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Fine, but that’s because I have good social skills. Nonetheless, don’t try to get the easy way out and really just approach the girls.

What comment are you referring to? If you are referring to the comments I made to SeaMonster… Are you kidding me? I would go even harder than that to my younger self. Much harder.

Energy helps a ton, but you still gotta have the masculine & proactive energy leading you to take action, approach, flirt, lead. If passive energy was enough, Eckhart Tolle, Rupert Spira, Leo… would be drowning in pussies by just walking in the streets I have personally tested this a lot. I can approach and open girls in a club with my energy alone, without saying anything and create attraction - but I still need to be doing the proactive approaching and communicating with my body language. In daygame, this wouldn’t work. But even in nightgame, I’ve tested many times, if I just bask in my energy and don’t approach anyone, rarely someone approaches me. In fact, I’ve gotten better results to just go full on meditation (terraces), if you wanna play this game. I’ve gotten quite many approaches by girls this way. Nonetheless, you still need to proactively flirt, connect and lead her to bed.

Approach 1000 women.

Everywhere I go pretty much, including just seeing girls on the streets and malls when I am passing by (romantic friends). But I intentionally go to clubs to meet people.

Very good! Another one is starting a podcast for yourself. Just keep it private but make a podcast every week. Pros and cons to both. A podcast will be easier to start with, so you can just focus on your speaking and no need to focus on your facial expressions yet. Also, with a camera, if you dont know how to work it properly + the lightning, you can come off looking very bad, which can be demotivating.

@Jason Actualization @Leo Gura So I use these ones with a silicone protective layer. Pretty durable, I’ve dropped a few times and hasn’t broken. But this one is only 1L. If I were to get a bigger one, probably would break easier. The good thing with the glass breaking in this bottle is that the silicone layer would probably keep all or most of the glass within its ”bag”, so it would be easy to clean. It would just come down to how much water was in the bottle, at what spot does the bottle crack, and how big of a crack.

This is something you have to decide for yourself. How much are you willing to let pass? No girl will be perfect, and there are compromises in every relationship.

I have been using Glass water bottles. Is stainless steel better?

Here's the thing. You are going to have to sit her down and have a serious talk with her, but in a loving tone. Don't guilt-trip her or manipulate her to stay together with you, while not being with other girls, if that's not what she wants to. If you do, it will lead to long-term resentment that builds up over time, which will leads to a lot of toxicity. So really, try to hear her out lovingly. If she really needs the female sexuality in her sexuality, then it is probably best to let her go, since it doesn't seem like you are okay with it - and that's fine too. There are plenty of girls who will be very satisfied with being just with you.

You can be meeting girls, have fun and learn how to become an attracting man, without jumping into a new relationship.

It means nothing. You are way overthinking this due to scarcity. Go out and meet new women. Are you currently meeting new women actively?

I would say that there is a difference. And the difference is that you are not a girl and will never be. So there is no way you can satisfy that part of her needs and you don’t have to. But you are a man and if you are not enough for her as a man, then there is certainly a problem. Because then you will feel not enough. But that doesn’t seem to be the case here. All that being said, if you are worried she might fall in love with one of these girls and dump you for them, then that’s another story.

Very good. Then from there, the next step is to learn some flirting skills and you will be very far already. Obviously if you don't flirt and make it man to woman, they will friendzone you and it won't lead anywhere.

I used to date a bi girl and we went to hit on girls together all the time. It was lots of fun. I didn’t view her less of a partner at all. If anything, I saw her more as my partner. Maybe because I am quite social myself and love to meet new girls. My ENFJ personality type probably has a lot to do with all that. If you can’t satisfy her need for pussy and feminine energy, I would say it would be a loving act from you to allow her to be with girls. What makes you view her less of a partner if she does that? People have different sexual needs. Analyze out-loud for us a bit deeper. What are you afraid of when she is with other girls? Especially if you join her?

I see. Definitely build up your macro momentum first, and then slowly start doing harder approaches. More challenging approaches. One of my favourite things in game is doing more and more challenging things and slowly building it up. I remember my first time challenging myself to go open a group of 10 people sitting in a table, at the beginning of the night, as my first approach of the night. That was freaking awesome. But I had to build myself upto that slowly throughout months and years. Nowadays I don't have much stuff I haven't challenged myself to do anymore. --- As far as micro momentum and my mindset of just talking to everyone being superior - this is one of the biggest things that grew my game. There are quite a few but this one is def one of them. I used to actually have an ego about it. ''I don't talk to guys or unattractive girls because it's a waste of time. I will just go talk to the hot girls'' And don't get me wrong, sometimes I do this. But I def won't be nearly as in a social and fun energy as when I am being social with everyone and drop my judgmental mind. Try it. Try talking to everyone and give yourself time to warm up where you don't necessarily need to be hitting on anyone... see how your mind relaxes and expands, your creativity increases, your confidence increases, your flow increases... And suddenly those challenging approaches don't feel nearly as challenging. If anything, they feel freaking exciting.

Also the best way to run away from the work.

With his emotional negativity and attitude atm, he will most likely just get negative reactions and hard blowouts by girls. Which leads to even worse negativity. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy and a negative loop. He needs to work a bit on his negativity first before going out, because otherwise it will be a nightmare with his negativity. Why would girls want to be around such energy?

What would you say is your biggest challenge atm in cold approaching? Let me pm you about going out together.

Finland, Helsinki. Planning on traveling around Europe here at some point. And at some point, the world. Would love to meet ya'll. Most of the nights I go out alone. And yes of course, I approach alone. I make friends on the spot in the club. If I want to, by the end of the night, I know a ton of people in the club. Where are you based? We can go out clubbing if I ever come to your city.

I'll come out with you once I start traveling around Europe. But I must ask, why don't you want to go out alone?

Thought of sharing a clip of me dancing freestyle. It's short due to the forum's uploading limit but it drives the point of me knowing what I am talking about. The biggest key of my freestyling is just letting the music take me over. But I need to enjoy the music for it to happen. As you can see, you can hear me expressing the music very clearly if you properly listen to the music. Allowing the music to take over my body and mind is the way to let go and dance. combine.mp4 -- Edit: ahh I thought the video would be uploaded here and you can just watch it here through the forum's own integrated videoplayer but seems like clicking that link will download the video to you computer.

So, basically, you don't know what your life purpose is? Have you done Leo's course on it?

I love dancing. Have freestyle danced for 20 years now. Started with Hip Hop but have developed my own style throughout the years. By far, my most favourite hobby, since it also scratches my creative itch too. Personally 2 things have helped me the most. 1. Self-love work, inner-work, confidence work. 2. Dancing to music that naturally inspires me to dance. Music that I love.

Tbh, you sound depressed. Have you looked into this? I can almost guarantee you, that if you just go out to socialize, and take small steps (30-60 mins per night at first), you will slowly learn to enjoy socializing a lot. It will get to a point where it gives you a ton of joy. Most of my nights are so fun that a lot of times, I would rather take the 3 hours of fun socializing vs going home with a girl and having sex with her for 30 minutes. Now of course, if you live in a small populated area (which I know you do), then you are fairly limited. But even, then you can put yourself out there and learn to enjoy socializing. Also, you can work on moving to a bigger populated area. This is very learnable and doable, but of course it requires work.