Mindfulness is a technique that is learned. If you compare it to say, learning how to drive a car the first state is being totally unaware of how bad you are at driving a car (never new you were so focused on thoughts). When you start to learn to drive you become aware of how bad you are at driving (you notice how much of you life is revolving around thoughts).
After a while you've learned to drive but you need to focus on everything you do when you drive, shifting gears, gas and break etc (you are more focused on reality, but you still need to focus on the mindfulness technique). After doing it a hundred times over you've learned to drive without any effort (Being in the present moment now has become the natural state).