fopylo

Same settings as last time, besides starting it at around 16:56. The reason for doing this session (yes, there is a reason) is because on Thursday I'm going camp and I won't be able to do it much there, thus I'm taking my final opportunity, which is why I wanted to make this a good session. Another reason is to "die" a bit so I can be more relaxed and authentic and easy going with my date (we will probably meet tomorrow) and the people at camp. I didn't eat much today and I thought this will help me to boost concentration and have better effects. I wasn't more concentrated and I got lost sometimes in thoughts. But I did make sure to always get back to breathing and to focus. I also got tired sometimes because I felt I'm overdoing it. There were times which were quite overwhelming for my brain to handle. All this oxygen, like I'm gonna faint. I was almost starting to whine and I was moving my body like I'm complaining. Bruh. Like I'm starting to question whether that's normal because I seem to be scared of the fainting rather than the images - and that's precisely because I haven't experienced any visuals yet from Shamanic Breathings. Until next time. Probably sometime during the camp, if I'll manage to make time for it

Wow thanks for the support guys! Anyways, I'm going to meat her again probably tomorrow at her house for a movie. This is getting me a bit nervous... Why is it so hard for god's sake! Doing moves is scary and confusing

this is fax, not only with relationships. Today I had my meeting with my camp (one full long day) in which we were kind of forced to meet each other because we didn't know each other that well, so we were constantly opening up and talking to new people. Your body and mind get used to this feel of seeing someone new and socializing, until you realize its actual fun, and you enjoy it - and that is more authentic. I can't say I was really authentic, but I was more loosened up after approaching many people.

Ok it was intense.

Fuck it. I had enough. I'm going to camp in like 10 days and I'm frustrated that I didn't manage to do as many Shamanic Breaths as I could. I'm going to eat a bit (didn't have breakfast yet) and then going to do a 30 minute session. I don't have time to start this gradual process of 15 minutes then 20, then 30 or so. I've done 15 minute sessions twice with a long period in between (and the second time wasn't even that serious). The reason I want to go now all in on 30 minutes is because I want to get those demons (you know what I mean, the negative bullshit) out of my psyche as quick as possible. Now I know that since it's quick and more intense it might be scary. I won't be surprised if it turns out to be a scary session, as long as it will help purify my psyche for the longer term. So the reason I asked this question in the title is for the case that it will be scary - How do I integrate it? Going to eat a bit, maybe visit this thread just before I do it. But I'm gonna do it, I've been postponing it for too long

Ok just did my 3rd session, my first 30 minutes Shamanic Breathing session. This one was quite intense after all. So the settings are the same as usual, besides it being around 16:45. (Jesus, my hands are trembling while typing this, and my back of the neck is hurting). Ok I made sure to stay focused and I tried to go as deep as possible (with my focus) "into it". As I was doing the breaths, it slowly felt like as if I'm going to faint (you know, this light feeling you have), and I was a bit scared of that. I still pushed forwards. It got to a point I was feeling like I could die and I tried to relax into it. Now let me clarify this bullshit of "relaxing into" this dying: At like 2 points I was whining like a little child crying for help (in my head, it showed in my breathing, like I was crying for help almost), and I still continued. There were maybe like 2-3 times that I had to slow down my breathing because, damn, it was hard for my body a bit but it was mostly because I felt it is hurting my physical hands. But I believe that it was an automatic response of my mind as well because maybe it didn't want me fainting here lol. At those moments that I experienced like I'm dying - it is like being in fear. Being in fear. For one of the first times in my life I remember what it means to fear. Most of my life I just try to escape fear. Being with this fear is something I've probably experienced as a child more often, thus I recalled that feeling for like one of the first times in my life. It is very obvious for me that this death = freedom. It is the ultimate freedom. It really humbled me, and showed me that I have a lot of work. But I'm so damn happy I know what I need to do - To practice surrendering more to death! To die into things! This is how I'm gonna be fearless and build strong confidence and do amazing things in life like I see other people do, to live from my heart!! Close to the end I believe I got a really tiny glimpse (because it probably involved some thinking) of death. Maybe not, but I was for a moment imagining how it would be if I were dead now (still aware, no fantasies, but I did have some of this 'deathly vibe' to be able to imagine it more clearly). I don't so remember what I experienced though. If I felt like a child whining crying for help while crumbling into my own breath (dying) while feeling this current in my body - I must fight the enemy! I am a warrior on a mission to fight the enemy! Who am I kidding lmao, as if I didn't know this all this time?? Ever since I was a child I had this intuition that one day I'll fight the ultimate enemy and be free, just that I never really knew what it means. And then I'd be shocked because I'd discover that - The ultimate enemy is me. And it will be the hardest battle ever, but it will lead to ultimate freedom - Death. (By the way I didn't have any visuals or any illusory thing)

Holy shit, I'm most likely to go on a date with her. This makes things even more scary..

It was a bold night. There is no single doubt. So there was this girl that had a party like a month ago, and there I saw this one girl (I'll call her N, as she will appear many times here) that was with me in elementary and we haven't talked in like more than a decade. It was very short but we seemed to vibe well. So yesterday night N had a birthday party. I was quite nervous. And, as my usual way of dealing with this I do some meditation before I leave - this didn't happen. And also, it's a bit neurotic. Also, usually I go with a friend to such things, but I haven't talked to this friend of mine for quite some time. I felt my dependence on him. I walked alone. with my own fear. Head up, chest and stomach relaxed, feeling into the fear and feeling my body walking. I felt independent. I called N to come out of the house because I couldn't find the place, and when she came I said hello and then I was like "wait, hold on" and gave her a hug. Quite embarrassing. When I got there I saw some classmate of mine that I really didn't expect to see, he wasn't even invited. But I then understood he was just the bf of some girl here. Me and this classmate were talking a lot at the party, we became closer than ever, like wtf. We hardly ever spoke and now we were talking real man to man talks. He was telling me that N might be into me. I wasn't that shocked. It wasn't the first time I heard it. So as we were continuing are conversations and the party and all that, it seemed she was very happy to talk to me and all that. She also showed me a tattoo she had just above her booty. I decided to do a move and go talk to her a bit. It was quite a long conversation and very interesting. In this conversation I tried to use some elements I learned, some of them from the book The Way Of The Superior Man: I was mentioning that I feel music is a calling for me, and that in any case I'm really trying to find my purpose. I was saying things like I like anime and I learned a bit Japanese and Russian back then (tolled her things that are quite embarrassing, shameful for me, in a way like I don't give a fuck what people think). I didn't give in (agree) to her ideas, but didn't oppose aggressively. Just gave her my thoughts from my truest knowledge. I also wanted to help clean a bit the floor and she was like "no no don't clean, it's ok, I'll do it tomorrow already". It was quite dirty and I felt we need to help a bit. So eventually I cleaned the carpet a bit even though she tolled me it's ok. It felt right. In our long conversation I made sure to make eye contact, and even sometimes to look at her as if I'm gonna kill her (you know what I mean). I expressed myself and the conversation was quite flowing. After almost everyone left, my classmate and his gf were lying on the couch, everybody was pretty much chilling, and eventually we decided to take a walk - me, N, another girl and the friend I mentioned at the start. I was leading the direction based on the beauty of the path. When we stopped somewhere, my friend and this other girl decided to take a nap, and I was quietly joking to N and tolled her "alright, once they fall asleep - we're escaping" lol. This is were things get really intense. When we came back we decided to sleep at her house. I was sitting beside N, who was already kind of asleep. Those 2 fucking annoying couple were telling me to put a hand over her. It was a bit pressurizing. I was feeling super uncomfortable. I wasn't able. Eventually I just laid my arm around her. They were chuckling. I was already dead inside. The guy tolled me to put my fucking hand on her. I took a deep dive and eventually put a hand on her. Oh my gosh, extremely uncomfortable. We stayed like that for a while.. until she decided to roll a bit and make herself comfortable and laid her head... On my dick. It was getting hard. At that point I was "fuck it, she needs to understand this is how dicks work". I made my hand more comfortable on her. So I am sitting on the couch, legs on an exercise ball, her head pushing a bit over my dick, and my knees and ankles are hurting. It's been like that the whole night. I couldn't sleep. She was changing her positions every then and now, and I as well started hugging her more, even stroking her a bit. She did the same. The whole night was like that. Now I was really really convinced she was into me. At some moments in the sleep I felt like I'm crumbling, the 'me' is crumbling. Oh hell nah. I ain't having this spiritual ego stuff right in the middle now, please, later. It was a bit scary. I for a second didn't feel myself. I didn't even know I existed. Forgot about myself for a moment. And yet I remember it the sight of seeing her. But now the question was - How the fuck do we wake up from this situation without it being embarrassing? And I, like the analyzer I tend to be, was looking all over for solutions. Tried signaling with my hand to people that were awake that I want to leave. EVENTUALLY some girl got it, tolled it to the best friend of N (who is my classmate's gf). She woke N up, took her to her bed, and I was acting asleep because I didn't want to deal with the embarrassment. Me and the classmate were left here. It's escape mission. I had to leave, and the man walked me a bit out. We were talking about this a lot. My bones are broken from this position. But at least now I know for sure that I can ask her out and I can be more relaxed about it, since it will be odd if she rejects. This has to be one of my boldest nights ever, and I'm so happy I faced those fears. This is a whole new world I'm getting into. Basically this whole birthday party was done earlier than her original birthdate because she is leaving on the 15.8 to her camp (I'm leaving to mine on the 26.8), and so she wanted an earlier goodbye. Shit. This is tomorrow. When will I have time to date her?? Today is the last day. I feel like I shouldn't miss on this opportunity. But I don't know what to do. I don't feel like a long term relationship, but I'd surely like to experience sex, and she could potentially be that first one. Bro... Like I'm so new into this shit. I've never been on a date, and I have no idea about the stages I need to go through for getting sex. Don't understand this role-playing and all that. I feel like I must have sex, but shit I don't know those tricks. Sensei, I'm just starting the journey ? @ivankiss But for real, this is kind of annoying. Is the universe doing this on purpose? Why is she leaving right afterwards. I mean, even though I do want to have sex with her and all that... I still have my fears - I want to make sure I won't be stuck in a long term relationship and will be very emotionally difficult to get out, I want it short term thing, maybe sex and a bit of talking. Also, the way things ended last time makes it very awkward to meet again. We were just hugging in our "sleep" (I know we pretended) and then she was taken to her bed without further more contact. How the fuck am I supposed to start approaching her after this embarrassing night. Fuck me..

@Preety_India No like he might be very conscious but is quite disconnected from the new culture of the media and he also seems quite attached to Indian culture. His teachings are quite airy-fairy and forgets that those teachings won't really help the dude who is suffering who is not the most conscious being in the world - it doesn't help him.

Yo but it seems like she's a bit pressurizing me, like I don't know, it just feels like that. I told her good luck with her camp, and then she's asking me when am I leaving to my camp. I feel like she wants me to ask her out or something but I'm so bad at this thing

@fopylo I forgot to mention I had some wet ass dreams, doesn't have to do with N. But more like boldness in me wanting to conquer my fear and live slightly beyond my edge, to get the sex I want.

@This Yeah man I mean it is really effective. But it's not so surprising once you realize that as a child sometimes sitting alone and being with yourself was very satisfying. Sitting by yourself playing with the floor, staring at the scenery - those were quite satisfying as they helped ground yourself and recollect yourself, center yourself. It is quite cool. Doing nothing is merging with the freedom, the emptiness

Practicing the do nothing technique, I am noticing myself becoming more free of expectations, but it hit me in a very subtle way that inspired me to write that. I was busy listening to an outro song of a series I like and it all sounded and looked fresh, almost as if I'm hearing it for the first time, didn't expect the rest of the music in my head. I stayed open to the unfolding of the moment. This could also allow me to enjoy it more and flow with it. I still remembered the song in the back of my head obviously, but it's as though I didn't let it confine me (?), if that makes sense... It was pretty nice and I felt more immersed. I let myself become more immersed. Because I practice becoming immersed with the void

I'm happy this is not the case. The dude might be very wise but he is also quite deluded and out of this world a bit. And quite boring to listen to him say the same shit

He said in one comment that he is between yellow and turquoise

@Mason Riggle Do you consider acting from resistance as "being yourself"? You could say that resistance is a blockage from a more true authentic you, therefore you're not actually being yourself. But you could also say that currently you're acting exactly in accordance to how you're supposed to, whatever the case is - Me acting out from resistance would be me being myself in the sense that I'm acting out from the resistance I created for myself. They both sound quite true but I resonate more with the idea that resistance is the blockage to the truer you. Both ideas probably lead to the same place in the absolute. But I find the second idea kind of pointless as for helping navigating the relative domain. I find that acknowledging your resistance/suppression of a more authentic version of yourself will help guide you into a direction of freeing yourself. I would rather be myself fully. For me to adopt your idea to affect my life, I'd need to really raise my consciousness to very high degrees.

Hey Danny thanks for sharing. Even though I'm not 37, I've also faced most of my life the issue of always being behind everyone. behind puberty growth, behind socially, behind with success (the last 2 are huge for me since they kept following me even when I felt like I'm finally managing to "ride" my life again that it pulled me back down). Counterintuitively, what helped me was practicing loving being where I am right now. Easier said than done and very vague, I know. For that, I'd suggest the Do-Nothing meditation as it helps to accept whatever is the case. Not to force yourself to accept because it is an annoying situation, but rather because it is really ok as it is. Sit with this feeling of your situation. Bask in it. From this point you might want to make some decisions for your life - not because of complaining about how life sucks, but from a place of feeling so damn good to be by yourself with yourself that you're like "damn, life is so good, what can I pursue?" All of those pursuits of things is a fucking game, a very fun and exciting game. And at the end of the game (or after you decide to take a break) you come back to yourself - The ever place of feeling good. You just need to slowly realize you are this existence in order to play the game. The Do Nothing meditation is what is personally helping me the best. Also, even after all of that. Find the uniqueness in all of that. Like, dude, you are the only person in the world that shares your story and all your life events until now. Despite your fantasies of how you wanted things to be, you are still experiencing a unique life, like literally. But the more you are stuck in those exact fantasies, the less you'll see that. Basically everything is really working in your favor by default, perfectly. All that is required from you is to see it more and more. It is a process. I'm also working on this process since I also deal with this. Good luck man

Sick! Too bad I'm leaving to my 6 months of camp exactly on this date...

@JayySur totally agree!

I am currently overseas with my family in Greece, and every time that we walk outside for a short trip, it's always my father at the front, then my younger brother, then me and then mom. What quite annoys me is that I am rarely after my father, as if my brother has some magical ways to just get in the second spot always, he's not even acting like a bully or anything. Now before you start laughing at this and call it "childish", I can tell you it's a bit deeper, it obviously hurts me and makes me resent reality. I think I have a belief that I can't be behind and be a follower. It makes me sick. It makes me sick to see how my brother is always next to my father and they know what's going on, where we're going and all of that. I'm so sick and frustrated from this neurotic behavior that I dissociate and don't pay attention to what's going on and the plans and all that. Escaping reality and going to my mind where I knit-pick things to hate. I'm sick of being a follower. How can I expect to be a leader in my life? I am totally clueless. It deeply disturbs me, perhaps because I know deep down I came here to be a leader

It's been a long time since I've read a self-help book, and for good reason. The amount of emotional labor I go through for just one book, the amount of mental dissonance, resistance, perfectionism is very overwhelming. I started not long ago to read "The Way Of The Superior Man", and it already taught me some new stuff and gave me some insights. So I'm still trying to find an effective way to read books so that it is flowing, that I retain what I learned and that I own the understanding. So here are some examples of my neurosis: I always check how many pages the next segment that I'm about to read has. Once I highlight some part in a segment, I feel I need to underline at least one thing in every segment (I mean on every sub-chapter, and chapter of course). It also causes me to get stuck on parts and think whether I should highlight or not. Both of those causes are easily cutting my flow. I don't take notes because I don't really know how and when. I'm reading a physical copy on my desk. How the hell am I supposed to write on a journal while reading. This will be so super fucking slow and I will understand less because I'm not in that flow. Back when I used to read through Kindle on my laptop I could easily take notes on the place, but even then I was kind of picky, making sure what I write sounds good, for good reason - I'm gonna look at it later. The consequences that arise are of too many highlights (not exaggeratedly), too many notes, and then of course I won't review it because I just overwhelmed myself. @Leo Gura You mentioned in your video about how to increase your results from self help (or the video introduction to your book-list) that you take notes with a digital journal. What journal do you use exactly? And how do you make sure you don't overwhelm yourself with information to review later? The more I read, I also worry that I won't hold all the knowledge in, especially in highly rated books like this one

@Leo Gura Maybe not yet for him

@Logan I just read 2 segments from the book. Didn't exactly speed-read, but read with more flow and got stuck less. I was always ready with my highlighter to highlight stuff on the go. Didn't work precisely as planned, but it was much better. I did go back a few times just to highlight something I was still thinking about whether I should (in like the same paragraph or so. Not like going pages back and making changes. It was more flowing and allowed the decisions to be closed closer to the present moment. Yes. Usually 30 minutes Do Nothing every morning and then 30 minutes mindfulness towards night. Today I extended my Do Nothing to 1 hour. It was quite tough but I felt it did something to my brain. The Do Nothing meditation helps me develop higher sensitivity to seizing control over my attention, making it more enjoyable and natural to have my attention be free and flowing; and also becoming more authentic by basking in this void of freedom, authenticity. The mindfulness meditation helps me feel more the existence of what's happening in this reality, reality itself, by removing the filters on my sense perceptions. I also feel more open to reality, basically I feel I'm merging more with reality. The Do Nothing meditation gives me the flow I need to read, as well as the sensitivity when I try to seize my attention (it literally hurts. Good. Now flow > control, feels better.) I didn't see yet Leo's latest video

Do you have a youtube channel?

@Logan Thing is that the more I work around and engage with a specific idea, quote, paragraph, (basically, the more I analyze them) the more I get stuck in my head, become ocd and try to perfect it and neurosis kicks in. I need it to be quick and simple. That's why the technique that most resonated with me is speed-reading and highlighting. Although I still need to improve on that because I will get kind of ocd on this highlighting, and maybe I'm missing something by not taking notes (?)