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@Danioover9000 Yeah I also bought the life purpose course but the ego backlash and resistance are stopping me. Maybe I'm just expecting a magic pill solution that will bring back my motivation for self-help. But I really feel like I can't get out of this backsliding state. Was there any video(s) that really got you back on track or help you with counteracting the ego backlash?

@NoSelfSelf Like a properly mini-vacation

@Inva How? @kag101 Well I go to school and have homework

I don't remember how it happened but suddenly I was in an ego backlash, It has become to the point where I have so much resistance that even being is painful. I need to visualize my goals to get back on track but even thinking about doing visualization is painful. I've gone back to unhealthy eating, playing video games, almost watching porn, and almost quitting meditation because there's so much resistance invovled.

@kag101 Thanks for the advice I know Self-negotiation is a huge factor and I really think I need a vision as well. Under motivation in Leo's blueprint, he also describes that you need the vision to stay motivated. But when I self-negotiate on visualizing or working on the life purpose I feel like I am not doing enough.

@mandyjw That makes a lot of sense. Thanks

@Eternal Unity Properly around 6.30 to 7 hours through Monday to Friday and then Saturday and Sunday I have an alarm set but stops it and go back to sleep

@Julian gabriel Sounds like a good idea, I will try it out @Eternal Unity I just heard some of it when I woke up but felt so resistant to it. But I feel more relaxed now so I will hear it outside later

Hello everyone Here's my problem: Before I discovered self-help I bought a course on how to sell on Amazon FBA and started working on that. I bought goods and started a company but haven't got my products up and running because there is so much hassle I have to go through and I just don't know if it's worth it. I'm 15 as I write this and have already used a lot of money on the Amazon FBA course and goods around 1500 dollars and it just feels too painful to stop a lose it all. I know it's probably not a lot of money but still. Right now I don't pay rent or anything like that so it's probably the best moment to quit but still. I've begun Leo's life purpose course but I'm really slacking off even though I know it's one of the most important things in my life. Here's my question: Should I quit the amazon FBA thing even though I know it's painful and grind on my life purpose or should I try to get the business up and running even though I'm not passionate about it, make the money back I spend, and quit it?

@Bob Seeker True

@hyruga Yes

Just rewatched Leo's How To Stop Being A Victim part 1 video and I'm curious about how to keep the mindset for taking massive action because every time I get into the mindset after some time I fall back to my old habits or resist taking action

@integral For me, Mindomo also seems great for having a big picture over projects

As I have been self-actualizing I have found this accruing pattern that stops me from learning. I don't know what it is called but when I am unfocused or distracted while watching a video I don't understand how the techniques work therefore I blame and say they don't work. I think its a form of self-deception because when I do make myself one hundred percent committed I understand the techniques and are able to get out of my root. Does anybody know what is the thing called which makes me unfocused and distracted? (I feel like having a word for it I will make it easier for me to call it out)

@integral I have a commonplace book (Onenote 2010) where I take notes and organizing them but does that also include mind mapping. I saw something on a note-taking app that was called obsidian.MD and it had a really swear mind mapping/ graph view feature but I have found any plugin or add-ins you can use with OneNote 2010

@sda Yeah, working on my life purpose as I am not desperate for money will properly be the best opportunity. But in my mind, it seems like it will take longer to earn revenue from your most passionate thing because it could be a very specific thing that is maybe hard to market. I might be wrong though. And also eating a healthy diet is somewhat more expensive than a conventional diet so I'm afraid that my parents one day will say you have to eat something else, this is too expensesive (That might not happen but still)

@Megan Alecia Thanks @Charlotte Recently it was the negotiating technique on how to stop procrastinating. I have watched the video like 4-5 times and criticized it for not working until recently where I really tried to understand what Leo's advice was, and then puff I realized how powerful the technique is. The worst thing is that this always keeps me stuck because when it happens I'm so cut up in it that I'm not able to see it.

@Inva I will do my best Do you guys think Leo will ever make a discord group for self-actualizing people?

I will promise that (What I wouldn't do without such an amazing forum)

Ah-ha! Boys, I think I found out why it wasn't able to sustain any changes. I was missing the negotiation part which just created more resistance because I would tell myself you have to complete the whole thing or come on! But it also seems kinda foolish negotiating because I don't want to stay in my bad habits. Let me give you an example. Holding yourself accountable for the things you should be doing then suddenly you feel a wave of resistance and just wanna go back to seeing crap on youtube. I just feel like if I give myself some space to watch crap on youtube I will never change.

Oh yeah, and also I something about Sadhguru and Dalai Lama saying that about that you shouldn't do drugs (but that's a different thing) or something like that because it will just create more delusion in your mind.

@Peter124 I will listen to it very carefully to soak out all the wisdom @Snader Well I am 15 and haven't moved out yet but I think it would be very interesting to try psychedelics. I don't know if it's because of society programming me but I have some belief about psychedelics and that reality and fiction will merge when I try them so I won't be able to know the difference and just go nuts from seeing all kinds of things. Also that I might get a crazy reaction like a heart attack or killing myself or some shit like that. But I don't know

@integral The video is really good but when I try to do the techniques I feel a strong resistance towards them so I never really get started.

@Bob Seeker I will definitely remember to have realistic expectations @Elisabeth Well it would certainly be nice to get a business running but It's like my mind is telling me to stop the business and work on my life purpose properly because I've got expectations towards self-actualization after hearing Leo talk so much about it. "I have to work on my life purpose know" or "Right now is the perfect time to work on your life purpose". Maybe it's because I see life purpose as a very valuable thing so working on trying to get some money is a foolish thing. Or maybe it's because business is hard to learn and I would have to research and study a lot, therefore my mind says I should be doing life purpose because it's easier and there's not so much pain involved. I just feel like I'm wasting time trying to get money because our lives are really short so I want the most valuable things out of life. But for me to access the valuable things in life easier money would definitely help. (I don't know if it makes sense ) (@Elisabeth If I could I would change the title to "Job Dilemma / Uncertain )

@Bob Seeker @Ananta I already have the LPC so that's nice. In the LPC I just started the value assessment part, so let's say I found out my life purpose or something I'm passionate about. Here are some of the options I have in mind: 1. Online gig Then I could work on that trying to get an online thing going and get some income from there, which will take longer but at the same time be really worth it since I will learn more and more about the thing I am passionate about. 2. Conventional job Or I could search for I job where I am only working a few days a week, which will be easier but I would say that the range of money will be more limited if you guys understand. 3. Try the amazon FBA again Or I could research and sell a new product on amazon since I got some skin in the game from last time. For me, the third option seems like the "best" because I get to have more time on and my income range is not limited. But I know that negative thoughts will come up and tell me I should be working on my life purpose or something more important because I have this bias in my mind telling me that chasing money is not going to bring you happiness and I am wasting time. I know that I should not be chasing money for money's sake but I don't know if I am fooling myself into believing that money is going to bring me more choices like buying books and information products. (Do y'all also have this negative thought in your mind saying you ain't doing the right thing etc.) I feel like I'm stuck in this dilemma because of a limited perspective