Miguel1

There’s plenty of people focusing their work around the positive stuff you are talking about, it’s in abundance everywhere. Nobody is really focusing on deconstruction, to the extent Leo is focusing. That’s why he does it.

I appreciate your perspective but I think it is simplistic and reductionist. Leo posts plenty of ”positive” content, he has a series on How To Fall In Love With Life, and at the end of the day, deconstructing falsehood itself is Good, Positive.

I play football (soccer) 3-4 times a week, and dance multiple hours a week. I couldnt agree more. Not only as a way to regulate my emotions and to stay healthty, but man it gives me so much joy.

I don’t know exactly what you were looking for with this thread, but to be honest, it is quite empty man.

@Butters Yes.

@Natasha Tori Maru I appreciate it. Yes, conscious dating is something we definitely need to work on more and properly create for humanity. It is a passionate topic of mine as well. To be honest, most people alive right now are too immature and unconscious to be seriously dating.

Such is the dilemma of us actualizers. Virtually no attractive girl is into self-developmental work, because they have never had to. Especially for us more on the younger side, we rarely find older women more attractive. Which makes it even rarer to find a match, because younger girls way less likely to have done any self-reflection and self-improvement work.

Lets meet up when I one day come there.

@nerdspeak Great, thanks for sharing! Which country you live in? I live in Finland.

I’d argue very low as well for someone truly attractive to have similar values to us here in the community. Especially as they have not had to develop themselves too much, precisely due to their looks. Especially when they are young, and mostly they are young. Also, I have been spoiled with really attractive girls due to years in game, so that makes it extra hard to settle with ”less attractive” girls.

@nerdspeak You make great points. I am getting quite tired of the general approach style as well, and I’m looking to niche down more and more. How do you do that, other than via apps? How would one go about niching down in real life? Clubs are probably mostly out of the question for people like us?

Until one day you go missing

Aka, majority of people

The other side of the this conversation is that I have been with countless girls cheating on their partners. It happens far more often than you would believe. Dating is also different in 2026 vs 2016 and 2006.

Instagram / Vertical version out now. Go show some love to your boy https://www.instagram.com/reel/DUD8U-2ApI5/?igsh=eXgzeXVoemt3NWR5

Great thread. Hardest decision in my life in a bigger picture has got to be the decision of accepting the reality of humanity and how unconcious they really are. How hard it is to become more conscious, and how impossible this work can be for majority. With this decision, majority of my dreams and identity died. This accepting has been happening the past 5 years and only perhaps since a year ago I have started to develop a new identity with new dreams based on my new accepted reality. Fucking painful.

Remember guys, as moderators we have a responsibility to show the rest of the community how to behave and communicate, and how not to.

Probably my best one yet! It is just so majestically beautiful. Wow. Makes me jump from joy and excitement, and shed some tears thinking what is the potential here if I invest years and decades into this. Subliminal. Need to turn your screen to horizontal. https://www.instagram.com/reel/DT8MAiAAo-W/?igsh=dWUwMGplMG96Zjlu

Same

I agree with the other mods here. It’s getting out of control with all these new threads.

This is key.

Push-pull should be natural in the sense that there are things you don’t like about the girl, so you tease her about them or even push her harder away, depending on the things. Then there are things you like about her, which then will make you pull towards you. This is not a technique. It’s called being a high-quality human with standards and values.

There seems to be a lot of repressed anger coming out, which is understandable. I recommend giving that part much more attention. Perhaps you already are. I notice there are still gamey stuff in your list of no gamey steps. Things like seeding, consciously getting her to qualify herself to you, and to invest in you. Texting 2-3 days and testing the waters etc — all these are part of game. I am not saying not to qualify. But qualifying happens naturally when you have standards and are looking for a specific, higher quality woman. Vibe and feel her for 15 mins. If good, take number, with the premise of hanging out. After number, chat couple messages, then go for the date setting. It doesnt have to be more complicated than that. In fact, you could also set the date sometimes while talking to the girl, right there and then. Time and day.

In order to invite people into your events and circle, you still need to approach.

Today I learned a new concept in Aesthetic Intellignece: Aesthetic Sensitivity. https://share.google/aimode/Msdqj9LHoLQqCA2Nj - - - - - While we are at it, there is also Aesthetic Coherence. https://share.google/aimode/4kiieK5qw5va9HVu7