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@Soulife96 Reality is the way it is. Was the annoyance because you believed he should be another way than he is? @Leo Gura yeah but if try to stop all thought and you'll have a whole lot more thought though.

Yes, you are the truth the lies are what you believed yourself to be.

You know the old crt monitors that were used before lcd monitors? Let's say there was a completely white screen on that monitor. Seems very white. Then you take a magnifying glass to each pixel to investigate the whiteness and discover that the white was just red, green and blue dots put together and together they appeared white. Ego is the white appearing on the screen. If you start investigating what the ego is then you see that it's just thoughts and feelings (and other senses) that one is identified with.

One could see it as identification = rigidity and no identification = fluidity. Ego isn't an entity that exist. It only seems to exist because identification has a separating quality to it. "I am the owner of my thoughts and feelings" which is a thought. One can still be identified with being the witness of experience. It's a half baked realization. Identified to being the nothingness that experiences. Which is rigidity and still separation between the experiencer and the experience. Raw sensation is when the experiencer and experience is the same, oneness. Experience implies an experiencer which is thought dividing the two but there is only one. Can one explain oneness with language that is built upon subject-object division? ?

Like @allislove said it's identification. I would also add feeling to it since the I thought can have an underlying feeling tone to it. Like I am bored or I am fearful, you feel the feeling. The feeling can be the base of many different thoughts.

What feelings come up when you think about yourself? Let them come up. If you fear to face your shadow you first have to deal with the fear. Which is meeting it as described below. Yes, like you say you notice the feeling and don't become it and you sit with it until it dissolves. The feeling will continue to come up but with less frequency and intensity until that feeling doesn't come up anymore.

Letting go is that you let your thoughts and feelings come up without trying to alter them or surpress them. Good job! ??

Like @Leo Gura said the body is conditioned toward survival. What you call a losers mind might have been a winners mind a million years ago. Winning then was about not taking unnecessary risks. Keep yourself in a well known area and keep out of the unknown. That is quite contrary to what winning is now. There is very little that is a risk to your life and meeting the fear of the unknown is a big part of winning. Thoughts come up with little to no control of them, negative thoughts especially. They are based on the negative feelings that arise in the body. You are the watcher of both.

Thank you! ?

You wrote this: You are free to do whatever you want. ? If you're not happy with you're life then change it. Maybe you are asking because you don't know what you want from life. I don't have an answer for you I'm afraid. What you could do is see what feeling is behind "It is difficult to accept", sit with the feeling until it dissappear and see if the question still is there. Usually we don't have a question to ask if we are truly happy. We don't ask I'm so happy all the time how can I add some more misery to it. ? By dissolving the feeling the question tend to dissappear but you'll be the judge of that. Hope this helps.

Great! ? What happens if you, instead of escaping to the easy things, sit with the feelings of fear and meaninglessness? Usually they tend disappear in 5-20 minutes but sit with them and see what happens.

I think we all can relate to the easiness of instant pleasures. ? Why does the "big things" that you really want to do seem so hard and the instant pleasures seem so easy to do? Could there be some sort of resistance to doing the "big things" and no resistance to the "easy things"? If so what is that resistance?

Yes life seems like a grind sometimes. Why do you want to run away from these activities? What makes them hard?

You meet the feelings of fear and embarrasment even though they are uncomfortable. As you said even thinking of those times where you felt embarrassed is enough to get these feelings to come up. So while safely and secure in your home you can think of those moments and let those feelings come up without trying to push them away. As you start doing this they might feel intense but as you continue this practice they will lessen in intensity and eventually disappear.

@asha176 What feelings are you running from? Meet them and let them go and you won't have anything to run from because they will ultimately stop coming up and what's left is stillness and love.

@Beeflamb The path to truth is seeing through the illusion of ego by letting go of egoic thought and feelings that arises. That's it. Everything else is distractions.

Yes and even that is saying too much. "No one" and "no owner" doesn't exist. It's a thought and doesn't point to anything within reality. Non-existence doesn't exist.

The sufferer IS identification to thought and feeling. To say that it's never been would be to say that identification to thought and feeling has never been. We can say that it's illusiory but to say it doesn't exist clearly isn't true.

Suffering can lead to awakening but nothing is certain. If the suffering becomes so immense that the suffering becomes unbearable there might be a letting go of the suffering. But why not start letting go of suffering before that point? Yes, why ascetism? Why not enjoy life instead? Learn to use the mechanism of letting go of emotional pain and transcend it into unconditional love and beyond.

@Vynce Nice to hear about your realizations. ? Most people are not ready to hear about these things so the best teaching in my opinion is not to speak about this but act from love and when they are ready they will come to you and ask.

I can't... is a belief. Believing that you can't might feel like hopelessness/resignation. Impossible.. Can you question your belief of "I can't"? Maybe you can turn the I can't to I am not willing? Maybe you haven't been able to accept the fear earlier but maybe it will be possible to meet it now or in the future?

@The0Self and every thought about yourself that you love. ??

@cookiemonster What a humbling thing to discover. ???

What is in the resistance? What feelings come up?

Sometimes it helps to turn the "I can't" to an "I won't". Instead of feeling helpless by this "I can't" there might be an "I can, but I won't" and inquire into what feeling is behind that unwillingness to go into the disgust.