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Yes, both party involved are PUA people, which means it’s hard to trust what they say. That being said, Todd laying it all out open like that makes him seem legit in this fight, who was the one being wronged - but he might be doing some ninja manuevering shit I’m not aware of as I have never had to deal with the court / law directly like that. Intuition says Nick Kho was clearly the biggest evil here. I always heard shady stuff about him, even tho he was the least in public eye. But Owen is as responsible, as he was watching from the side, the times he didn't explicitly do something shady.

Yep. That one seems obvious based on Todd’s blog.

You should have said crocodile juice

Even tho Owen and RSD had some great & life-changing advice throughout the years, be careful of who you take on as your idol / mentor. Pickup people in general are shady. If you feel Todd is right here and deserve justice, help him out if you can.

Stop right there! Otherwise, I agree, my daughter would be the hottest girl possible due to genes and upbringng as well

If I’m to ever have a daughter, I wouldn’t want her to fuck and be with a repulsive chump. I would encourage her to be with the most attractive man, that she can have and keep. That means NOT the top top guys, nor anything goes ”because of connection”. This is the most realistic approach to this dilemma.

Take me for example, I know my sexual market value. And it only increases as I keep developing myself. I will never have an average girl in looks or below as a girlfriend, no matter how great of a personality they are - because I know I can get an above average gf with green values. Is that dissociation with reality? Or is that aligned with reality?

Whenever we discuss this topic, I like to sober you guys up with this key difference: The people who have actually gone out there to try and meet women romantically in great quantity and effort, and the people who haven’t. From my experience, Leo is correct here. I know its not nice to see reality in such transactional way. But what runs humans guys? Survival. Everyone is out there trying to maximize their survival, of course it must be so,

Osho also most likely ENFP. Rupert is something completely else to INFJ?

I’ve seen it all 🤭

Ahaha you have no idea how happy it makes me to see harmony in my environment ❤️ Especially in a community where its nature is to rip each other apart and devour 😂

Such a nice vibe we have got going on lately here in the forum. Even disagreements are being handled relatively maturily. I think we have the least drama ever right now. And it has lasted for quite a while. Thanks guys.

I keep contemplating that, and I am more and more getting to a place where I truly face the dark reality (you are right). For example, let's say when I first started pick up, I probably got so many of those "easy" positive experiences that pushed me to keep going, helping me to get into flow state and spiraling upwards, which led to better results, better inner game etc. Whenever I had hard nights, I always got some "easy" approaches, that got me out of the negative loop. Gave me the easy confidence boost & extra training. This alone probably is priceless, when it comes to this journey. That would make sense. As I mature more, I come to accept more and more how much my looks helped me in this. My tendency has always been to be in denial of this fact, because I don't want to face the fact that reality is so harsh. All these beautiful visions of helping humanity come together and to live in a loving harmony... At this point, I know it deep down, I know that reality ain't nearly so generous. Accepting it is hard, because then ALL my visions will have to be re-shaped. But that's the price of this work.

@Leo Gura For some reason I couldnt edit my original comment on phone so I had to come on laptop to edit it, but here's the second part of the original comment: And if by hyper masculine, we mean men who are absolutely grounded and confident in themselves, aka no longer repress qualities inside them like their feminine side (what Emerald calls soft qualities), then you are speaking about the SAME thing. There, I saved you both 20 pages and 50 hours of time. Thank me later 🤭

Here we should remember to properly define terms, otherwise we end up talking pass each other like the 9999 times before. If by hyper masculine, we mean toxic, overly aggressive, try-hard, biggest ego masculinity, then they definitely don’t get the most sex.

Stop it

As a J, I absolutely need structure and organization to my day-to-day and schedule. I cannot live with pure spontaneity. But I definitely need room for spontaneity too. Perhaps mostly to be able to emotionally replenish. Highly empathetic / emotional sponge people problems. ENFJs are probably the most complex type. We are everything. On first look, we look like the most surface-level happy yay-yay charismatic social people, whom everyone loves. But we have a very deep side to us, that often gets neglected due to the surface level charm. Harmony between people drives us, and we are extremely people people, but reality is not so generous. We look like we are all emotions and intuitions - but we definitely have a very deep logical, philosophical, intellectual & spiritual side to us as well. We are generally very warm people but we can be cold as hell as well. Add to all that the work we do here at Actualized.org? Now you enter the definition of Existential Crisis.

Oi oi, this says everything about his self-deception. No leeways after that fact.

Brother, you are badly underestimating Leo’s commitment to Truth.

If AI, robots, mechanical structures serves the purpose of natural nature and humankind better than they do, then it is just natural to be replaced. Just like we replaced any living mechanisms that were dominated Earth before us.

@aurum @Emerald Think of it this way: The man has his life purpose as priority number 1. The woman probably has his husband and family on a higher priority than her life purpose - OR her purpose is the family she creates. This is the nature of female and male (generally). Males loves to go out and conquer, and to leave a legacy. Women are all about maintaining and investing into relationships, being present to the moment and enjoying Now. In this way, the woman invests in the relationship more than the man. I don’t see myself ever putting my significant other over my mission in life. And I don’t think I would be very attracted to a woman who is as ambitious / masculine as I am. Again, not saying she cannot have her own career, but we don’t necessarily need 2 crazy visionary leaders who are always out there conquering the world. And the mission is for me and humanity, not just for my significant other - altho she can reap some of the benefits of the rewards of the work. But only if she has put serious work and investment in our relationship. Makes sense?

Getting girls require more than just looks, unless you are really on the top 1% of looks. I am above average in looks and girls come to me left and right, and I credit that a lot to my personality and game. Looks definitely help me a lot tho, unlike what the dating coaches want you to believe.

You can push it in a healthy way, or unhealthy way. And if you sell yourself as a spiritual leader, people are looking upto you. You have an extra layer of responsibility to do things ethically.

No worries, as I mature myself, I find older & older women more attractive as well. I’ve also bumped into some surprisingly good looking women in their early 40s

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