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I think the biggest component in understanding body count is self-bias. Most people are self-biased by default, and this topic in specific is ripe of said bias. When someone expresses their perspective about body count, they're often expressing something about themselves, not a logical fact or a well thought out insight. Often, they're not expressing from a neutral place. So the real question isn't: "What's the right number?", because there's really no right or wrong number. Each person is unique and their path is unique too. And the number is subject to many different factors, it's almost impossible to draw universal meaningful conclusions. The real question is: What is this person trying to validate about themselves through this topic? Look out for the answer, cuz it will likely tell you a lot about that person.

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@Leo Gura How successful is he at it though? Like I'm sure he's way more successful than an introvert who's forcing himself to do some sales pitch. But still, I think he still faces lots of rejections. He probably just ignores them as noise instead of making him the core of his focus like us introverts tend to do. Is his success something that he does or possess? Or is it like something deeper than that? Like vibe? Confidence? What do you think is it?

Enlightenment!

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I think comfort zone is a better framework to consider here. You want to do things that make you happy, but at the same time you shouldn't want to avoid discomfort. Discomfort is just part of happiness.

That's ridiculous. And even I was gaslighting, my aim is to support the OP who expressed feeling oppressed. My cause is good, nevertheless. Even if she's purely asking out of care, the result is that she's disturbing the OP. Hell is paved with good intentions.

@Natasha Tori Maru 😘

@Natasha Tori Maru You're embarrassing yourself. Just stop.

@LordFall Islam gives you 4 wives and an infinity of harems. Kinda your ideal sexual environment

Be grounded in your own life and purpose. Focus on yourself. It's counter-intuitive like that. Be a source of value, and people will naturally gravitate towards you. And be kind when you relate to them. That's all friendship really is.

Regardless, you should never comment carelessly on people's private mental properties.

@Natasha Tori Maru You're clearly gaslighting. You asked a passive aggressive question, then doubled down. This isn't your first time.

@Ulax Much appreciated! 🙏🏻❤️

Yeah, I guess so. Any (free) recommendations?

@Olaf Yeah, I see your point. It makes sense. It's just too foreign to me at this point. The thing is that I generally find it hard to act goofy and loose with others, especially at the early stages of getting to know someone. I start out formally then gradually reveal my more informal side over time. My sense of humor is good, though. I can make people laugh. But that side of me doesn't get activated with strangers. I need some form of connection as background before I can tap into that place.

I notice that I generally don't immediately know if some girl is attractive. Rarely have I felt that initial spark of attraction. Most of the times I see a girl, no feelings, no attraction. For me, attraction often develops after weeks into dating. I don't immediately start fantasizing about the girl I'm dating. So when I approach a girl, it's not an authentic expression from me. I am literally doing something that I don't care to do. That's probably why the girls don't vibe with me, because my vibe is already off from the get-go. Is this experience universal or is it just me? Is my sexuality broken? Or is it something that evolves with practice?

I appreciate the honesty and humility in this even though I don't share those experiences myself. What's more likely, though? That altered perception creates altered conclusions? Or that altered perception creates more perceptual openness? In other words, are these 'woo woo' experiences a product of that perceptual shift or a result of access to something external? Schizophrenics have those experiences regularly. But they are pathologized and called delusional. Personally, I don't think all schizophrenics are pathological or delusional. I think we can draw some insightful conclusions from what they perceive. I just don't agree that their direct conclusions are true. I think the insights are deeper and more subtle. There's no may or may not. You did see it, and my explanation holds up My explanation is closer and more local in time and place. And we're like-minded, so there's no coincidence! Oops! I mean it's just a coincidence lol Why reach for some distant abstract explanations when there's a closer more coherent and tangible one?

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@Miguel1 I can't know for sure, but to me, it seems like your shell is tougher than your core. You have nice fancy ideas, but I don't think you have personally derived them for yourself. Maybe partially, but just not enough to be your core identity. This is what pickup teaches you in practice. External appearances over the reality underneath.

@Leo Gura Did you hold the world from collapsing while asleep? Or did you let it collapse and rebuild?

How we categorize it on a spectrum from absolute truth to mere speculation. How we prioritize it: Among other thoughts, which one takes precedence in sense making? Does it become the lens through which we interpret everything else, or just one data point among many? How much truth and credibility we give it: How much interrogation do we still owe it? Can we trust this insight more broadly in practical life? Or have we granted it trust prematurely because it felt right? How much depth unfolds from it through further contemplation. How much control we allow it over our lives. How fluid or rigid our minds need to be with it.

That's not true. I can only tell you what I like or dislike and hope for change. And I did that, repeatedly. I cannot control you. I never tried to. The most I believe I can do is make a suggestion, and it's up to you to take it or leave it. The difference between us is that you believe in this paradigm of control, and so you are trying to control my worldview, convince me of yours, shame me for not agreeing with you via name-calling and other manipulation techniques. And in doing so, you project your own paradigm onto me. You think I operate in the same way. Given that context, maybe all of your meanness was an attempt to trigger me and to force me out of my chill state, just to make me re-engage with the topic I decided to stop engaging? That's ridiculous! It was a genuine, humble, and balanced expression. I did not concede on this topic or on your lack of respect. I conceded on intellectual faculties. You are more capable than me intellectually. That's not a compliment. It's the truth that I perceive. Plus, if it's a love bombing tactic, then explain this comment a few months ago, it was about you: Also, this more recent comment in this exact same thread: You haven't read me correctly in all of your attempts. Maybe your psychic abilities are not as good as you think they are. Your success rate is still 0%. Plus, other sensory streams are agreeing with me, so how about that? No, I am well aware of my mind and what's going on inside it. You have no access to that. I am conscious of my own mind. You are not conscious of my own mind. You cannot make claims about things you have no access to. I think this is the biggest problem with your psychic paradigm in a nutshell. There is this belief that you can access other minds, somehow someway, via intellectual force or otherwise via intuition. But it simply isn't true. It has been debunked repeatedly.