JJfromSwitzerland

Do you guys think Trump is getting away?

First of all I would recommend you to grieve instead of looking for more girls and learn to be happy on your own...

that's what I did. I have a child now. She was on birth control - it's never 100% safe

We went to the gynecologist together to get the contraceptive, so I was there with her. That time we were seeing each other already for 2-3 months. No, having a kid does not grant a visa, getting married does....

It can give you a great sense of purpose

we used the contraceptive injection meaning she got the injection

right, thanks?! I think this dude just wants to troll or he doesn't have a sense of understanding what's right to say in which situation...

so let me get that clear: you watched a documentary and believe the guy in that documentary is from Switzerland and now you assume I'm a sex tourist in Thailand? It's like saying I heard British ppl are colonizers so you were owning slaves cause you live in London.

Thank you, I am in the travel/tourism sector/business and work at a small company. I'm pretty happy currently with my job.

Cultural differences play a huge role in our conflicts yes but also our characters or the way we handle things play a role. I am still in love with the mother and I try to work it out with her. Love alone is not enough so the bigger motivator is my little daughter.

Yeah Switzerland is a country that works quite well, hence I wanted to move them here. However, only I work, the mother of my child is not allowed to work here yet due to her visa. We are getting married tho and this should change. So since only I work and I have to feet 3 mouths, it's financially challenging, even in Switzerland as Switzerland is one of the most expensive countries in the world. My new life is completely focused on my new family now, it's not about me anymore. Before, I was travelling, saving money, going out, working out (gym and ran marathons). Now there is barely time for any of that but having a child is the greatest love I ever experienced so it's not all bad. I am gaining weight too as there is not much time to work out, however I have to learn to take care of my diet better. What also switched is the ego centric thinking. Before I was just thinking what is best for me, what makes me happy, how do I succeed etc. I now for example see like these social media posts etc. where people take themselves and their problems or their life so seriously and I'm thinking to myself, would you have to take care of someone else or other ppl, you wouldn't see yourself as that important. For example they post their workouts or their trips for likes and followers or here about their silly little pick up stuff and talk about their little problems as they would be the center of it all (maybe they are lol because you know we are god) but I mean it in a relative sense. The biggest life lesson I got from this is: No matter how well you plan everything in your life, be prepared for the unexpected at any times and then adjust to it!

yes, I am from Switzerland, lived in Cape Town for 3.5 years and now back in Switzerland trying to build a life for my little family as I lost all my money in a business investment that fail

@How to be wise no, not from Asia

thank you! it definitely has changed everything. also the relationship with me and the mother remains challenging but we work on it with a therapist

@Butters thanks! Everything has changed. I moved back to Switzerland for a better future for the child. I don't travel at the moment (I used to travel a lot), I convinced the mother to move to Switzerland with the child. I work full time so I can take care of the family and when I get home after work, I help around the house and change nappies, put the little one to bed etc. so the mother has a break or can do her German classes. Before that, I used to go to the gym after work or met friends etc. Yes, I was able to get a Swiss passport for my kid. It was lots of admin and required a lot of patience, perseverance (because in the country that the mother is from, things don't work as smoothly as in Switzerland) but we managed. Financially it's challenging but I have more hope here in Switzerland for the financial future.