Nemra

@vibv Everything depends on how you define it. Maybe religions are having trouble surviving in this era. It doesn't matter how pure or corrupt they are; they are meant for ignorant people. The pollution starts when people who have some direct experience start teaching others without giving them the ways to do that or just by telling them. How can you trust that all of them got you? How would they know what direct experience is? That process is so internal that you can't prove to others whether you get it or not, even if you say the right words. When religion is formed on it, don't you see that the pollution gets polluted, no matter how the spiritual texts are written—with the same words or changed? And this is only the spiritual aspect of religion. A lot of religious people believe that they are the chosen and most truthful ones, but they don't really think through that, not even the teachers. Nowadays, they can openly tell others that there can be many truths, but they believe otherwise. Maybe in the past, religions were useful for people, but they were still dumb to the people who actually had the luxury to experience life more fully.

@vibv Religion can't exist without dogma. You have to be religious in order to have a religious experience. Those people cannot tolerate, from their point of view, such vulgar and filthy environments.

Nooooooo.... ?

@Incognito It's one of the best tactics religions use to keep their followers dumb, and it's how they generally survive. The interesting thing is that you don't have to be or act like a madman to get the same or "better" result. That's way more sneaky.

I'm generally easy and open to talk to, but I don't have friends. I love it and enjoy being alone. Maybe in the future, I will have friends. I'm leaving this in the universe's hands. I'm too selfish to have friends right now, and I don't want their selfishness to creep into me in the name of selflessness.

You can apply for a job as an intern and learn along the way if you doubt that you can make it all work by yourself, or for higher positions if you are more confident and actually know your stuff. If you haven't worked for a company and want to try it, you will get a bit disappointed because often there will be some repetitive stuff and other things. You have to be passionate enough or have a good enough reason to ignore the things that you didn't think would be part of the job. Eventually, that stuff would bother less. I think you should do some research on what Leo wrote and give it a try. Maybe something better pops up along the way.

Happiness is conditional and important to some degree. It works like luck. E.g. Watch some good comedy shows for a week or month.

Sorry, I hope you didn't think that I was attacking you. But I was a little bit mean. What I meant was that you don't have to be forgiving to religious institutions for not liking people's behavior here; testing their limits, going extremes, or else, which doesn't have to be what you called "cargo cult". Of course, there are people who do that; they tend to be religious. I think there are sneaky deceptions being played here. What's interesting is that seeing people here as cultish, religious, or something that is insulting to your intelligence at some point becomes your enemy; you start to use skepticism to feel how clean and objective you are, which to a certain degree is true. You start to become skeptical of your abilities because you know that you can be deceived, forgetting that skepticism might be part of the deception. And there are other things that can be said, but my head is starting to hurt (I wrote a lot of things but then deleted them; they could be misunderstood). ?

You are doing the same thing as the ones you're criticizing. Go be religious (which I don't recommend) and then criticize the people who are at least trying to understand their limits. I agree with you that trying to do it sober can get you nowhere over time, and we should use the tools that the teaching requires. But the thing is that religious people are generally in a much worse situation when it comes to spirituality. And the people who aren't using it are just trying to find out how far they can get (which can get delusional if you're not careful) without using it until they finally get psychedelics safely.

@Leo Gura Ok, thanks.

@Leo Gura Let's say it's appropriate for the ones who are the opposite, do the principals for men and women stay the same or do they switch?

Is the game appropriate for only masculine men and feminine women?

@Leo Gura Are all types of girls the way you describe them fundamentally?

Well, spend some time doing nothing. I have had days and still have days that are very mundane or enjoyable when I do nothing. Sometimes it is important to do nothing. By nothing, I mean unconsciously doing things, healthy or unhealthy.

Do they pay for everything for you? If they want to pay, enjoy as much as you can, but you will have disagreements, and they will control you for the rest of your life. Even if they don't actively control you, they will still have a say in how you should live your life. You can use that time to get out of that situation. I sense that you don't have a good relationship with your family. Am I right? If they are paying, then there needs to be some understanding between you and your parents.

Is that expensive for you? If not, why not? I'm not saying not to enjoy yourself and have a good time.

@Yimpa ?

@Sabth Do you expect them to help you? You can play a nice guy and deceive them into helping you, but I wouldn't recommend that unless you are being manipulated most of the time by them. But your time will be wasted on drama, and you could lose your mind if you don't have the energy and are not careful. Or Just use this free time you have to find and explore something that you can be passionate about or not, and find out how to be independent in your way. Or Maybe there's a middle way. Sorry if I offended you by saying that your parents are manipulative. I'm just generalizing. Although they can be to some degree.

Well, try not to be paranoid talking about that with your parents. If they don't support that, find other solutions. E.g. Work on your language. Be creative about it. Don't justify that; if it isn't this or that way, I won't do it. Be observant. Don't make yourself a victim, which doesn't mean that you can't be. This is just about being more confident. But still, you will have problems in the future. Even though I gave advice, I sometimes find it hard to act on it. It's just that I'm more confident in my problem-solving abilities. Maybe my advice is wrong for you, or maybe will you misinterpret it. Maybe a modification is needed. Idk.

Use the internet to learn something that you find interesting. By that, I don't mean getting into some conspiracy groups and watching videos about them, nor am I saying to watch some "scientific fact" videos on YouTube. Learn something that awakens some passion in you. Practice, experiment, and start using your mind in new ways. You will know that you are doing it when you fall in love with the process, even though you will be bored as hell at times. Or Maybe you need some time to relax and enjoy life. Maybe you're tired. Maybe you need to reflect. Whatever you do, see the reasoning behind it, even if you have already started doing it.

This video. Specifically, when he talks about love between him and God, even though I still don't know what God really is, I knew what he was talking about was real love. You couldn't not see the suffering he was going through at the time in this video, and seeing how he is being honest about how he can't or doesn't love himself enough, he found himself being more loved no matter what. I couldn't stop crying for days, not joking. Still making me cry. I knew that I was lacking love and had been ignoring and being harsh on myself. I have always known what love is from my experience, but I haven't heard anyone intelligently, authentically and deeply describe love until that day. That video changed the trajectory of my life. For that, I am eternally grateful.

Yann Tiersen is a genius. ❤️

Sorry, I thought that I could be of help, but I was wrong.

@mr_engineer Well, that's life. You can't act the same way in every situation. Not even the way others do. I think a more deep solution to this is to be honest with yourself all the way. And being asshole or nice just becomes the way we choose to be. I think the more we detach ourselves from being them, the more we can authentically be them in different situations. And then some people will lean into being assholes or nice without judging the opposite for being themselves.

@mr_engineer You can be authentic and lie to or keep secrets from others about yourself. I don't think people here, by being assholes, mean to treat people badly or give a harsh response all the time.