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@Leo Gura But your video was slightly confusing in the sense of the opening. You said there's the approach of coming up with they "Hey, I liked your vibe and wanted to come say hi" and then the opener of just saying whatever (observational assumption) like "you look like a waitress, are you?" Do I do both of them, only the first or the second? What is the most important here?

@Inliytened1 Yes of course and I think this is actually something important from the video. I want it to be congruent, to look at a girl and think "I would want to have sex with her", and not just "oh a woman, let's quickly approach". I would rather not sleep with a woman that I'll later tell myself that it was out of desperation and that I wasn't even that into her

@Leo Gura Bro this feels too much for me. I thought you said first to scan the girl and feel if you'd really sleep with her before approaching, and also I'm not that type of guy to joke in that manner. Yes I am for self deprecating humor, but not like that...

@Ulax Thank you. I'll try utilizing "warming up" before I go into a "set". Holy, just saying those words remind me I should start working out

@enzyme Yeah maybe I'll try something light. But really like when I came to sit in the circle ot was like Girl | friend | Me | Girl | Girl And the friend was talking to the girl and I was part listening to them part listening and slightly commenting on the two guys far in front of me and at some point I was already too scared to talk to these two women beside me. I just feel really nervous in group settings. It's like a combination of cold approach and warm approach because the group kinda warms up and dynamics seem to appear. If I am alone talking to girls it's different than when guys are around me - more scary and I tend to pretty much avoid female interaction and just focus on the guys. I might have been pushing myself a little for the last few days. Chatgpt suggested it as well because of the long fucked up sleeps and wake hours. And that my body is perhaps overstimulated. Even now I feel it a bit. I think I might be pushing myself a bit too much. This obviously doesn't feel super natural. People I don't know and I also made sure not to really drink. Maybe I'll go out with smaller groups. Clubs are nice when I feel like and when I know some people.

Ok so I decided it's time to be a bit more social. I attended some Christmas meeting at the beach at night through the nomadtable app (travelers create events and others join). So I met one of the guys before to have light supper and also to have at least one guy I know. We got to the beach and they were sitting in a large circle with about like 20 people. Problem was that they got some commotion going on because we kinda came late, but it seemed to affect me more than my friend. He right away started talking to the girl next to him which turned out to be kinda the center of attention. Crazy how a large group always splits afterwards into like 2-3 smaller groups and it's usually the girls are the ones to lead behavior. So like the guy that was more friendly with her became more of the center, and even if I tried speaking to some of the guys and it was ok, still I didn't get much attention like the guys that were closer to the girls. Everyone was kinda drunk and I made a decision not to drink, and so I only took a few sips if guys offered me a sip from a beer. Anyways, I left already. It was kinda hard and had no female interaction. The most I did is see a woman dancing with this glowing in the dark painting on her arm which is common here in Thailand, and I approached her while dancing (I knew she probably had a boyfriend and she was like in her 30's and just asked where she got it from. That's it. Lame. It was a bit tough and just cut away from the group. Don't even know these guys and couldn't care too much, but still

WORD. This is so true. That's also very cool hearing it from a woman.

What is not a construct... Look around you. Look. Sense. Feel. Appearance and sensation aren't constructs. Tall/short, hot/cold, loud/soft - constructs. A change in any of those appearances is a construct in itself. Direct experience = direct. Not a construct. Change = thought/construct.

@royce No. I will not speak up as in engaging with the hate and perpetuate ignorance like you wish to engage in. Ain't cool my guy, just doesn't feel good (like stomach wrenching from taking a shit). What I mean by hate is the feeling of intense or passionate dislike. Mentioned Leo to take a look and rethink if this thread (not topic) is even worth it. Have you become the chairman of authority to dictate what is right and what is wrong? Because you've subscribed deeply into some flashy beliefs about Israel, right/wrong, Freedom and Palestine.... Could you possibly be aware, just if you allow yourself to inspect, how this all leads to ABSOLUTELY NOTHINGS aside from a strong sense of injustice on your behalf - basically the emotions of revenge or anger? Refusing to acknowledge this just continues this loop cycle

Yeah let's keeping spreading the hate! Great job getting everybody engaged in the illusion and wrapped with biases @Leo Gura! Is this what you imagine heaven to be? Is this the good life? Is this called "Realizing God"?

@Leo Gura Yeah, relationships are about survival, but survival is also that brain of yours that is thinking and writing all of this stuff. Isn't it the perfect combination - Survival & Consciousness? Survival and consciousness... What comes first? Feels like the chicken and the egg... I might be really dumb

It's been a while... I have been contemplating a lot of stuff, and right here I'm gonna share some text (just sentences) that point to some stuff I've been thinking about. For each one it might hit different, and if you care to share your thoughts or even guidance, it would be appreciated. So here's the short convo I've been having with chatgpt: https://chatgpt.com/share/e288d5a1-f456-4b4b-bf62-2f80ea6d0609 Came back at me with some good stuff as you see (at least for "me")🙂

So I'm quite a socially anxious guy, and have had it for most of my life. Lately I've been working on it and trying to be more social, but I don't know why, every time I'm in this office room only with this one girl (or plus a friend of hers) it's always super awkward for me and I just want to disappear in this moment. Perhaps because of my anxiousness she tries deliberately to trigger me, but not in a bullying way, just teasing me as if I'm a child (like staring at me until I notice, try blocking my way, say 'shut up' or other mean things but in a playful way I guess). The humiliation is so disturbing that I become even more uneasy (more cold, unemotional, hiding) and I don't know what's the next thing I'll say and how I'll get myself out of the situation. It feels like a fight-or-flight for real. Today there was a moment that she showed me her hair clip, and I was so awkward, and she eventually put it on and I was like 'it isn't really seen though' (it was) and then she asked "it's beautiful, right?" and I was so anxious and I said in such a pussy tone "It is cool". I beat myself so bad for that. But I also still had to survive the rest of the day their. She chuckled and left. I had a feeling she would tell her friends about that. I don't think this is some kind of way of showing attraction, because I don't have status and confidence. Just a relatively good body, which I know doesn't mean shit to a woman. I'm not trying to hit on her. I'm just awkward and trying to play a role. Damn. I'd really love to hear your thoughts about this.

Yes. If you really watch his videos, beginning from the intro videos (at the Start Here page) and diving deep into the foundations you'll get so much useful theory. Theory isn't bad. You need a lot of theory to direct your actions. I think what you're saying is the problem of excusing yourself of action for intellectual theory, and falling into the trap of believing you're progressing. For that purpose I watch his foundational videos actively - not super fast pace, taking notes, reviewing them, and test them in my direct experience and connect the dots. There's still a lot to learn and grow. But you gotta start somewhere. But the main question I have is - why do you think that you need to debate? What's the drive? Are you here to try and prove other people wrong and show how they aren't doing the real shit, or are you here to have cool conversations with people, asking questions, sharing about yourself and maybe inspire people? I am not that well aware of the dramas happening here, but here and there I see your posts and you seem to have some great understandings that you share. After all, no one here really knows how the users behave irl outside this forum. But why the hell would you want to fight them??? LMAO 🤣 🤣 🤣

@mmKay What do you mean? How would you know what the video is gonna be? Are you working with Leo or something?

Ok, so I've actually been thinking for a while already to post about this topic. Do you know who the Kung Fu fam are? Apparently they are a family in London known for doing Kung Fu while integrating Dragon ball themes (they dress and behave like they're in that anime). They are literally acting as like their in a movie (an anime, for those who understand) and they seem to be living such a cool life. The father is like this Kung Fu master and his wife also does Kung Fu and they have this son which the father raises like a master and a student dynamic with lots of love. Here's a recent video the son uploaded, to get you a taste of what I'm talking about: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C607o1LolH4/?igsh=MTVqMWFpMGMwbnZmMQ== You can also view the Instagram of MJ, the modern Shaolin warrior @iammatjane. Ok, so basically where I was going with all this is that I get this bittersweet feeling every time I watch their family dynamic, like some kind of envy. They are so fricking cool, but I wish I could've also experienced this upringing, like wth?? This is what I'd define as an "in the movies" upbringing. Like I wish I had a dad like this. This dad has some virtue, focuses on growing, young in spirit, mentally strong, such a great person overall. A few years ago I flew with a friend of mine to London and we went to train with them. I still remember the feeling of seeing him first time in real life, exactly like on the social media. Yeah, but I really do wish I had this anime-like upbringing. Seriously, this is how raise a son with love and instill in him self esteem. Seems like a much better option than being raised by my super neurotic father. While comparing my father to him, I also wish at the same time to have the confidence to be a father like him. Not necessarily the same anime style, but just being a cool father who is wise, charismatic, and overall enjoys life to the fullest. Yes, if it isn't clear by now, he is definitely a role-model for me. One of the role models that give me inspiration. https://www.instagram.com/p/Ce5pqOmodXj/?igsh=MTZtcmdxc3N4MW9pZw== https://www.instagram.com/p/CXtBnZyI6ry/?igsh=MWJ5bXBpem13M2Z4dQ== https://www.instagram.com/reel/C1esGf2oeYo/?igsh=cjRudDVobnF1eHNr Father son Duo: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C2uv5qNIPbr/?igsh=MXhoYzA0aHN0OHMycw== But overall you should check out MJ's ig: https://www.instagram.com/iammattjane?igsh=MXg3c3p5bzY1d2ptcw== I'd like to hear your thoughts 🙂

@Leo Gura Thanks man

Wait wtf? How come before I saw that lots of my posts were deleted and now I see them back again? Hyeeeeewwwwww I'm glad they're back Never mind

@Schizophonia I got something for you:

@Nemra Totally agree. If you have the direct experience then you can be more flexible in the way you say those spiritual ideas + the whole idea is to be scientific about it (good epistemology) by taking in lots of sources and adding to it your direct experience. Going after 1 or 3 gurus that talk about woo woo does not make you more 'awake'. It's really about being in the "I don't know" zone and trying to REALLY understand in a scientific empirical way wtf is going on in this life. This also requires action. I am not implying to be of high understanding, but I have been humbled once (mental masturbation on Leo's more "advanced" topics and then got so frustrated that I left the forum for a while), and now I'm dedicating the time to study the foundation (in the Start Here category of the website).

I CAN'T FUCKING BELIEVE Everything got deleted😢 I had some posts I created that I was hoping to review in a later time period because I loved the way I described the insight. Fuck... But I guess there's a lesson to be learned: Nothing stays for ever, and also it can be seen as a new beginning. Maybe it can teach us not to get very attached to our posts?🤔

I watched Leo's introduction videos for self-actualization, which I think are underrated. I found them very valuable and super foundational before any of the more advanced topics. I am now really trying to approach self actualization with a scientific mind and really see for myself and understand empirically/experientially how all the dots connect and as a result to refine my big-picture understanding --- knowledge vs. wisdom. Here is a word document I compiled of the 4 intro videos: (probably at the bottom of the post) So I understood the value of vision - the thing that moves you into actualizing your life. So the journaling part about being aware of your current life and where you're headed, what do you want, obstacles, fears, availability - bringing more awareness about your life thus creating more 'room' to think differently and play with your thoughts to align better with feeling great, and here you have it - the vision. I did some of that journaling a few days ago, and now I continued it, but I've noticed that I don't have much motivation. Like eh... just did some journaling, but I'm not in the state of mind now to start thinking big and being all ambitious about life, which makes me believe you really don't need to be like that 24/7. It also made me believe that perhaps it's just a matter of time of observing my experience to better realize what I want and thus refining the vision. So perhaps it's ok after all not to be that motivated and that it's just a good thing I'm starting to be aware of this topic. What are your thoughts regarding journaling and vision? What does it mean for you to deepen your vision? What self-actualization techniques do you use? What are you currently focused on? You can also share part of your vision. I for instance just do 15 minutes meditation every morning and focused on calisthenics, reading and recently on actualized.org. I do often get distracted with youtube, anime, or simply daydreaming. intro.docx (I added some things that relate only to me above what Leo said so notice that it is changeable 😂)

@Ninja_pig I just copied what Leo said in his video. It's mostly for inspiration, but I get you on that having a smaller list can keep the vision more clear, and I might also need to edit it once in a while. Yeah, developing small healthy habits. But they derive from the vision first and foremost. Of course, because they are very unique to you, and we are all very unique and different from each other. But how did you come up with a vision? Did you sit with a journal and go through this similar process like in the word document I attached (journaling where you are currently in life, have been, are going, what you want, what are the obstacles and fears...)? Did you just make time to sit and do nothing but reflect on your life and 'poof' - a vision? Or something else? Curious.

@RendHeaven Oh wait shit, dafaq?? How did I forget who you were? Bro... I was just scrolling through some old thread of the faces of the people our of curiosity and then I see you but for some reason I forgot that this is how you named yourself. That totally makes sense that you watch him lmao. Wait, just in order not to confuse you with someone else, did you also say you watch anime?

It's been a long while since I wrote something. Hello again! I ask please not to judge me for this. For a very long time already I've had this plan in mind to: 1. Buy a certain course about social skills, and in order to do that I need to go open a new credit card (which means ordering the card through the nearest bank) and then paying for the course. Also to finish going over all the newsletters I've been getting from them. 2. To finish and be up to date with anime reaction videos (anime I've watched already on my own) of someone I am subscribed to on Patreon. He keeps releasing new videos that I just enjoy watching, but I realize that when I am excited watching him react to something that I found very cool I am basically wasting time I could have anything watched a new anime myself - which I really wanted to do and catch on already. So almost every day I check if he uploaded something. Now I'm making an effort to watch his reactions just to ONE anime. 3. Start investing money. I have FINALLY gotten the trading app for my phone, a comfy one. My goal for this year was to finish watching a playlist of like 70 videos of someone explaining about investing. I have stupidly rushed into buying some QQQ stocks because I think it might be good but mostly because of FOMO and that I am not managing to invest time to learn about investment. 4. Get back to watching anime. Boy oh boy, you don't have to understand this one much' but I haven't watched anime in such a long time, because instead I've been watching reactions to anime. I really want to get back to it once I make myself psychologically available from all the previous stuff. I know this is just a psychological problem. 5. Get back to music. This has been so long lost that it isn't something I think about anymore. I haven't touched the piano really for like a little over 2 years (basically when I started my job of serving the country). This has been a long lost dream, really. I don't have much emotion now writing this. The only reason I felt like writing it is because I really like to whistle and I know that I am musically gifted. Ok, so as you see, I believe I'm trapped in some sort of matrix. I have my focus in different places, not accomplishing anything, nothing useful about that. I keep having this fantasy of managing all of those together (like "once I finish this, then I'll finally be able to focus on getting on with the others"). I am really stuck. But you know? It's been a very long time since I've been here. I've ditched Leo and all this stuff behind thinking it is all delusional and mental masturbation. But after reading Yuval Noah Harari's first 2 books, and stumbling across Leo's video of Understanding Survival Part 1 it all started making more sense to me. Nothing fluffy about it. It was practical from the beginning to the end. And so I continued getting back to him, rewatching some stuff I saw a while back. I just don't want to fall into the mental masturbation and fantasy land making it a distraction for my problems. I am also thinking of planning the episodes I'll watch. Too information overload. With all that I can still proudly say that I'm satisfied with where I am in terms of workout (calisthenics), and that I can understand some basic Japanese from a podcast I'm listening to. Wow! Feels like a long time I haven't said anything. It has kind of a feeling to it... I hope to keep learning and growing. This whole awareness and survival game is really peaking my interest. I guess growth isn't linear after all, very far from what I thought.