this is just how the description sounds like you're praising your lord

@LastThursday interesting

@something_else Thanks for sharing. Don't exactly know what you mean by advice though

@CARDOZZO Yes bro I've been doing it for a while.... At first it did really boost my ego seeing a super fast increase (been on 99+ for a while now) and did feel good at start. I also matched with quite a few, but most of the conversations didn't really last. I don't really like some aspects about it - - it seems like some women here are just for attention seeking (especially the very seductive ones). - a lot of flake rates - just creates more frustration that out of all the incredibly hot Thai girls here I barely get a date because of such and such (maybe not the best texter, but still have many likes). And at the end of the day I could realize I've been scrolling on the app for like an hour or two and slowly losing my ability to talk to women.

@Leo Gura You can also not stop people from supporting Palestine. At least most people who support Israel are open minded enough to have a basic conversation whereas the people shouting "from the river to the sea" are dead lost

This is a complementary thread to the one of "what do you regret for not doing in your youth". I feel like everyone talking about their regrets can turn into a downwards spiral of dissatisfaction with life. So I believe it would be great if we could just give a moment to remind ourselves at least one thing we're happy we did in life. This could inspire to push forwards. I'm 23 years old and sometimes I think "I missed it..." Even though many would argue I'm young. Even when I see people who are younger than me I think of then as way too young to worry, yet when I was their age I would think my life is fleeting. So here are some things I'm grateful for: I'm happy I'm taking on solo traveling now (it's quite challenging). I'm happy to have had sex with 2 women in Thailand without paying. I'm very grateful for the awesome trip I had in Japan and for learning Japanese (really helped me). I'm happy to have met those friends from different places during travel. I'm grateful for having a more introspective nature, allowing me to feel more deeply. I'm grateful for having been exposed to music and learned piano from a young age and have good intuition when it comes to improvisation + having perfect pitch. I'm grateful for my analytical abilities, having math and physics as my strong subjects. Ok this would be for now. I can already say how while writing all of this my mood uplifted. As I was writing, thoughts about the things I still lack in came up, and focusing on them didn't feel inspiring. I think it's good to focus on the good things that made you who you are now. You couldn't be any other way 😉. Yes there are stuff I'd like to improve on, like game and talking to women. And sometimes it can be HARD to think positively of life when walking in a busy nightlife street seeing couples together, hot women all around and too scared of the proximity, men flirting with women, men getting attention from cute girls... It can be painful. I'll put that aside for now as it isn't inspiring. But I got a little motivated by @riplo

Ok for the first time in a while I've socialized with a group of 3 people that entered the room. 1 guy and 2 girls, all British. The girls are hot. I made some playful conversation (maybe felt like I'm trying a little bit). I heard them talking to eachother that they are planning to go out to eat something. They were sitting in the common space afterwards. I went to have a phone call with a friend and by the time ai came back they were gone. I was kinda contemplating to ask them before if I can join in but risked it might sound needy. They are only here for one night so I don't know. But I do feel a little good I had this little chat. I feel like my flow is returning.

Putting off self improvement for too long despite being exposed to it almost a decade ago - haven't really invested my money yet, started neglecting my body ever since an injury from workout, let go of my music ambitions, stopped learning new languages (was passionate about it back then)... I'm currently 23 and even though I know it's still young it feels like life is starting to fleet away. It's funny because ever since being like 20 life started feeling like it got serious every year and that I'm getting too old or some bs, yet as I grow older I view people younger than me as very young yet while I was their age I felt life was fleeting. I'm not too far from being in my mind twenties. You know what, I'll create a complementary thread

Oh man, just discovered the thread you made. I can TOTALLY relate. This is exactly what I'm currently doing, or have been doing. I also saw this traveling as a good opportunity for it. Thanks for sharing, it makes me feel less lonely haha

@riplo Yes bro

@Zenterus Last time I approached was like a month ago (if excluding this whole date phase I had). How do you warm up again? And also, would you consider yourself more of an extrovert? Because I kinda get this vibe from you based on what you've been writing. I feel like it is harder for me than most people as I tend to burn out fast from these.